My subtitles! I can't hear without my subtitles!
My subtitles! I can't hear without my subtitles!
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When I learned some people can't watch something with subtitles I was so confused, because ADHD auditory processing issues mean I really can't hear without subtitles. If I don't have subtitles on my mind wanders off without me and I have to keep rewinding because I missed something. I remember buying a ticket to Pan's Labyrinth in theatres a long time ago and being baffled when the person in the ticket booth warned me that it had subtitles. Took waaaay too long for me to get diagnosed.
I was diagnosed about 6/7 and I only learned to use subtitles in my 20's. So many movies, shows and games I didn't experience completely because it took me far too long to realize that I don't actually hear things the first time around. Many times I have to ask someone to repeat something and only when they're repeating it do I actually process what they've said the first time.
To tack on here I love having other ADHD people in my life because when they speak and I say, "huh?" And they start to repeat themselves, if I then begin answering shortly after they begin talking they don't even seem to notice, instead of being a constant fucking dick about how it takes me a couple minutes to understand English sometimes.
On the flip side what I hate is when you say, "huh?" And instead of someone repeating themselves they try and explain something you didn't even hear.
"-------?"
"Huh?"
"Like if it was blue instead?"
The above is one of the few things in life that make me experience genuine anger.
As someone who regularly interacts with people with ADHD, my go-to response to "huh?" is just to wait a few seconds in silence. It has yet to fail me.
I exclusively use "could you repeat that?" Cuz otherwise... yeah.
Rarely, even with being careful, they do still try to expound instead of repeating, which is annoying when I'm trying to accommodate them with specific directions. But it is at least done less.
Okay so I do have ADHD and was about to say that no I have never had an auditory thing. But never mind this happens to me in every conversation
My wife can be so fun with that. If I ask to repeat she will repeat only the last words. Very funny when you didn't catch the first part of the sentence.
"<Loud noise in the street> and after she took the car".
"Didn't catch that?"
"She took the car."
"What did she do before taking the car?"
"The car!"
""Before that."
"THE CAR!! What about taking the car don't you understand! Men don't understand anything."
Another thing I've always struggled with that turns out to be an ADHD thing? Maybe I should really get a diagnosis
Same, I've been reading about ADHD and every time someone describes the struggles they face I feel like they're talking about me.
Memes during COVID lockdown literally led me to going to a psychiatrist and getting a diagnosis.