[Trigger Warning] Fawning Causes Abusive, Toxic Relationships for Autistic People
[Trigger Warning] Fawning Causes Abusive, Toxic Relationships for Autistic People
The trigger warning is because the topic can be emotionally heavy for autistics since it talks about the social abuse autistics endure and how we react to it by masking. The guy has an apparent justifiably angry tone throughout the video. Otherwise, I think it is fine and there are no sensory issues to worry about.
For those that downvoted, I would like to know why. Why did you think that it should not be seen by others?
I'm intrigued about the downvotes. I don't feel strongly one way or the other yet but it's anyone able to explain the negative response?
I'm OP, and I would like to know too. I thought it was an insightful and impactful video. I wish downvoters would say what they don't like about it rather than just be passive about it.
I would also like to know. It's a problem I have and I've planned to try to watch this (I'm not one to just click on something making noise at me without preparation). Should I try and research this elsewhere (I prefer text anyway). Suggestions welcome.
The trigger warning is about autistic people being abused. It is relatively fine sensory-wise, though the guy is justifiably angry when discussing the topic. I put the trigger warning because it was an emotionally heavy topic for me, so I wanted to let others know that it was not easy.
This kind of fits the recent uptick in negative and plain dismissive comments in this community. I feel like there could be a "tell us whats bothering you" chat either on a pinned post or something like that. Some people might be trolls but if this happens a lot it might need honest questions for feedback.
Besides that I dont get it either. I dont watch mental health videos in the evening so I cant say if the video is bad but orion kelly is actually pretty popular. Youtube is kinda bad but also no reason to downvote.
This kind of fits the recent uptick in negative and plain dismissive comments in this community. I feel like there could be a “tell us whats bothering you” chat either on a pinned post or something like that. Some people might be trolls but if this happens a lot it might need honest questions for feedback.
Yes! I'm wondering if there is a connection with the recent post the mods made on the age restriction, and it is causing underage users to be upset with the community, so they are understandably acting out on it as if we pushed them away, they are not good enough, bad, or something like that. Also, this post led to some antagonistic discussions and a reminder of the rules of the community.
Looked up what "fawning" meant, never heard that word before
praising someone too much and giving them a lot of attention that is not sincere in order to get a positive reaction
Haven't watched the video so I'm unsure of the context, whether it's about a neurotypical as the recipient of fawning, or a neurotypical fawning another individual
It's similar. It argues that masking among autistics is fawning because it's hiding who they truly are to please others. Their masking of being uncomfortable with sensory processing, being ostracized, and pretending to be okay with things...the author states that is fawning. I'm OP, and I thought is was a great video that I really needed to watch, and I believe it will help me in the long run. I can summarize more of the video if you would like.
I saw part of this video and I can very easily imagine that it would allow narcissists to seek out people they can exploit. It's also annoying to other people. Excessive "people pleasing" can come across as desperate or annoying.
it would allow narcissists to seek out people they can exploit.
They totally do. It's sad that there are people like that, but it's true. Narcissists 100% go hunting for autistics to develop that sense of power they need to have.
I wouldn't say that it's specific to autistic people, but narcissists go looking to anyone who has qualities that they can exploit. This includes autistic people who cope by being narcissists and exploiting other people who they see as lesser then them.
My wife has a creepy uncle who probably has autism and is in denial about it and he copes by being extremely judgmental and constantly puts other autistic people down. My sister was diagnosed with autism before transitioning and he would constantly make fun of her for being a virgin before she transitioned.
I couldn't get through the video... it could really use some heavy editing. He easily spent the first half of the video just saying the same thing over and over without really saying much of anything.
Watching it at 1.5 speed helped immensely.