I'm a guy, so I apologize for intruding, but if you'll have me:
I recently learned what RSD is while having a panic attack after my wife made a small off-hand comment. Couldn't figure out for the life of me why it felt like my entire life was falling apart just from that, and it wasn't the first time it had happened, so I ended up looking into it.
I gotta say, knowing this is a "thing" actually really helps. Every time this happens, the fact I'm not able to explain it always makes me feel even worse, so being able to point to this has actually eased a lot of my symptoms.
I’m glad! Things made sense to me too when I learned about RSD. My family always called me sensitive because I would cry or get hurt easily. Now I don’t feel like it’s some character flaw.
Obviously this is a real and difficult neuro/psych issue to deal with, and I know some people who probably suffer (but aren't formally diagnosed). Heck, I've been prone to letting certain negative comments send me on a spiral briefly myself.
Unfortunately like a lot of genuine neuro issues, this one seems like a really difficult one for typicals to interact with. Because there are people who react badly to genuine critiques, especially in regard to politics, religion, and tradition. Some of them probably are suffering from RSD but a lot aren't.
When I think of RSD, I don’t necessarily think of people reacting badly externally but instead internalizing it. The “dysphoria” part implies it makes the person feel like shit - nothing about acting or lashing out.
Yes, please teach us your ways. Years of therapy, currently in a long-term DBT program, and yet Im having the most awful RSD spiral right now from what? I couldn't even tell you because it doesn't even make sense verbalizing it.