I mostly play on tgstation's european server Terry, which often gets up to 100 players in the busy hours.

I know exactly the kind of anxiety you mention when it comes to having to learn a new role. That was partly why I also had the idea of installing a server locally to tinker with the mechanics in, which fortunately tgstation actually makes very easy. My problem then is that I only have like 10 minutes alone on the station before the power runs out, and I have to go set up the solar panels to continue my experiments. Turns out being solo crew on a space station isn't all that easy.

Space Station 13.

Too many amazing moments and memories to even count, always more to learn. I love how the open source nature of the game means there's many different servers branching off from each other, running their own custom versions of the game. Smaller servers "downstream" pick and choose which features they want to keep when the upstream servers implement something new.