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  • I'm doing pretty great! I got put back on Zoloft this week and that has been excellent so far. I just feel a helluva lot happier, I've been slowly working on the horrible depression den that is my room. As always, I'm on the Pokemon Showdown grind. I need to get back into reading.

  • Essentially going to my first concert, what do?

    My ex bought us tickets to go see the Flaming Lips because that's our band. We're broken up now, but still going to the concert together tonight. I haven't been to a show since middle school and don't know shit about concerts. Is there anything I should know before going?

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    Searching for artists/bands (and songs)
  • Modest Mouse is really strong as far as leftist music goes. The lead singer was living in a flooded house he got evicted from before the band started, Their angry songs are pretty good, but I'd say their real strengths come out in their more reflective songs. Lonesome Crowded West is probably their peak

    I also strongly suggest Lupe Fiasco as far as leftist rappers. Seriously, just listen to Mural and American Terrorist

  • Common Brianna L: Imagine an argument so absurd that even right-wingers could effortlessly dismiss it
  • Yeah, I mean I was a middle schooler when Gamergate started and I never went harassing people because of it, but I definitely was caught up in Gamergate when it was first going down. It's one of the reasons I'll always love Hbomberguy, because watching his videos was how I ended the youtube algorithm death slide that was Gamergate.

  • Just found out my youth pastor was fully a predator (cw: pedophilia)

    Can't post links here without doxxing myself, but the megachurch wannabe/president of one of the boards of education around here is finally being called out. I've known about unsavory things he's done in the past, but this is the first time one of his victims has come forward. And it was someone that I was relatively close to. I'm so glad to see him finally go down.

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    Anyone have experience severe alcoholism withdrawal? (CW Substance abuse, mental health)
  • Yeah, I'm very well versed in withdrawal and psychosis. You need to get her into a hospital. They will give her some Librium and maybe shoot her up with Ativan. Alcohol withdrawal is capable of killing, she could literally just seize out because she puts down the bottle for too long one day. I came into my outpatient place with crazy bad shakes but relatively low alcohol consumption. They called an ambulance for me immediately because of just how bad I was doing. They were worried I was going to die right there.

    She's also probably self medicating to some degree. Getting into treatment for mental health was a game changer that made not drinking worth it.

  • Based Kansan Redditors?
  • The people of Kansas are historically based as fuck. Can't forget Eugene Debs running for president from jail. Missouri on the other hand has literally legalized murder of religious groups in its history

  • Fuck Little Big Planet 3

    I've never touched a more broken piece of shit. Bought the game for my kid's birthday because he wanted Little Big Planet. We just got to the first hub world and I've already encountered multiple gamebreaking bugs. If you want to do co-op, the game will infinitely load if you do the first level with more than 1 player. The save data is constantly corrupting. There are multiple parts of said first hub world where you can get stuck and have to do a hard restart of the level. I can't believe I never heard anything about this game being a broken piece of shit when it released

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    One of my kids is getting into his recorder phase right now

    Why is the universal children's instrument also universally horrible? Got right out of bed and instantly started playing it.

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    Should I buy my kid Borderlands?

    cross-posted from: https://hexbear.net/post/2261454

    > My foster kiddo's birthday is coming up soon, and we got a REALLY good deal on a PS4 for his birthday. I'm buying him used games to go with the console. I asked him to describe what kind of games he wanted and things he liked in games. He wants a split screen co-op FPS where he's able to hunt for rare loot. He wants a looter shooter that he can play with me. Also odd criteria, but he wants games that I'm good at because it's like "watching a ninja". He explained this, and Borderlands is the only game I can think of that has all of it. He didn't mention Borderlands by name, so it's not like I'd be saying no to anything on his list specifically. I'd settle for a co-op split screen FPS we could play, but there aren't very many of those on PS4. > > Here is the issue I'm running into though. On one hand, this child is turning 9. He is just too young for Borderlands. However, this child has also witnessed multiple people die of drug overdoses, watched a million rated R movies with his mom, so censoring things feels weird. Like who am I to censor some middle school grade jokes when he's into morbid things as a result of seeing death his entire life? I'm thinking maybe we just make it a game where I have to play it with him if he wants to play? Any split screen game recommendations for us that may be more age appropriate? > >

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    Should I buy my kid Borderlands?

