They're not shocked, mainly because it's not about the children, it was never about the children.

It's about exercising control over the choices a woman can make.

Listen fellas, you make your choice about having a kid when you get freaky without protection. After that point, you've made your bed. I know, it sucks, because a horny brain is not a brain that makes rational decisions. I'm sorry about that.

You can give your opinion on whether to keep or terminate the pregnancy, but ultimately it's up to the lady in the scenario to make the final call. You can, and absolutely should have an opinion on the matter, you can and should be heard; but make no mistake, it's entirely her decision. If she chooses to go against what you want, your choice becomes: step up and be a dad, or pay to remove yourself from the situation. Alternatively (if you want the kid and she wants to terminate), continue with this person, and if she changes her mind about kids, try again, or find someone who will bear your offspring. You can't force her into one decision or the other... At least you can't, short of illegal actions, or by living in a state that forbids abortion.... I guess.

I will never agree with taking away a woman's right to choose. Unwanted pregnancy is, in my opinion, taking away her right to choose entirely. The woman doesn't always have a choice in whether she partakes in a sexual act or if protection is used. As much as any person who forces another to engage in unwanted sexual activity, should be prosecuted to the fullest extent allowable by law, until they're caught, there's a nontrivial chance of someone being violated and ending up with an unwanted parasite. Taking someone's choice to terminate that pregnancy, away from them, is, for all intents and purposes, IMO, psychological torture.

There's a ton more I can say about it, but bluntly, anyone still reading, and not furiously typing a response about how I'm evil for wanting abortion to be legal, already knows all about it. Her body, her choice. Until such a time that we can communicate with a fetus to determine whether it wants to live or not, the only voice that matters is hers.

Like a community about arch?

I guess it's not really niche at this point.

Btw, I don't run arch.

I generally consider the (non-theist) Commandments to generally be generally good rules to live by.

I have to say the non-theist rules because several of them are about God and religion.... Like, having no other gods before [him], not taking the Lord's name in vain, the whole idols thing....

If you take all that theist stuff out, you basically get: don't lie, steal, cheat, or kill, don't covet others stuff, and respect your mother and father.

Pretty decent rules overall. At the very least, a good starting point.

This is true but it also goes hand in hand with men's health being an equivalent level of disregarded.

Unless your obviously physically injured, your problems are simply not important to people. Emotional distress, mental health, and pretty much any discomfort/pain/feeling that isn't associated with a physical injury is generally bushed off and anyone who tries to be heard about it, generally gets ridiculed by their peers.

Obviously family/friends can be an exception to this rule, but co-workers and acquaintances generally just tell you to stop whining and get back to work.

It's a trade off. People who present as female generally get too much of people's attention to their personal situation, while those presenting as male get far too little.

There are obvious problems with both; for men, issues can be ignored to the point where you are actively being harmed by inaction, meanwhile, people always and overly concerning themselves with the well-being of women, can be equally harmful. Most of the time it's the same kind of harm, usually both mental and physical, but it varies from case to case, regardless of gender.

I'm not saying any of it is right, at all, nor am I endorsing any of it. I just want people to care about others equally regardless of how they present themselves, their gender, or what's in their pants, but don't concern yourself with others so much that you're actively doing them harm either.

A big part of the wait times is because of the healthcare coverage IMO.

In the USA, if you have a non-life threatening issue, that is more annoying than an actual problem, it usually gets ignored because nobody wants to go into debt for that.... Unless you're a millionaire or something, I guess.

Meanwhile in countries with socialized healthcare, if you're even slightly unwell (and even in cases where you're not unwell) you can get any number of procedures done to rule out any possible illness.

There's simply no good reason to not get checked out if you feel the need to be checked out.

sometimes people just ask if I didn't sleep well last night if I don't.

I've heard this is a thing.

I'm a dude, I never sleep well. Anytime I look in the mirror, I can certainly tell that I didn't sleep well, but I'm almost never asked about it.

I went for a sleep study earlier this year, I'm meeting with a doctor to discuss the findings in a couple of weeks. Hopefully I can get better sleep soon.....

Even with that being said, it would be nice if someone cared enough to ask about it. At the same time, I can also see that getting asked that question a bunch, regardless of how well you slept, would be pretty annoying.

IDK. Everyone asks what I'm doing, never how I'm doing. It's fine. I survive.

Depends on the beans

Instructions unclear, I'm imagining chewing on tin foil.

Ow.

Well, I'm probably going to try to get my ccnp for kicks. I'll re-do my CCNA, then do my ccnp. By the time I go for my NA cert I'll pretty much be ready to go for the np cert.

I'll build a new resume emphasizing my network stuff, though my resume is already fairly heavily focused on networking as is, and try again.

