Taboo fetishes: Do you have any? What do you consider taboo?
Taboo fetishes: Do you have any? What do you consider taboo?
First, let's not split hairs over what is and isn't a fetish. If you consider yourself very into somethingets call that a fetish for the sake of this particular conversation. So like if someone asks you "boobs or ass" and you says "ass" that's not a fetish, but if you think You're into ass more than the average person then let's say that's a fetish. I think some folks may define it as being extremely into something and only that thing. Let's not use that definition for this thread. It's fine if you disagree about how I'm using the term, I just want to be clear about what I mean when I use it here.
The other night I was with friends and someone said they know folks with fetishes that "not even the CIA could get them to admit to" so I'm expecting them to say something horrifying. One of the next things they said was "I don't know anyone with a foot fetish who isn't straight." To be fair, it wasn't necessarily them saying a foot fetish is something that warranted keeping a secret even under a CIA interrogation (I know it is a figure of speech, but still I'd expect something disgusting like scat). After they said that I joking was like "yeah totally, me neither, I don't know anyone into feet" thinking it was obvious I was saying I was into feet. They didn't really pick up on it.
So eventually they got that I was saying I was and I explained it. It feels like the "Joker meme" where it's like "someone says they're really into boobs or ass and nobody bats an eye, say you're into feet and everybody loses their goddamn mind." I explained how it feels weird to be able to comment on cleavage looking good or tight jeans looking good but how is that any different than saying shoes make a foot look sexy?
They asked me why I think people want to hide foot stuff specifically. I have a good answer because I specifically am not into all foot things. A lot of foot fetish stuff you see out there is like "dirty feet" stuff. Like a degrading "I'm making you lick my sweaty toes I haven't washed." And while I like some dom sub stuff, to me that's just gross. The same way I would want to wash my dick if I knew someone was going to suck it. I don't think folks are wrong for that, it's just not what I'm into. And to me that's a very gross kink (no offense). So for me I don't want people to think I'm into that. In addition, a lot of people just view feet as always dirty. Because honestly they usually are, they're not wrong.
But it got me thinking -- having someone sit on your face feels very in vogue right now. It's talked about a lot in horny memes. It's odd to me that folks view that as more okay. You're close to an asshole. A pretty nasty body part. When people say they like ass they usually don't mean assholes, but yet face sitting's Overton window seems to be shifting to be more acceptable to talk about. But it feels like telling someone "I want someone to step on me" which is extremely similar to "sit on my face" feels way more taboo. People joke about both but it seems folks are more serious about the face sit one.
So my question is, what are some taboo fetishes you have and where do you think the line of taboo is?
To me someone face sitting feels just as kinky of a fetish as wanting to be stepped on or given a foot job but for whatever reason feels way less taboo.
I want to fill women up with eels
This definitely feels like a fetish and also definitely feels like it crosses the taboo line. Assuming you're not just shit posting (lol), are you interested in using eel shaped toys with a partner or is it just a fantasy?
Sounds like a tentacle fantasy to me.
Well, fuck. That's.. something.
Something I like that's unconventional yet not really taboo is pregnancy.
I like the idea of having had sex with a pretty girl and then doing it again when she's carrying my child. I'm not sure exactly why, but I suppose it's something built into people naturally? The pregnant physique is just very appealing to me, yet a similar physique from overeating is something I don't like at all. It's very strange.
I don't think it's unconventional or taboo at all, it's one of the most direct/obvious/hard-wired-in-to-humans turn-ons there is. If you like anything about women, femininity, pregnancy is the ultimate hyper-feminine trait. Engorged breasts, nurturing life, it's kind of what we're built to be attracted to. I had a vasectomy but my wife and I are both in to the idea of breeding - just never the idea of actually having kids.
I don't think there is much overlap between "physique from overeating" and pregnancy kink content - they just look different. Part of the pregnancy bump is that it looks out of scale with the rest of the body. That's part of what marks it out, so it's the part that speaks to your lizard brain. BBW/chubby content is also totally a thing and also valid, but I think it's talking to something else, at least in the brains of people who are attracted to women.
As for things I've actually done and am really into, definitely anal and choking, both of those really work for me! For stuff that gets me off to fantasize about or in porn that I haven't done or wouldn't do, Daddy/Daughter stuff and rough CNC really do it for me.
I'm not into Daddy/Daughter so I can't really say, but does it feel similar to how people call their partner daddy/mommy to you? Like I can get down with calling my wife "mommy" but she doesn't like it so I don't call her that. But even for me it's just the mommy aspect, her calling me son or a child feels weird. That's not part of it for me.
