I first informed him I wanted him to move over 2 years ago, but he never left. Hopefully this will finally be resolved in the next week. I'm at the end of my rope, barely surviving in my own home. I hide in my bedroom, while he roams the house making a mess...I want him to be happy and healthy but that won't happen while he's in my house. We're both miserable.

What I've found that helps me with this is follow through on the worry. For example, maybe I'm worried my boyfriend will leave me, and to follow through on that I think "then what happens?" Well, I would be depressed for awhile, and then eventually get over it. I'll go through the stages of grief for the death of the relationship but I will survive and move on. This Follow Through thought pattern works best on situations you have actual control over in your day to day life.

Another thought is "you can't control everything but you can control how you react to things".

I know nothing about psoriatic arthritis but I do know a little about joint inflammation. I read about how an imbalance of omega fatty acids can cause inflammation and after taking a fish oil pill most of the pain went away in my knees. Would that be something you could try?

Kicking my ex out. I'm terrible at any kind of confrontation and at this point I do have the option of calling the police to assist. I just know that I am a doormat and am afraid I will cave if he gives me a sob story. He's had over two years to get his shit together and leave but it's come to forcefully removing him. I could use someone besides the police with a firm voice to convince him to get up and moving.

Shit. Too far to drive. I would've if i was within 3 hours.

Where do you live? I love smoked food and will eat just about anything you set in front of me. And yes I'm serious.