    My foster kiddo's birthday is coming up soon, and we got a REALLY good deal on a PS4 for his birthday. I'm buying him used games to go with the console. I asked him to describe what kind of games he wanted and things he liked in games. He wants a split screen co-op FPS where he's able to hunt for rare loot. He wants a looter shooter that he can play with me. Also odd criteria, but he wants games that I'm good at because it's like "watching a ninja". He explained this, and Borderlands is the only game I can think of that has all of it. He didn't mention Borderlands by name, so it's not like I'd be saying no to anything on his list specifically. I'd settle for a co-op split screen FPS we could play, but there aren't very many of those on PS4.

    Here is the issue I'm running into though. On one hand, this child is turning 9. He is just too young for Borderlands. However, this child has also witnessed multiple people die of drug overdoses, watched a million rated R movies with his mom, so censoring things feels weird. Like who am I to censor some middle school grade jokes when he's into morbid things as a result of seeing death his entire life? I'm thinking maybe we just make it a game where I have to play it with him if he wants to play? Any split screen game recommendations for us that may be more age appropriate?

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    I wrote my partner a song earlier and wanted to post it somewhere because I never share what I write (CW: drugs)

    I say, It's the pills, it's the drinks But maybe it's just how I think The need to say it with a wink My cynicism's killing me I'm really sorry for the greed Beer's my mistress, I have to leave But that girl keeps calling me And I pick up hoping you don't see

    You broke my heart, but gave me yours I left it strewn across the floor I don't blame you not wanting more But better days are sure in store The softest eyes I've ever seen The cleanest air I've ever breathed You're so perfect I can't believe You ever chose to be with me

    In the night, in the morning, You're the girl I'm adoring Come together like baskets weave While the cats bite at our feet You're the only drug that I need The greatest high I've ever seen When we're singing and rolling weed Or when we're talking bout planting seeds

    Without you, I couldn't breathe Either dead or nodded on the street I don't wanna go another day Of leaving you hurt by my ways It's not okay, I can't ignore it Our life together is like a forest I'm a lit cigarette on a trailer floor And I keep burning holes on the armoir

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    Assholes at my work wouldn't let me leave 5 minutes early to get my anti-psychotics

    Guess who gets to show up for a shift in full psychosis, they're about to have a mental health awareness day !omori-manic

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    "Stupid" songs that mean a lot to you?

    I'm not calling anybody's music or tastes out here. But I'm sure there's a song you can think of that fits this.

    I'm the Scatman by Scatman John is my pick. It meant a lot to me as a stuttering 12 year old. I don't like eurodance or anything of the sort, I kinda think it's terrible, but this song just makes me smile every time.

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    White Town - Your Woman

    This song being one of the first DAW only hits, also made by a lifelong Marxist (with a trot phase in the 80s). Also an amazing set of lyrics

    >Now I know your heart, I know your mind >You don't even know you're being unkind >So much for all your highbrow Marxist ways >Just use me up and then you walk away

    You're a marxist but exploit me like a capitalist is super hard hitting

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    Listen to Long Season Live

    One of the greatest live performances I've ever seen. The concert was called "a farewell to men", a send off for the bassist moving on to different music. What resulted was the band giving it their all, near perfect live recording, massive song structure changes, improving an already near perfect catalog of songs in ways you couldn't think of.

    However, the bassist ended up staying in the band. The album is still called Farewell To Men because lead vocalist Shinji Sato died of chronic health conditions 3 months after this concert. The way Shinji is performing, it felt like he knew it. The concert feels like a divine gift, as if Sato was sent here by the Gods to perform that concert and couldn't leave until he had. Amazing album

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    Feel like a god, accidentally made pineapple hooch

    Made juice from pineapple skins and let it sit in my fridge sealed for a long ass time. I opened it today, expecting it to be trash, but to my surprise it was totally fine. Assuming that the yeast from the pineapple skin kicked in. Pretty damn tasty too. 10/10, would recommend, although I'd recommend actually doing this intentionally

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    Knives: A quick buyers guide

    There is a lot of bullshit out about knives. Not to be a food centrist (although I really am) but you hear about these 300+ dollar knives or 500 dollar knife sets, or these ultra cheap walmart knives that are "all you need". These people are constantly at odds with each other, when that simply shouldn't be the case. I just want to slice for gods sake. !grillman. Most knife advice you find online will be bad. The people who know the most about knives are not online.

