This shit really shatters my fantasy of post gen x people fostering a genuinely more empathetic and moral culture. !sicko-wistful

She's a full foot shorter than me and she dresses punk and kinda masc and emo, has a pink mohawk she's growing out into a deathhawk, she's a huge weeb and nerd and we're into a lot of the same stuff, she makes her own cider and leathercraft and even blacksmiths sometimes.

Spent the night at her house after work Monday night, then spent the entire day with her. Cooked breakfast for us, then we took her dog out to a park so her mom could see pilates clients, then met one of her friends for drinks and some card games while we finished watching Scott Pilgrim Takes Off, then went to bed together one last time before I had to leave at midnight. All told we spent over 24 hours together and it was great and I'm super happy and I feel like she was the exact type of person I was looking for.

So it is worth it to go out there and use the stupid apps and try to date people because you might get lucky and find someone great. It can happen

you too can go from !sicko-wistful to !sicko-fem !sicko-flipped

Not even joking.

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

It's all like this. I don't even understand where the stuff in this page is coming from, but "coercion and violence of communist rule" is once again just thrown in there.

Also this book seems to really be looking down on the working class from my reading, although I suppose it tries to highlight some issues. Not to mention all the discourse about social capital or other types of capital, but never actual capital.

This also reads like a weird sort of celebration of neoliberalism as inevitable, but then again I am just so tired of reading stuff like this that I am probably not giving it much credit.

Book is called "masculinity, labor and neoliberalism".

got appointed to a position with the federal government with onboarding scheduled to start in about two weeks.

took an at-home THC test after a month abstinent and it was positive

i was recommended for the post by someone I knew and now they're going to look bad to their higher ups

feels bad man

Asking the cigar smoking community on hexbear, what are your favourites? How you usually enjoy them and perhaps with what?

I personally don’t smoke that much, like to get a good one(be that Romeo and Juliet or other brand, don’t really have big preferences, much just the quality of it and Cuban origin) and then smoke it trough a hike. Goes nice together while sightseeing.

• Javier Millei
• Emmanuel Macron
• John Fetterman
• Yoon Suk Yeol
• Donald Trump
• Elon Musk

Was this one added today after Assange was freed or has it just been cooking in the backend for 2 years?

lmfao fuck these guys. tho i probably should have seen it coming and job searched during my FMLA.

Come on fess up

I caught her sniffing my foot like some kind of hexbear freak.

This guy! 👍👍

They're basically full incels who claim women are shallow and hate men below 6 foot....

and dudes 'dick sizing' posting selfies of their faces to each other "no I'm more handsome than you" pure incel weirdo shit

Bonus points if the author first mentions a specific trait, physical build, or whatever else halfway through the novel and totally fucks up my mental image.

I don't expect a biology model description for each character, but write me something brief and evocative of how they should look, you fucking dork author. I don't even know how tall she should be, her hair colour, anything. Why are you like this, author?

If most of you are aware, I've resumed applying to jobs. Well, most of them were rejections, but today, I got a response. The pay of the job is ₹60,000 per annum. Yes, you read it right.

And what's the message I've received?

>Hi /c/velox_vulnus@lemmy.ml, > >Are you flexible on your salary?

Is ₹5,000 per month not already low enough? Even school-dropout blue-collar workers make more than me at ₹25,000 per month. Rent of a room alone costs around ₹7,000-9,000. I am so done with this.

Seems like this is the new fad everyone wants to make content making fun of these individuals with deep deep mental problems.

I don't like it, I know when I consumed "lolcow content" I was not in a good place at all and thought laughing at someone else misfortunes would make me feel better.

Everyone wants to make "Cyraxx" or "kingcobra" content on YouTube. I'm not saying these individuals are always the best of people, (they aren't) but well you guys know what I'm going say

Tldr lolcowcontent is not healthy for anyone and it's irritating how much it seems to have taken off recently

I did not and now I feel like ass mentally and I'm just gonna wallow in it until tomorrow.

That's all I guess.

Bit me

Seriously. He's a piece of shit

Ok so I'm newly single after a very very bad marriage. I had tried the dating apps a few months ago and go literally ZERO matches. I was frustrated but realized they are mainly just scams now. I deleted my accounts and gave up on dating for now.

The past week I uploaded a video of me hitting baseballs in my yard onto IG and literally got 3 women who slid into my DMs within a day 🤷

Thinking outside the box, folks.

I refuse to stop mentioning my wife !anya-heh

You know, oscillating fans, the little 12"-20" fans that rotate on a pedastil with three speeds, usually? As a relatively poor kid, the air conditioner in the bedroom is the first one I've ever owned in my life. I grew up around these rattly white plastic fan things. Three-blade, cheapo plastic, bought-from-walmart $20 specials. Usually Intertek branded in North America, because lol. !ukkk For most of my life these goofy things have just been ambiently existing objects in my house, I'd dust em when needed. Recently though, one of the older ones, (mfd Oct 2013) a real generic 16" job with a garbo aluminium stand, started running really slow.

