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Imagine being stuck in your "I am the provider of this family" gender role so much that you turn down this kind of offer.
Shit. I took this offer for 10k more than I was making and benefits.
People underestimate the value of decent family benefits and the cost of child care. The benefits of having a stay at home parent breaks even way sooner than people think.
Depends on where in the world you are. Pre-kindergarten-daycare for a toddler costs about 300 € where I am, so two working parents are taking home way more than they have to pay additionally.
I would hope parents understand that spending time with their kids has value that cannot be replaced by money.
I mean, you do what you have to to get by. Just don't choose to spend time at work instead of with your kids.
Are you a parent yourself?
Are you implying my point is invalid if I'm not? That's called ad hominem.
Respond to the point made, not the person making it.
That isn't an ad hominem. That would be if they called you stupid. It's actually a very reasonable discussion point to ask if you have personal experience with this topic. This is a situation where having kids is probably important to make a well reasoned argument.
Kind of ironic how you - instead of responding to the question asked - went into attack mode. There was no attack in there at all. In order to respond to the point made, it's important to know if it is a point made from personal experience (as a parent) or from a theoretical standpoint of a non-parent. It does not invalidate the point itself, yet changes it's perspective.
My answers will be different if there's a fellow parent with different life experiences than me or if there is someone who's seen parenthood more from the outside. Both change nothing regarding the validity, yet your reaction to a dentist telling something about teeth would be different than your reaction to a maths teacher telling you something about teeth, wouldn't it?
No, it wouldn't, because that would be judging the statement based on the person making it, which is ad hominem.
When COVID was here and everyone was saying to wear a mask, were you one of the ones saying "you're not a doctor"?
This is the way.
I would work even if I didn't need to. Right now with some cutbacks we could probably make it on my wife's salary. I like producing.