I'm pretty happy with my job in almost every way, I know most of the things I would need to know to be successful, despite it being a more generalist position, and my co-workers are cool. Management is better than most, and the pay is more than the last two generalist positions I've worked, plus it's work from home, so I'm pretty comfortable where I am for now. The pay, despite being higher than I've gotten previously, is a pretty far cry from what I probably deserve, just way too low, under $55k USD (I'm not in the US, but the conversion puts me under 55). From what I've seen online, median salary for a systems admin, which is basically what my job mostly entails, is around $73k USD... So I'm around $20k/yr shy.

I know network admins are similar, depending on the complexity/importance of the network they administrate. I'm aware of people in networking that are making more than 100k USD a year; and right now I consider that to be where things start to cap off for networking. I'd be pretty happy with $73k USD.

Yep, I'm sure they do.

Realistically, does any average consumer know what's on which circuit?

Spanning the split phase will screw you up, across breakers won't be fun but shouldn't pose any serious problems, as long as it's not in different sides of the split phase.

I'm pretty sure they say this because actually explaining what will work and what won't either requires significant prior knowledge of power systems, or a couple of paragraphs of explainers before you can get a rough picture of what the hell they're driving at.

Everyone I know who has used powerline, just plug it in and see if it works. Those who were lucky, say it's great and works without issue, etc. Those who were not lucky say the opposite.

I'm just over here watching the fireworks, eating popcorn.

This is the main reason why I quit Facebook and other services. Anytime you access them from mobile via a web browser it corners you into a "download our app" page. Facebook started doing it with messenger and I knew I had to get out.

I'm not giving Zuckerberg that level of access to my data.

I have a problem with the cold. Mainly that I never know how much I need to wear.

Like a good Northerner, I layer my clothes, and if I wear too many, I end up sweating. It's terrible to have a sweaty body while my hands, feet, and face freeze. If I wear too few clothes, then I'm just cold all over.

I can't seem to regulate adequately. I'm always either too hot or too cold.

If it's hot out, then I'm just hot all over. It seems worse, but it's actually much easier to cope with.

I just want to be a consistent temperature.

Cool weather, like between freezing and like 20C/68F, I'm pretty golden. On the low end, a light jacket with a sweater, and on the higher end, just a light sweater or something and I'm fine. Anything below zero.... I'm generally uncomfortable.

IMO, billionaires are a symptom of the system in which I'm underpaid, which is the cause of a nontrivial number of my concerns.

Financial stress has been a constant companion for me, money doesn't solve all my problems, but it certainly would relieve my financial stressors.

If billionaires were less common, it would be because they invested more into their workforce, and paying them appropriately for their contributions to the business. Billionaires exist because a large group of people worked very hard for less money than they deserved, so that they could become a billionaire.

The reason we should be angry at billionaires is because they're usually the one dictating how much our contributions are worth (or rather, how much they're not worth). They make the rules, set the goal posts, and determine how valuable we are (how much we are paid).

They're a symptom of a broken system, they're also the reason why the system is broken.

So I disagree with the initial assertion that my problems are not because someone is a billionaire. A nontrivial amount of my problems are exactly because someone is a billionaire. They stole the wages that I deserved (along with untold numbers of my co-workers), so they could become a billionaire, and I can be drowning in debt trying to make it through, paycheque to paycheque.....

Fuck billionaires.

What, like the CCNA? Which I achieved and it expired last year, and got me nowhere?

I will say that the support I got from co-workers when I was no longer working there. I got a number of messages about how disappointed they were about losing me from the team, etc.

None of that helped me find new employment, nor did it help me move up while I was there, but I was well liked.

I prefer linkin_park_numb.mp3.com

It just hit different

I feel this, especially since I'm more into networking, but my work is more generalist.

I open my mouth about networking and people's eyes glaze over. Even very experienced senior people can't really understand what I'm talking about when it comes to some of the more intermediary networking concepts. Meanwhile I tune into a podcast that's networking focused and they're basically speaking Latin for me.

There's so much that I don't know. I get the broad strokes of things but I'm hopelessly lost on so many of the more nuanced bits of networking.

I really want to break away from generalist work and get into a network focused position, but after 10 years as a generalist in various MSP companies, most places won't take me seriously as a networker and won't even sit down for an interview.

I'm good at other stuff, damn near expert level with some things, but my passion is networks and the workplaces I've been at just don't care to help me learn any of it. My current place barely has any networking more complex than a profile based L2L VPN.... Switches are basically ignored, and VLANs are rare.

I facepalm every time I discover that the guest network is just bridged into the same subnet as the LAN. I've raised the issue a few times and never been given the green light to fix it, often because the network isn't able to be managed remotely.

You kids. Got off my lawn. Leave me in peace with my scour.net.

I don't think either answer is wrong.

This is why I can't work in an office. The last one I worked in, people kept waking up to chat "for a sec", when it took at least 10 minutes regardless of the inquiry.

Just as I'm starting to get myself back into my workflow.... "Hey, you got a sec?"

Sure, looks like I'm not going to get anything fucking done today, so why the fuck not. The only people I'm disappointing is the employer. I can have a chat. It's fine. Not like this will negatively affect my ongoing employment.