I mention is because this is a good example of what I was trying to describe in the past. To me, someone saying "I have a daddy kink" or "I want to be called daddy" all feel much less taboo than "I have a daddy/daughter kink". I guess because it feels similar to pedophilia (I'm not saying it is, just trying to work out why I think people would treat it as taboo). That said, as a man being called "daddy" by a woman is basically them saying "I'm your daughter" in a sense but it feels like folks don't want to treat it the same.
I regularly call my partner "Daddy" during sex, I don't know if it's got that same kind of connotation for other people but it definitely does for me. I feel like for most people it's more just a superficial thing, where for me it's pressing a button much more deep down if that makes sense?
Ooof.
Ok. Okay. Okay okay okay.
This thread is making me realize how much of a sick fuck I am. So there are a very great many things considered "taboo" that I have used as jerk-off material more than once. The question is not that, though, the question is what you're in to, to the point of honestly considering it a fetish. To me, a fetish is something that significantly increases your enjoyment of sex or consuming sexual media. It should be something that gets you off way faster than vanilla sex does.
So in no particular order, here are my fetishes
1. Felching: Specifically, anal felching between women as part of a three(or more!)-some. If you don't know what felching is, it's the act of sucking semen out of someone else's orifice, and spitting/swapping/otherwise transferring the semen from the felcher's mouth to the felchee. I love it so much.
2. Ass to mouth or other girl's mouth: Of all my fetishes, this seems to be the one that's most common and perceived as the most "normal". I kind of wonder sometimes if this wasn't me seeking felching without knowing it, but I still seek it specifically sometimes.
3. Incest: I mean real incest between family members, btw, not this worthless step-shit that has filled up all the normie sites. Verifiably related people, the closer the better, fucking each other. Oddly, the easiest to find seems to be twin girls having lesbian sex, whether as part of a group thing or just them.
4. Forced orgasm: I don't know why, but I absolutely love to see a woman (or sometimes a man, depending on body type) restrained and forced to cum over and over until the line between pleasure and torture is entirely erased, along with the poor victim's mind and power of speech.
5. Facials: I love seeing a woman's face covered in cum, but not completely like in bukkake. More of the /r/cumsluts variety, where a beautiful woman has a more moderate amount of cum on her face and a sexy expression. Bold, smug, satisfied, and laughing are my favorites, but anything that shows enjoyment or enthusiasm is a winner.
What do I consider taboo? For me that's the same question as "what sexual acts are immoral or unethical?" My answer to that is the same criteria that the BDSM folks follow: anything that visibly is not safe, sane, and consensual.
I'm into forced orgasms as well. I think it feels taboo because it is difficult to explain to people that it is consensual. Like, "That looks and sounds like rape, what do you mean it is consensual? If it's consensual it isn't forced, what do you mean forced?"
About incest though, it's interesting the way you phrase it, would you be interested in doing consensual stuff with your closely related family or is it only witnessing closely related people being sexual that is fun for you?
Sorry for the long delay in response, this is my porn alt and so I don't check it as often as my main account. To answer your question, I used to think I might enjoy it, but at this point I realize it would have utterly destroyed my entire family. I still very much enjoy watching, such as the Dellai twins.
There's a subcommunity of the smoking fetish of people who get off on the damage smoking causes all the way up to early death from cancer and emphysema - I have a huge smoking fetish myself but going that far is taboo even for me
Health and safety are definitely a pretty clear line for when fetishes become taboo. Like if someone is into choking that's one thing, but if they want to pass out that feels disturbing.
That is a good line, the possible vagueness comes in the degree of risk maybe. Both smoking and choking are risky acts no matter what, but at least the source of the fetish isn't (or doesn't have to be) the harm
I mean I’ve got a sissy fetish, that ones pretty taboo
Honestly, me too a little.
Definitely not something many people desire I’ve come to learn
I draw a few distinctions. There are "taboo" things which is just anything you can't bring up in front of your grandma (you know, anything except sex in the missionary position with the lights off with the sole purpose of procreation), which is kind of where any political discussion of sex has sat for a long time. Anything else is just "whatever you do in your bedroom" and exists in a box over there somewhere no one really wants to dig in to.
Anything that would be hazardous to someone's physical or mental health to practice IRL is taboo for me. Scat play, pretty much anything to do with needles, rape or other non-con where the target is being harmed or held at gunpoint or knifepoint. Sexualizing minors, sexualizing animals. Anything like this. Not that anyone should be outright shamed/shunned but I think indulging anything here is potentially dangerous to at least some degree.
Then there's stuff I just don't really understand but is so kind of off the deep end that I don't necessarily think it's hurting anyone - I just don't get it. Giant people, vore, insects or spiders, super inconvenient sex organs (like the size of cars). Most other things, even "alternative" or unusual/taboo kinks like body mods, dominance/humiliation via bodily functions i.e. urination, tentacles, futa/shemales, latex, mind control, all that stuff at least makes sense to me even if I'm not in to it.
