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What kinds of appointments are you guys making that are so stressful?
Literally anything. If I have a specific time to be at a specific place my whole day is ruined.
Please tell me more, tomorrow, at 6pm precisely. ;-)
You're the worst kind of person and i love you for it.
are these appointments that you chose for yourself that are accomplishing things for you?
Not OP, but It doesn't matter to me what they are. It can be a call to discuss weekend plans, it can be an errand I have to run, it can even be an agreement with an friend to play a multiplayer game at X time. Something like a dentist appointment is the worst though.
I'm neurodivergent and not sure how much that matters to the phenomenon
For me, stressfulness of the appointment has nothing to do with it. It's just...a feeling that I have to wait for the appointment. Hard to explain.
I think it's general anxiety. I get butterflies in my stomach when I do anything off my routine. Even if it's just hanging with friends. What do I wear, how do I get there, will I know people, should I bring something?
It's not about the appointment itself, but the fact that it's set at all. Probably an ADHD thing, though I haven't been formally diagnosed.
It's also an autism thing, though there is some considerable overlap there so you could be forgiven for not knowing.
Source: it's me, I'm the autist
Yeah, I keep seeing autism and ADHD memes, and keep thinking "I do that all the time". Should probably talk to someone about it who can give a proper diagnosis.
I very much don't have ADHD, but I also struggle with the "I have an appointment later, so all I can do today is wait for the appointment" thing.
In the US some medical providers charge the cost of the visit without insurance if you’re late or don’t show, so a $20-30 appointment can potentially turn into one that costs hundreds. That alone makes me anxious about appointments, because I don’t know off the top of my head if any of my providers do that because I’m neurotically on time, lol.
you can ask them what their no show/cancellation fee/policy is, rather than fantasize about the potential wrath.
I could, or I could just be on time.