At first I assumed it just had electrical issues, y'know bad caps or a short or resistance, whatever. When I took it apart today though I noticed there was a ton of hair wrapped around the center shaft that turns the blade. (We both have extremely long hair) Cut it all away with a utility knife, but at that point, with the fan's cage open and the blades off I got curious... !phoenix-think

Unscrew the back of the cage from the front of the fan body, (where the motor is housed) look inside, turns out the entire thing is clogged with dust and hair, mostly cat hair. Got a duster can and blew it all out, the thing expelled a cloud of fuckin' dust on my balcony !niko-concern but when I got it back together, while it now ran fullspeed (wow!) it made a pretty painfully loud squeaking/scraping noise while spinning.

I wasn't real sure what to do, but my wife suggested oil... not motor oil, we don't have any since I'm not a gearhead, but like, canola oil or sunflower oil? Just applied with the hard end of a cotton bud along where the shaft connects to the motor, and it'll trickle in??? I assumed canola oil would be conductive and this sounded like a really bad idea to me, I was sure it'd explode. I even put the fan outside, closed the balcony door and ran a cable inside to test, in case it magic-smoked itself.

Sure enough though, dumping food oil down the motor of a standing fan results in perfect silence...? !kel-what

Reassembled the thing, buttoned it up and it was literally good as new. Oscillates smoothly, spins stronger than when I first got it, and is dead silent. We did it to our other two goofy canadian tire special fans the same way, and it's been great for them too, somehow. Fucking canola oil...

I make this post mostly because I have never even heard the concept of repairing/servicing these standing fans entertained. It's like toasters, or how non-techbrained people view computers: just a simple appliance. I knew about dusting them of course, but otherwise for my entire life whenever one crapped out, BANG instantly trashed! Another $20 down, unlimited disposable replacement upon standing fans! Turns out that curiosity and basic disassembly ability (all we used was a phillips head screwdriver, a duster can, the aforementioned oil, windex and paper towels) will probably let you keep these dumb things running for a lot longer than ten years. Whoda thunk it??? This does make sense, given that many oscillating fans are on 24/7 in the summer. Something like that easily earns a bit of maintenance, and this is gonna be a yearly check-up activity for us now!

So I guess the point is, if you're not rich enough to air condition every room where you live, or even just have standing fans anyway, give em some love and they might benefit a lot ✨

Some pretty cool stuff, but the standout was a socialist group handing out flyers. I told my friend they're probably Trots. Passed by them and they tried to get me to sign a petition to get their candidate on the ballot. They open with telling me that they're Trots lol!

the forest is sparkling

I made it 546 kilometres in 19 days, with ~350 left to go. Idk if my water filter failed or there was a hygiene slipup, but I woke up Thursday feeling super fatigued and that quickly slipped into beaver fever symptoms (or some kind of infection/parasite).

Now I've spent the last few days recovering on the couch and picking up reading again. Still feels like a big achievement, but I had a bit of a short time window to finish the trail. Now I'll probably be too busy for the rest of the warmer season and have to wait until next year. !sadness

I had to replace the display cable from another broken laptop, and thankfully, it was compatible with mine. Also changed the screen from AUO to Innolux, so I'm loving the matt display - but the tint is now a little yellowish. I would've increased the RAM, if not for the DDR3L vs DDR4 modules not being compatible to each other, so I'm suck with just 4GB. And also switched from normal swap to zswap with lz0 compression and zpool of type zsmalloc. I can't fold the laptop anymore, but well, it works decently for now.

I’m temp banned from /c/mutual_aid. I could really use some help—please DM me for links to my CashApp and stuff.

Everything sucks.

Title mostly.

I'm doing fine right now, had an argument with my brother but overall I got my path forward ironed out, but I can't shake the feeling that all of what I do is just some pathological need to stumble forward into what I'm supposed to do but rather than actually being a meaningful calling or direction.

Maybe I'm just depressed.

I am on the precipice of one and don't want that to turn me into a disengaged normies, lib, or chud. I know that a local DSA chapter was financially backed by a person of incredible means, so I wonder what keeps such people left wing or at least SocDem.

!volcel-police !the-doohickey

I violated my oath and I've failed you all

Advice possibly appreciated, but I'm gonna talk to my uncle about a concern I have.

He wants me to visit him on July 4, and whenever a discussion like family gatherings comes up, my uncle can sound very forceful in the way he goes about it. He'll say stuff like "You ARE going! It's not optional!", even though I'm a grown-ass adult living by myself in a totally different state.

