My parents wanted to save for college however they had 4 kids and didn’t make enough to be able to save enough money for each kids.
By the time I was leaving for college they had 100k saved up for us, 25k each however that wouldn’t be enough for me and they wanted me to not have to take out loans so we had an agreement that they would use all the money had to help pay for my college
By the time my younger siblings started college, I would have a job and since I used their money, I would be expected to pay what ever my parents couldn’t afford of their tuition up to 6k a school year, which would equal 25k per kid
I didn’t want to go into debt and so I agreed,
My parents continued to save, and for the next kid they were able to save enough each year that I didn’t need to contribute
This year I now have 2 siblings in college, and my parents are missing 5k this year to cover my siblings schooling
They came to me asking for the 5k, while i have a job and earn enough, I’m now married and my partner and I both have plans for our future and kids, and since our finances are shared we both couldn’t come to an agreement therefore we’re choosing not to give my siblings the 5k
When I told my family this, they were mad, saying that it’s what I agreed to and they are now calling me selfish and entitled as well as other things, I told them that I didn’t make them give me the money and that the siblings could easily work or take out a loan.
My parents are still mad but my siblings took it to an extreme. They are refusing to talk to me. They blocked me and my partners number and social media and want nothing to do with us, they’ve even managed to turn my youngest sibling against
TDLR: my family is mad at me because I’m refusing to pay for my siblings college after they paid for mines.
I mean I get why you aren't but you're still an asshole for it. If you didn't want to go into debt you could have work to not take out loans as well. You took the easy route and are fucking your siblings over for it.
For what it's worth I truly do understand why you don't want to "throwaway" 5k. That's a choice to be made between you and your SO but I also think this should have been something you guys talked about earlier in life that you may have to do this so that it wasn't dropped into their lap in the middle of life.