Employers will quickly learn that leashing a person to their laptop will not prevent wasted time, it'll cause them to waste time in other ways, and will drive away talent. The only harm is when it impacts outcomes, which is easier and more beneficial to track.

It's pretty obvious when someone is underperforming, you don't need to know whether they've been doing the laundry between meetings.

I wanted to pay it down while the rates were low, 10% would've started off ok, but obviously the lower it got, the less that was. Makes sense from the bank's pov, seems a fair trade-off for a fix.

It just feels like a huge gamble. I went the tracker route between 2012 and 2018 only because I didn't want the overpayment restrictions imposed by fixed deals.

Luckily it worked out, had I gone for a fixed rate I'd still be slowly paying it off, at a higher rate.

For every person who did well, there's someone else who didn't, mostly through unlucky timing.

It's crazy in the UK too, where 3-5 year fixes are common. I've know folk who at renewal next year will be paying £500-£800 extra, each month.

My biggest impact has been gas and elec, which maybe added that amount to my annual bill. I can't imagine the stress.

I got deeply into this (genre?) when I burned out on a combination of playing big/tough games and the stresses of life. I also enjoyed the pace of Outer Wilds and Subnautica. Some other favourites:

• Supraland 1/2 (low combat, light hearted metroidvania, I loved it)
• Psychonauts 2 (amazing adventure game, big but not hard. I loved collecting everything, it was a great balance)
• Tinykin (similar adventure, a bit like Pikmin, which is also great. Lots of chilled collecting)
• Spiritfarer (lots of freedom, loose plot, not overwhelming)
• Breath of the Wild (do what you want, very nice discovery elements)
• TOEM, A Short Hike, GRIS and Cocoon (light adventure / puzzle games, peaceful but could be boring if you want action)
• Yokus Island Express (lovely metroidvania, chilled gameplay, not overwhelming)
• It Takes two (humour, light combat - played with my young son)
• Unravel 1/2 (easy-ish puzzles)
• Weirdly, I found Sniper Elite 4/5 fairly chill, lots of scoping out areas
• Overcooked 2 (zero stress if you play practice mode a ton before attempting a level. I found it a very zen/flow game)
• Peggle 1/2 (can be frustrating, but is very low stakes and arcadey. Lovely for short sessions)
• Wilmots Warehouse (can be stressful if you take the timer seriously, but I loved all the organising. Very satisfying)
• Vampire Survivors (can get a bit much, but pretty simple and disposable)

There are tons more, I deal with a lot of anxiety!

Some games I was recommended for this purpose that didn't land for me:

• Powerwash sim / other simulators (these feel like a second job for me. Constant grind and focus on perfection wasn't helpful)
• Tetris Evolution / Lumines (either gets too fast / hard, or gets boring)
• Stardew / Terraria (in theory these look great, but I find huge sandboxes too overwhelming. Always feels like I should be doing more stuff / doing it better)
• Roguelikes (I like Hades, Dead Cells, etc, but they're very stressful and frustrating when so much hinges on survival)

Finally, I'd suggest trying a solo board game. More tactile and relaxing alternative to screen time.

I agree with your last bit, and I know plenty of people who are clearly manipulated by their news feeds and targeted advertising, but I'm not one of them. I don't use ad blockers because it's a valid revenue mechanism - I have friends who pay their bills through advertising. But I'm blind to them, I've never clicked on an advert and actively avoid suggestions.

I'm worried about the societal consequence, but doesn't that issue need to be addressed by engaging in the politics, not by me using Google less? Data harvesting is unavoidable without huge inconvenience, and life is hard enough.

I feel the same way about climate change - I can reduce, reuse and recycle all I want, but I see my neighbours driving and flying everywhere and filling their bins every week, I probably sacrifice to make zero difference.

I don't mind one dog in an office, but how does that scale? Even two dogs feels like a bad idea, let alone multiple. I agree that if you have to leave your dog alone for 6hrs, you probably shouldn't own a dog.

As for restaurants, you can't be comparing dogs to small humans. It's more appropriate to compare dogs to other animals - should I be allowed to bring my cat, or an obedient pet rat or snake to a restaurant?

It's bizarre how dogs have this universal free pass.

Totally agree. I feel bad for this dog, it needs more space and stimulation

Wtf .. 16gb .. please prioritise that feature.

Live in a quiet neighborhood and some bellend decides to get a huge German shepherd. Has to build a high fence to ensure the thing doesn't jump their 6' garden wall, plus it barks at everything, all day. The kids in the house nextdoor are scared of it, it pulls and barks constantly when out for walks and if it ever got loose, it would cause chaos.

But apparently they're all soft loving creatures on the inside, and more importantly, said bellend feels like a big man when out for a walk.

More breeds should be muzzled and restricted from residential areas.

Love that luck analogy, I'll be using that.

When I'm told I've been lucky, it's sometimes that I've just been really deliberate and considered in my actions.

IKR, seems way more common for men to do this, especially when kids come along. If I were the one bearing children, there's no way I'd do it unmarried.

Had a convo with my mum last month, where she was concerned that I wasn't looking to supercharge my career as I enter my 40s. She couldn't understand why I'd declined an interview with Meta.

I had to spell it out.. I won't miss that extra money. I don't have an expensive lifestyle, and I don't want one. I'd miss the time lost with my kids, and I'd sure as shit regret the stress and anxiety of additional work pressure.

But then, I also had to explain why staying in an unhappy marriage "for the kids" is infinitely worse than peaceful and happy co-parenting.

Boomers. Sigh.

I agree on performance, but I'm well paid and would tolerate almost zero unjustified inconvenience. I can afford to take a cut, but in reality would probably earn even more elsewhere.

More experienced folk are also more likely to go freelance, since they have the skills, experience and contacts. Perm roles only make sense when they bring stability and benefits. I expect to see this a lot more, if RTO continues.

I also find the "just look how bad the hands are heh heh heh" thing so dumb .. it's going to learn how to draw hands pretty quickly

This is not news. Stop upvoting Twitter spam, it's not even vaguely interesting.

And within 12 hours, have forgotten 90%

Absolutely fine to politely ask for a salary range, in my experience. I've never found they hide it, but the ranges can be broad.

Blaming young adults and families is unfair. Many institutions need to be held to account for advertising outcomes which don't materialise for their students.

However long it would take me to find a tank of nitrogen to strap to my face for happy sleep time.