    Top suggestion for all knives

    If you're in America, Restaurant Depot is the obvious choice for anything. Post-pandemic, non-restaurant people can come in. This is the place where you can get $1 paring knives and $5 chef's knives. Many also have a commercial sharpening service in the depot, or nearby, so super cheap sharpening here too. Because the pros can always do it better than you. These are brands that us pro cooks have been using for decades, Dexter probably being the biggest. You can even get a decent Chinese cleaver for $30 bucks. These types of stores will probably have the best deals, but depending on where you are, your mileage may vary. But if you can buy from restaurant supply places, quality and price will always be good enough

    If you're not at RD/Wholesaler

    Buy Mercer mostly. I hate to sound like an ad, but Mercer is easily the best mainstream knife brand price wise. They're not amazing knives, they more just took Victorinox's place. But Mercers cheapest line are pretty much the standard kitchen knives with minor QOL improvements such as the shape or material of the grip. As far as going cheap, the wholesalers will usually win, but Mercer can at least come close. I used to buy a lot of stuff from China, but the shippers over there usually aren't willing to ship ANYTHING that could possibly be used as a weapon. Can't even get food shipped most of the time, a knife is a stretch. They have decent prices on restaurant knives, but you can't really buy from knives direct from China in the west.

    First suggestion is the Mercer Bar/Paring Knife. With a 4 inch blade, they have extra length to cut more. Mercer also uses a copy of Victorinox's grip design, which is by far the best paring knife grip available. However, Victorinox keeps raising their prices with their relative prestige, so they're not the move anymore. They're just Mercer with better QC and higher prices. If you sharpen your own knives at all, Victornox is a scam compared to Mercer. No matter what you buy after this, you NEED a paring knife. Most tools in the kitchen can be replaced with a paring knife, especially peelers.

    The second suggestion is a bread knife, and this goes to Mercer again. Separate from price, this is my 2nd favorite bread knife. The 1st goes to a type of bread knife that seems exclusive amongst restaurant cooks. Here's the Dexter version of this standard restaurant bread knife, but that's a difference I noticed after thousands of sandwiches. The superior blade of the Mercer knife is a better choice for most people. The scalloped handle on the Dexter is super nice though, makes plating way easier

    Main knives

    You have a few picks for this. But you need a giant, sharp knife. You can peel a potato with a chef knife, you can replace a paring knife with a chef knife easy, but the opposite doesn't apply. Try cutting a sweet potato with a paring knife and it'll probably break

    Cheapest suggestion is Dexter knives. You can get them dirt cheap at the right prices, and they're good enough that you don't get distracted by them. They also have any form factor you want. There are better knives, but since it's the same price as bad knives, you shouldn't buy anything worse than Dexter. However, you need to pick a main form factor for your main knife. You can have all the knives, but I find that people really only need one of these four.

    1. Classic Gyotos/Chef knives. They're 8-10 inches, 210-240mm, and what you think of as a cooking knife. They're good for everybody. If you don't have the opportunity to experiment, or can't think of which one of these knives would be most useful, buy one of these. The Mercer chef's knife is $20.

    2. Santokus. My personal favorite. These are stubbier knives that still have a point at the end, usually with granton edging on the side to help with being non-stick. These knives were made as fusions between Japanese nakirkis (vegetable knives) and the Chef's knife. These are the most versatile knife, long enough to cut anything, but also short enough to replace a paring knife in a pinch. The extra thickness over a Nakiri gives durability and versatility

    3. Chinese Cleavers. These are rectangles of metal with tiny grips on the side that force you to hold the blade. This is probably the most universally used. You can use it as a bench scraper and a million different other minor tools. Extremely useful, but require more education to use to their full potential. They're big and clunky, and that's only worth it if you intuitively understand why they're big and clunky. These things do not break unless you seriously fuck up, you can realistically grind off all the metal before it becomes useless. These knives are more expensive than everything else I've listed, but their durability makes them extremely useful. CW: MEAT These are the only knives worth using to chop through bone and other similarly hard things.

    4. Nakiris. Japanese vegetable knives. Essentially just smaller, thinner chinese cleavers with larger handles. If you're vegan, skip the cleaver and just go with the Nakiri. Compact, yet still full sized knives best for slicing easy things. Mercer has a cheap one that's good. However, THESE KNIVES ARE SUPPOSED TO BE PARTICULARLY THIN! These do require some babying to prevent from breaking if you cut anything super hard like sweet potatoes.

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    To stop the discussion from coming here, here's an article on frying with olive oil written by Daniel Gritzer and J Kenji Lopez-Alt
    www.seriouseats.com Cooking With Olive Oil: Should You Fry and Sear in It or Not?

    Is the advice to not sauté and fry with olive oil over high heat true? We look at the science.

    Cooking With Olive Oil: Should You Fry and Sear in It or Not?