The one that's hard for me to address is incest. I'm not personally in to incest, practicing it IRL seems like it would be insanely harmful to the mental well-being of everyone involved, yet it's like the biggest kink by content volume on the major porn video sites. I can't really wrap my head around it, but considering how ubiquitous it is while also recognizing most of this content is literally just captioned in this way and no other effort is made to make it "about" the kink, I think ultimately it's less about anyone fantasizing about any specific (real or theoretical) person in their life, and instead fantasizing more broadly about someone they would simply have easy access to and is therefore about the literal incest and more about the convenience of... idk, state sponsored GF's or whatever else. Jury's out on incest for me.
Interestingly your example of "gross" feet is I think a crossover of something that's totally unrelated to the body part specifically, and part of a broader kink that involves e.g. smothering in sweat after a workout, cleaning a dirty partner in unsavory ways/ways our brains tell us we know we shouldn't do because we'll get sick. Even I think "omarashi" or however you spell the farting/gas kink is kind of wrapped up in this. It's just taking stuff that our bodies do, we know it's gross, and sublimating it in to kink territory, even if it's actually unsafe (however mildly) to indulge in. There can also be a dominance/humiliation aspect here, which again can be detached from both feet and bodily fluids.
I find it interesting you call out facesitting. I think as peoples' hygiene has improved, we've realized you know, the vagina is just a place on the body. The asshole is just a place on the body. If they're clean, they're not unhealthy to play with, and you can get a lot of pleasurable sexual mileage out of both. So if you're clean, why should cunnilingus be taboo? Or even eating ass for that matter? It takes some prep, but so does anal. And if cunnilingus is okay, why shouldn't facesitting be, since it's essentially just a specific orientation/arrangement of cunnilingus. Again there can be a "dominant female" attachment to it if you want, and there can be a gross-out/dirty factor too, but those are both independent things that you can choose to involve in the kink or not.
To be fair most of the "incest" is very soft incest. Step sibling stuff that effectively removes the taboo aspect by taking the concerning part out. I don't think anyone with the kink is there for that.
Personally incest I can personally relate to is off limits. I have the advantage of not having sisters so I don't really have a real life equivalent to make it weird to me.
I think you're pretty accurate on the incest stuff, at least for me. Which is probably also why the "step-sis" stuff is so popular. I think for a lot of people the literal blood relation isn't necessarily the important part. It's the shared secrecy, sneaking off, hiding, being quiet, the easy acces to someone of your preferred sex right next to your own bedroom without the strings of a relationship attached.
By the way, 'omorashi' is the Japanese word for wetting yourself. It's a desperation and pee fetish, it has nothing to do with farting. (Although it does seem those fetishes go hand-in-hand a lot.)
Re: incest
You make a good point about most incest porn not feeling very incesty. I watch it sometimes but only specific types. I'm into dom sub stuff. A lot of it out there tends to be super hard and over the top. A lot of step mother incest porn tends to hit the same notes of the dom sub stuff but in a gentler way. That they're supposedly a family is not part of it for me. It's more the kinkiness of someone taking advantage of you that has a trusted position of authority over you. Like if it was a boss and employee I'd still enjoy it. The content tends to be more gentle in the domination than content tagged as BDSM. There you find stuff like people tied up. I like that too but a variety is nice.
I think the major one for me is a pee fetish. Although for me it's totally different from the dom/degrading kind.
To me it's combination of the intimacy and the feeling of relief and warmth. It's also something that's stuck with me from very early experimentation.
Like in a relationship or hook-up it's intimate to touch each other and have sex, but that's "normal". I think being comfortable enough to pee in front of or on someone or wet yourself is even more intimate because of the taboo on it. It's a vibe of complete trust and no judgement, just letting go, literally.
Probably because of that I'm also not really into any of the pee stuff that's involves the face, or drinking and such. Too much the degrading kind.
I totally see what you mean. When my wife and I first started exploring kink she was hesitant. Willing but hesitant. Her feeling comfortable enough to do aggressive, degrading, or painful things to me is a major turn on in part because of the intimacy.
Yeah the first time my girlfriend wet herself in her sweatpants while straddling me, kissing and making out while in my lap, I just... it gave me such a strong surge or warm tingly feelings inside; trust, love, a really strong connection. Knowing she felt comfortable and safe enough to allow herself to be that vulnerable with me.
Nothing to do with anything degrading or dirty for me.
I guess the closest to that is that I sometimes go down on her after she's just peed. Not really something that happens on purpose, but sometimes in the morning waking up she's got to go pee. And then back in bed we get to playing. And there's a bit of a subby angle to me eating her out while still smelling a bit of pee on her. But in general that's not the main attraction of the kink for me.