Didn't find it blunt at all. Very fair and important question. I am a researcher in autism related field (I also have imposter syndrome about calling myself autism researcher, I prefer language researcher) and keep myself immersed in all the latest research. Yet I don't feel like I have the knowledge required to decide and be sure I am right. It is somewhat a me thing but I recognize it is largely the unavoidable outcome of medicalizing an identity (would love to hear what others here think about autism as an identity). The individual can not be the authority.

Sorry to hear about your struggle with trying to get a diagnosis. May I ask, are you a woman?

Thank you for asking this. If I am being completely honest, I asked this to get a sense of whether I am "valid" because I am self identified too. The internalized imposter syndrome is strong with me. The toxic effect of this is that I project my own insecurity onto other self identified people sometimes and feel like I need to know the composition of the space to decide how "authentic" the expression of autism is there. I am fully aware it is an extremely harmful view to have, but I unfortunately do have it.

Amplify if true! I am a noob but what you said makes sense