    TL;DR of the article: Olive oil does not break down at it's smoke point, meaning that you're not burning anything if the olive oil is smoking. If you want your fried food to taste like olive oil, fry it in olive oil. If you don't want your food to taste like olive oil, don't use olive oil. That's it, that's the entire olive oil debate solved right there. It really is that simple, there's nothing more to it.

    Seen a lot of people getting smoking mad (lol) arguing over things they don't actually know about is quite annoying to me, and I don't want someone else making a struggle session where there really is none. Cultures around the Mediterranean have been frying in olive oil for thousands of years, literally since the dawn of civilization. Does anybody really think that people were just burning everything they cooked for thousands of years until some white people made canola oil?

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    Some basic veggie preparations for people who need to cook more veggies

    Few things of note. I am a chef, so some of these ingredients may not be attainable. If you can't get something I recommend, don't worry about it. If I say chili flake, I mean pretty much any dried chili seeds. I usually use pasilla or guajillo when I have them. You can get a bag of either of these dried chiles for a couple bucks in the "ethnic" section of the grocery store. Cheapest and best chili powder in the store is buying those dried chilis and blending them. Any of these recipes can be added to pretty easily, these aren't set in stone recipes, rather bases for you to explore further. For example, I hate most common dried seasonings as far as veggies go. Garlic, onion powder, dried herbs and such, all those take away from the fresh flavor I like in veggies, so I don't use them much. However, you may find that you love onion and garlic powder on your food. You may find that you like a different oil in a recipe than me, and that's cool! Also, these aren't vegan recipes, but could easily be converted

    Roasted brusselsprouts

    1. Get a flat baking sheet. A warped baking sheet will actually mess with this recipe quite a bit. Put it in your oven and preheat your oven to 400 degrees.

    2. Stem and half your brusselsprouts, keep them in a bowl for later. Mince/grate/slice a shallot and toss it in the same bowl. Chop the shallot however you prefer them. If you like garlic, DO NOT add it at this stage, otherwise your garlic will all burn in the oven. For this reason, I don't add garlic to my brusselsprouts, and just lean on the shallot to give the onion/garlic flavor.

    3. Pour in olive oil or any other good tasting oil, and gently toss. Don't wanna break all the leaves off, you just want the oil to be evenly distributed.

    4. Season brusselsprouts with salt, ground pepper, paprika, and chili flakes, and toss the bowl. Do this after oiling, otherwise it's way harder to get everything even.

    5. Pull out your hot oven pan, and set your brusselsprouts down on the pan face side down. This is labor intensive, but makes the final sprout way better.

    6. Throw it back in the oven for 20 minute or so, you want to pull them out when they're looking nice and brown.

    7. Finish with a light drizzle of olive oil and paprika

    Also, a note on brusselsprouts. You will find recipes online telling you to deep fry brusselsprouts. Deep frying brusselsprouts at home is a god awful idea, they have too much water in them. It's a great way to have oil covering your entire kitchen and be dissapointed because it's still not as good as roasting like this.

    Steamed brocolli

    1. Frozen or fresh, doesn't matter. Boil some water and throw your brocolli over it with a steamer basket. Let steam for 7 minutes or so. Finish by tossing them in olive oil and/or butter, salt, pepper, paprika, and mushroom powder if you have any dried mushrooms. You can add more to these, I really enjoy adding lemon pepper seasoning. Cheesy broccoli is also better this way since it maintains the crunch. One of my favorite ways to flavor this is making either a lemon-honey emulsion (Honey, lemon juice, salt, pepper, a sweet pink\white wine, a touch of soy sauce, shake the shit out of it in a bottle.) Another variant of this is lime, agave, cumin and a pinch of those ground up flying ants. Yes, some bugs really are worth adding to your cooking if you can get them. The flying ants are a popular ingredient in Oaxaca for a reason. It has a citrusy yet strongly umami taste, kinda like chinese fermented black beans, it's great. Very cheap, and an ingredient that once you try it you love eating bugs.

    Roasted carrots

    1. Rinse fresh carrots and cut them into coins. You can peel them, but I find that the skin bitterness works with the rest of the flavor I put down. Also, frozen carrots aren't worth trying to roast. Just microwave them if they're not fresh.

    2. Toss in butter, salt, pepper, chili flakes, some dried microplaned chiles, brown sugar and dried ant powder if you have it. If you happen to be eating any fruit in the moment, squeeze some of that juice in, it's tasty and different.

    3. Roast carrots at 425 degrees for 25 minutes

    4. Pull carrots out of the oven, and finish with honey or agave. If you use agave, skip the brown sugar. But definitely use agave if you're using any dried ant powder. Agave is like 5x sweeter than honey, so it can work really well.

