Part of what I learned was to try to seek clarity in ideas before responding or elaborating, to minimize presumptions and try to provide relevant responses. Although often I still fumble about and respond clumsily and irrelevantly.
I do the same things. Half of my conversations with people is me first rephrasing everything they said to me to make sure I understood them correctly before I answer their question or address what they said. And I also always want to give relevant answers but find myself circling around them more than I'd like. I didn't study philosophy tho.