There are multiple reasons why I'm opposed to going:

1. My time and money: I have been working a lot more to make funds to get the hell out of my current living space. This is crucial because I literally have flat-out racist and evil roommates in my vicinity, and the discomfort they cause me is so much that it's a grand motivator to make me slave away. Getting on a plane to visit my uncle in a very distant state will cost me the flight and deprive me of time I could spend working. Such an endeavor is not more important than me prioritizing getting the hell out of here. I will have time to visit my uncle later. For now, it's just not appropriate.
2. COVID-19: A lot of people stopped giving a damn, but I'm not going to assume that getting on a plane will be safe for me with COVID-19 considered.
3. Awkward encounters: There will likely be other family members there that I haven't talked to in a long time. I'm non-binary, transfeminine, and I've been on estrogen for quite some time, alongside going by a completely different name now. Although I'm out to my uncle, chatting with other family members that I'm still closeted to could still potentially be uncomfortable at best and distressing at worst.
4. Being there for my partner: I can't devote time to my partner at all if I'm focused on ensuring a visit to my uncle. My partner and I are both great supports for each other in times of distress, but we're also just very in love (gay) and have a ton of happy moments too. Due to her recent streak of more depressive and anxious moments, I want to be as accessible to her in this current moment that I can, as she would want to be the same for me.

There is probably another reason I could dump out of my brain if I think for 5 more minutes, but I'm sure you get the point by now. Due to the very forceful nature of his language in discussing this gathering, I'd feel really bad telling him that I cannot see him for the day that celebrates this horrendous country's independence.

My uncle is in his late 50's, but despite this, he will sometimes guilt trip and say things like "I have to reunite with you all before I die," especially since he has not seen me and some other family, such as my brother and cousins, in a while. It's just very concerning, and because I'm aware that he has had struggles with depression himself, it makes me feel bad to give him the "No, I'm not going," but I simply am unable to go.

…because of the thing with the money. And then losing my wallet, and then one of my plushie friends. It’s only going to get worse. I really hope I die before it does.

And in a bit over a week from now it’ll be the 1 year anniversary of the last time I saw my friend, the one who won’t talk to me anymore. One down, the rest of my lifetime to go. I know I’ll never see them again and while I think I’m over the cringey weird shit, I still think about them pretty much every day and it hurts so fucking much.

You know I’ll never get a car or a minivan or whatever. Definitely not before this winter—it gets harder to cope with every fucking year.

Fuck.

He was always the coolest shonen character to me.

100lbs of rice and 50lbs of beans just fucking destroyed. These blighted assholes are really making me rethink my "no-kill" trap policy.

No, laughing at fart jokes and saying piss and beanis over and over isn't funny. Will Hexbear ever learn what good satire is? This place is so unfunny it actually makes me mad.

CS degree is kinda useless, right? I haven't slept the whole night applying and thinking about this...

A bunch of restaurants around me shut down recently and everyone blames the greedy servers for demanding more tips and wages. They're blaming shoplifting too, claiming petty crime simply isn't punished enough. Someone I know claims shoplifting is legal in California.

Americans can't conceive of real estate capitalists squeezing other, smaller capitalists. It's always gotta be taxes or baristas asking for higher wages.

Every restaurant that shuts down around here is 100% the fault of landlords. No restaurant has ever folded because the servers got paid $10 per hour instead of $8 per hour

Pardon me if I get this wrong - but I'd assume that if one were to return packages back to a online shop (Amazon, Ebay, etc), they would have to:

• print a label, package the box and then return to a post office, right - maybe also pay a little fee?

• return to a designated locker/warehouse

• initiate a label-free return to a nearby supermarket

Perhaps this is how it works in North America and maybe Europe, right?

Well, I wanted to talk about the system set in India used by every online shops (including Amazon, Flipkart, Meesho, Puma, etc). Here's how it goes:

• if you want to return the product, you access the homepage, and initiate a return

• you'll get a message ensuring that a delivery agent (assigned by logistic companies like DTDC, Blue Dart or Delhivery) will be by your house by tomorrow, or day after tomorrow

• you're not supposed to re-package the delivery box, because the agent will come to your door, check the contents briefly, and then carry the product with them

• after a few days, or maybe a week, the team at the warehouse will inspect the product properly, and then immediately initiate a refund

Sure, it is convenient, but I can't help and think of how exploitative this is to gig-workers. Am I in the wrong to feel this way?

Yes, I'd get money for referring you, yes it's kinda shit work but it isnt hard or involved and super easy to pad time. Pays weekly with PayPal. Just basically rating responses from an AI to prompts.

Again, I don't wanna shill, but the referral bonus would help me out, and know a lot of people here are looking for something to help. They started me at $15/hour and there is hardly any human contact involved unless I have a question about something.

So yeah i guess holler if this sounds like it's something that'd help. I feel kinda scummy about this post since I would benefit too, but I just wanna pass it along to comrades if it's something needed.

Mods, feel free to delete if you want.