As a gay man in a backwards rural area I'm one of the more nostalgic people I know, but I sure don't wanna go back to living in the 90s/2000s and dealing with the fear of being outed for something I couldn't (and shouldn't) change about myself.

Ain't nothing wrong with enjoying the good things of an era without painting everything about that time as perfect. :)

The reason a lot of people don't leave the big platforms is that everyone else is there, especially if it's your way of staying in contact with friends.

I found it easy to ditch all "traditional" social media, expect for Discord (because all my friends use it), Yes we could all very easily switch to Matrix or some other open alternative, But 95% of people ain't gonna do that anytime soon.