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Maybe it's a regional thing, but I don't think so. I've known a number of people who worked in restaurants, and the waiters and bussers were always separate jobs, very clearly different in their roles. A lot of times someone who was a bussers for a while first would end up becoming a waiter.

Yes, "bus boy" is another term for it, phased out for obvious reasons but I think even back in the good old chuddy prewoke days, they were called bussers too.

But no, the OP image is definitely a waiter since she's taking an order, a busser would not do that. The waiter takes the order and brings the food (among other things) but a busser cleans the tables afterwards and brings all the used dishes to dishwashers. They set up the place and like has been said, move stuff that needs moving and clean up things that need to be cleaned up. The busser usually has no contact with the patrons/customers. They will more often be seen pushing carts with dishes, both clean and dirty, but the waiters do not deal with that kind of thing.

It also matters what kind of establishment it is. If it's a little cafe, you're more likely to have the waiter doing the table cleanup, but I would guess that's only because there isn't enough volume to need a busser. The OP pic is of a kind of place that doesn't exist much anymore unless its as a kind of nostalgia gimmick. It's a fast food place where a person brings the food out to your car instead of going through a drivethrough.

Without the item moving component, most consider it functionally a different role, at least in my experience, where it wouldn't be described as waiting tables.

I mean waiter and table-busser are two distinct jobs at most restaurants. There's overlap in what they do, but still, there is a lot more to being a waiter than moving stuff around. There's more to it for table-bussers too, but just "moving stuff" is closer to their job description than it is for waiters.

not let himself seem like he's minimizing the fear of Jews in New York and elsewhere feel from the threat of hate against them.

Yes, Mamdani should absolutely not minimize the fears of Jews, for many Jews fear being lumped in and associated with the hate-group movement known as Zionism. It is important that he make a clear statement on the distinction that Jews are not Zionists (not by default, though sadly some Jews have bought into the Nazi-like cult of Zionism) and Zionists are not necessarily Jews. It must be reiterated that Judaism is completely distinct from Zionism, the Nazi-like fascist cult, and to conflate the two is deeply antisemitic. Mamdani would do well to make it known that he will not stand for this kind of slander of the Jewish people and that he will do whatever he can with his powers as Mayor to prevent any such attempts to further smear Jewish people with the Zionist label. Mamdani should remind all of New York City that Jews are lovingly welcomed, but the antisemitic Zionists shall not be tolerated.

I wonder what old Bernard's reaction would have been if Mamdani had responded to him with something like that.

I still don't fully get it. Are the silhouette heads in the red pointer tabs a reference to the sex offender registry list or something?

Why yes, yes I do think Linux was originally created by a Finnish person. This is the comment you said was "dead wrong":

You're on a platform made by communists, there are a lot of us here.

This is not "dead wrong," this is a fact. One you're tried (and failed) to deny so now you're moving the goalposts. It's so fucking obvious I don't know why you would want to keep digging yourself into a deeper hole. It's funny to watch, though. Lemmy does not just "happen to be federated with communist communities." Lemmy was made. by. communists. And now others, including some right wing dipshits (not unlike yourself), are using it as well. The complete opposite of how you were trying to paint the situation.

Do you think FOSS means the software magically appears without anyone creating it? You do, don't you, you fucking idiot. Lemmy, the open-source project to make a reddit-like social media platform was invented and coded by communists. This is a well known fact. But you have made it very clear you have no problem denying reality so long as it fits your cringy, simplistic beliefs.

I just saw this comment. But you... you are the one who shit your pants, but thankfully the mods removed your comment so we didn't have to keep hearing about it. You can't even follow what's happening in a thread. /facepalm.

To their credit there are a number of comments in that thread suggesting pirating, even in the thread of the top comment.

Here's one, looks like mods removed the comment, probably for telling everyone to pirate, but maybe not because others are saying the same and they're still there.

"I shit my pants and I still think it smells good! Stop clearing the room of my stench you commie SOB."

Wow... what a great way to own us.

If i could be bold I think the commonality with chuds that you're worried about is having no sense of style

This is it exactly. You nailed what the concern really is.

As for the rest, that is really detailed awesome advice thank you. Hopefully at some point I will want to actually develop some sort of style and what you're describing is in line with what I imagined that might be like, so I'm saving this comment and hopefully referring back to it. But for the moment, I just wanted to not be too visible while also not giving off a redditor vibe, but maybe that's not possible. Might be one of those things a person just has to put the work into if they don't want to garner the wrong impressions.

I hope so. 90s grunge was more my default even if I missed that scene by long shot.

Or, is this about looking like a chud, or just not feeling as comfy dressing unassuming and masculine?

I do want to look unassuming. I'm pretty bad with social anxiety and most of the time I just want to go unnoticed. But I worry even that in going unnoticed I'll give off the wrong impression. Chud is an extreme I probably shouldn't have used because I don't think anyone would ever look at me and think gun totin' confederate flag waving chud or wannabe cop or some shit. Fortunately I have not a single one of the things you listed as your flags of chuds, even the bootcut jeans.

The worry is looking more like the aloof redditor, new athiest or even altright leaning brand of chud, or maybe I'm using the word chud wrong. As far as the nonbinary thing, that's a lot to get into, but just as far as dress style, I don't really want to look masculine OR feminine. I used to wear more feminine coded things when I was younger, but these days I feel like the plainer the better. I do have some leftist t-shirts, but I save those for certain occasions or when I'm going to be around certain people, or even trying to do leftist signaling without libs knowing with my All Cats are Beautiful shirt. Most of the time all I wear is a plain dark color with NO messaging at all not even a visible logo. I guess it's less that I want to indicate my politics and more that I don't want to announce the wrong politics when I'm just going about my day.

To be totally honest, I posted mostly because of the glasses I'll be getting and I don't want frames that make me look like Vaush.

What you suggested is all great advice for looking leftist though and because you suggested it, I'll see if there's a local org selling lefty merch as a means of support.

Thanks, that's the kind of advice I was hoping for about the frames. Yeah I should just pick something that seems a little off kilter, I just don't know what that is even.

I tend to think there's a certain type of rectangular rimless glasses that read stemlord redditor

That's what I mean. I have an old pair of glasses someone else picked out for me exactly like that and that is exactly the kind of vibe I want to avoid. A while back on one of the few good leftist subs someone posted a pic of themselves and people were saying to lose the redditor glasses and that the poster looked like (cw) Vaush. But I all was thinking when I saw the pic was "shit, he looks like me!"

Since then I was thinking I should just go with Brace Belden style glasses next time.

I should have said this in the post, but I also tend not to want to stand out and just be mostly unassuming and that's where it can be tricky. I actually did used to dye my hair blue and green in my teens and early twenties as well as try to do designs with nail polish. But now it just doesn't really fit me. Guess I'm an old stick in the mud.

I'm with you on all of that. If people are around me for a little bit and talk to me, I'd like to think it becomes clear quick that I'm not a miserable chud. I'm more talking about just being out and around strangers when there isn't much direct interacting going on.

That's a good idea. Part of my issue is I never want to stand out or be noticed, I just also don't want to give bad vibes. But showing solidarity is good and important. I should try to get over myself, and that's a small but meaningful way to do both.

A friend even gave me a keffiyeh but other than at protests it feels like just wearing it around is like cultural appropriation or something on top of very much making me stand out.