Around 2-3 times a year, we will do a one shot in person with our friends. He has suggested I join his group that plays twice a week, but I have autism and ADHD and struggle to sit still for longer than an hour. I get restless if I’m not up and doing things. I also can’t concentrate long enough either. 2-3 times a year is doable, I can get up and go make a cup of tea/chill with the cat etc and then go back to the table. Twice a week he’s sat in his man cave for around 4 hours, it’s not something I can do. Plus I like he’s got his own thing to do.

I’ve spoken to him about avoiding issues, he then just tries to avoid that conversation. Therapy has been suggest, couples and individual (I already see a psychotherapist every other week), he’s said maybe.

I haven’t played with his group, but we’ve done one shots in person with our friends. I have autism and ADHD and really struggle to 1. Sit still for longer than an hour 2. concentrate long enough on what’s going on.

A one shot once every few months is kind of doable, a campaign twice a week would literally be impossible. Plus I love that he has his own hobbies

He started during lockdown as something to do. Before we met, he would play twice a week, just on different days. It worked better for the group to do Monday and Thursdays, and has been like that since last year I believe. Saturday sessions started a couple of months ago

This has been spoken about a few times over the past couple of months. I love that he’s got his own hobbies and I have mine, it’s just frustrating how easily I’m forgotten. He’s absolutely obsessed with DND, any free time he’s making new characters and creating maps for future sessions etc. he does have avoidance issues. I’ve been in therapy for a few years so am able to open up and express myself. He’s not able to and just nods/agrees to get strained conversations over with

Sundays he works, I’m off. He may finish at 6/7pm, usually has to work though. On Saturdays he travels 20-25 minutes to go and play DND in person, Mondays and Thursdays he plays online. Unfortunately this isn’t the first time we’ve had this conversation. I’ve said in the past that I feel as though gaming/DND is his top priority. He denies it, but it’s happened again. Mondays and Thursdays online are the same group, it’s a different group then on Saturdays. Stopping a Monday or Thursday session is an absolute no go. In fairness, that was something he did before we met. I’m okay with him wanting to do that in the evenings to unwind etc. these Saturday sessions have only been happening the past couple of months so it’s relatively new. If anything, I’d hope he would do maybe only one Saturday session a month, two at a push. Hope that’s given some more context

It is, but he’s the restaurant manager and decides to work shorter days so he has the evenings off to either play DND or have his daughter