Is it a reasonable expectation to check peoples profiles when commenting on their comments to ensure I am pronouning them correctly?
Is it a reasonable expectation to check peoples profiles when commenting on their comments to ensure I am pronouning them correctly?
Looks like my account was banned/restricted for the above interaction, have already sent the mods on world an email asking if they'd be willing to reverse that. Had an episode of psychosis a few months ago where I did say some offensive stuff, (understandably) got a 3 month ban on .lol for that, so could see my account having been flagged.
I uh, I don’t think it’s reasonable to expect people to check others profiles to ensure we are correctly pronouning them… when making a throw away comment that is less than 10 words involving a ludicrously common saying. Jerboa does not show users pronouns. I could switch to an app that DOES show the pronouns, do any Lemmings have a recommendation for a free Lemmy mobile app that has that feature?
Edit: Edie chimed in, Jerboa does show pronouns. It's a formatting issue with mobile vs browser (She has them on individual text lines so they don't appear on mobile).
Was just going to respond to the user in question to let them know I wasn't purposefully trying to offend that individual, to discover I'm not able to post or make comments on world now, so figured I'd see what y'alls opinion on the matter is.
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Doesn’t really matter here. The saying is “the man, the myth, the legend”. If you go changing every part of it you might as well have not said anything at all because it won’t make any sense.
The Ma'am the myth the legend is right there though :D
And if the commenter had been a trans man? Then it seems like deliberate misgendering because you went out of your way to chang a commonish meme phrase
I was just making a joke here.
I thought we settled on "figure of speech doesn't really need to get gendered"ah sorry, my bad
Agree. Some expressions become so iconic they get genderless. Just like sometimes it's accept to use "man" and "dude" as a genderless exclamation
I once got a temporary ban on another platform for arguing/suggesting that dude has become genderless.
I know multiple woman that use "dude" that way, but some people are somewhat understandably sensitive on the topic of gender.
it depends a lot on context tbh, usually its fine but you can kinda tell when someone is calling you a dude to be an ass
Regardless of your opinion on whether dude has become genderless or not (I also use dude for my friends of any gender), the word is a gendered term that has become ubiquitous. If someone doesn't want me to use "dude" referring to them, I won't. It's not good to assume, so until I know that someone doesn't mind, I'm not going to use gendered terms contrary to their gender. I wouldn't call a man "sis" or "girl" the same way I would women I'm friends with, unless I know that doesn't make them uncomfortable. I wouldn't call a woman "bro" or "guy" the same way I would men I'm friends with unless I checked. All of those terms are gender nonspecific for me, but they might make someone who doesn't have my lived experience uncomfortable.
Exactly this.