    Spinach

    I don't recomend making spinach on its own, it's just too hard to get truly right imo. HOWEVER, adding it as an ingredient to something else is a great idea. Toss spinach in with your pasta when you finish cooking it and cook it with your sauce. However, IF you're going to, this is a decent way.

    1. Butter in a pan, fry off some garlic, a bit of shallots, and red pepper flakes in the pan. I'd recommend using processed chili flakes for smaller red pieces, the red and white of the aromatics makes it look way better and taste better too. Try not to soften anything, you want them kinda fried. Add a splash of soy sauce and salt at this point.

    2. Add a shit ton of spinach. Shit shrinks like crazy, so use a big pan.

    3. Cook with the aromatic butter for 2 minutes and pull off the heat. Finish with pepper.

    Potatoes

    This is a necessary food prep thing. You start doing it and you never go back. Either bake and/or boil your potatoes for the week and keep them in your fridge to be used when needed. Example of this is baking off 8 potatoes for me and my partner to eat throughout the week. Now, I have a baked potato that all I have to do for it to be ready is microwave it. If they're smaller potatoes, I can make smashed potatoes at a moments notice and those are the absolute shit. You can instantly roast off boiled potatoes, or mash them and have a 3 minutes mashed potato throughout the week. Same thing goes for sweet potatoes. Also, longer you bake potatoes, the better they taste, so you can get really good baked potatoes really easy.

    Sweet potato fries

    1. Chop sweet potato into fries

    2. (optional) toss sweet potatoes in potato or corn starch. This will give you normal potato fry crunch if you do this

    3. Season with salt, pepper, chili flake, a proportionally small amount of cumin, and olive oil.

    4. Roast at 425 degrees for 20 minutes. If you have an air fryer or a convection oven, take off 5 minutes. Longer you cook these, the more your sweet potatoes will release sweetness.

    5. Check sweet potatoes for texture. If you tossed them in starch, they're probably done at this point. No matter what, let them cool for about 5 minutes on a cooling rack, and throw your empty pan back in the oven to heat up. If you're still going, raise your oven temperature to 450 degrees.

    6. Pull out your pan again and throw your sweet potatoes back in for another 10-15 minutes to crisp up, replenishing the oil in the pan. Doing a double bake like this makes the sweet potatoes crispier. You can repeat the process as much as you'd like, but it stops being useful after about 4 passes. You can do this with pretty much any starch to make them crispier.

    Arugula/rocket

    I don't cook this one, I'm just picky with raw greens. Arugula is related to spinach, but has this really pleasant black pepper flavor that makes me enjoy having it on my sandwiches or even for salads. This is a more expensive green, but it can be had at decent prices in the right time and place.

    Sauteed green Beans

    This is for fresh green beans, if your green beans are canned or frozen, don't bother trying this because there's no way to make the texture right

    1. Butter in pan, fry shallots, garlic, and red bell pepper, and chili flakes with salt and soy sauce/worcherster sauce in a pan. Thinly sliced sun dried tomatoes also make a pleasant addition at this point if you have them.

    2. Crank the heat on your pan and add fresh green beans. Fry them aggressively, you wanna keep them moving. The high heat brings a lot of good flavors out of the green beans quickly. Sautee for about 5 minutes or until your green beans are cooked through but still have a pleasant crunch.

    3. Remove from heat, finish with white pepper and a very light sprinkle of Parmesan cheese. Cheese is optional, but the white on top makes it look really pretty and if you use a SMALL amount, it's a good flavor additive.

    I could probably come up with more, but my arthritis hands are telling me to stop typing so !07

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    mutual_aid @hexbear.net LeylaLove [she/her, love/loves] @hexbear.net
    Looking for household money

    We don't have a ton of needs this month, just more than I'm comfortable with. Fortunately I'm not smoking cigs anymore so we're doing better than normal, but our nephew has a serious eye issue where his pupils are constantly shaking. We're trying to get him into an appointment later this month. Any help is appreciated. Other people on here are in much worse spots than I am, if I'm being honest my situation isn't anywhere near as time sensitive as this is. Some people posting on here are facing homelessness. I am not, I'm just trying to make the downpayment for my kid to get seen for his eyes. So if someone else posts and you're in a giving mood, you should probably give it to them. I feel awkward making posts about childcare needs here, but I also feel like making sure the kids get the treatment they need is one of the few things that always pays off.

    My cashapp is @thenewcashtag

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