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Phone calls are rude. They demand your immediate attention with a loud alarm and no regard for where you might be or what you are doing. Texts/email are respectful. They make a small chime just to let you know they are around, then wait patiently for you to read and respond.
That's the point. You get an answer immediately. Also it's way faster than texting since it's synchronous
Which is great when people use a phone call in situations where an immediate response is warranted -- not so great when I realize I've had the device occupying one of my hands and my attention for 10 minutes, and the speaker has yet to make a point
There are certain people who when I see calling, I just won't pick up. On the other hand, when the phone rang at 4am and it was my brother, I knew something terrible had happened. If he had been a frequent caller/offender, I'd have silenced and ignored the call, but I'm really thankful that I picked up. It's like a "boy who cried wolf" situation.
Wish I could get my elderly relatives to understand this.
Why not just mute the phone while you're not interested in being contacted synchronously, and rejecting calls when you don't have the ability to talk synchronously?
Wild take to be honest, it's essentially the equivalent of saying that in-person conversations are rude and that people should send you a physical letter instead.
Because some things warrant my immediate attention, and most don't. I am never interested in being contacted synchronously unless it's something actually urgent. And because of that I can tell people that if they need me, they can call me and if I'm at all able I will answer immediately, otherwise I will probably answer later, aka whenever I happen to see it.
I for one do, which I why my phone autoblocks all incoming calls.
If someone knocked on my door without warning for a non emergency I would find that quite rude.
Warning: A bunch of kids may knock on your door in a couple weeks.
Yeah, it's not like we have complex social rituals, informal rules and elaborate signs and calls designed to establish the appropriateness of in-person interactions. I just punch anyone in the face that I don't want to talk to me, that usually gets the message across. And if I want someone's attention I just scream my demands at the top of my lungs an inch away from their face. If they don't punch my face I assume they are fine with the conversation.
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In my experience, the younger you are, the more likely you are to find phone calls to be irritating at best. People in their 20s and under almost always would prefer you to text them than call them. And I'm in my 40s and I agree. I've never liked the phone. I didn't like it when it was all landlines and I don't like it now. Texting was a godsend.
Actually landlines was better... hear me out.
"Fuck you, I'm not at the house." ¯_(ツ)_/¯
Wham bam thank you ma'am, you can't contact me unless it's on my terms.
Counter: "sorry, left my phone at home"
Same excuse can still be used.
Yeah and there are also times when texting makes the situation a lot more annoying but a 2 minute phone call does the opposite. People sometimes text about things that should be a phone call and it's just silly. As someone who has always had social anxiety especially around phone calls, I've learned we often ought to prioritize context over one minute of feeling anxious
I always find it weird that this issue comes up online over and over and everyone is tripping over each other to damn phone calls. Seems childish to me
Yeah and there are also times when texting makes the situation a lot more annoying but a 2 minute phone call does the opposite.
I honestly can't think of one. I'd rather spend five minutes writing a text than two minutes on the phone. That's two minutes I have to talk to someone without looking at them.
Occasionally we have to set up events and doing a conference call is a hell of a lot less annoying than doing a group chat. Anyone who doesn't want to be part of the planning can just opt out of the call rather than have their phone bing a million times in five minutes.
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That insult was definitely warranted and appropriate to the discussion. Clearly this is the way forward.
But hey at least I didn't interrupt your 24 solid hours of avoiding aural stimuli.
Again, totally warranted personal attack considering how many times I hurled invectives your way.
Remind me- how many times have I insulted you so far?
Wow, this is fragility
you have 189 lemmy comments in 2 months of having the account... you shan't be personally insulting anyone with shit you make up in your head about this kind of stuff lmao
touch grass
I don't know what this means but as with every other person suggesting I go outside, it is highly dubious that suggestion isn't projection
Instead of telling me what to do, why don't you explain your position?
Telling someone "no" is rude without supporting thoughts, which makes me think you aren't a good authority on rudeness.
if you find a comment on an anonymous message board saying "maybe explain" personally demanding and rude you may want to seek therapy. And no that's not an insult, most people probably should be in therapy but if something so benign is upsetting, you might wanna prioritize it.
The onus is not on me to have to debunk a position that's only popular in certain circles. This opinion runs counter to the last 100 years of common sense.
You have added nothing to this conversation.
You are as rude and intrusive as unexpected phone calls are.
Telling me to get therapy is hilarious, you keep trying to tell me what to do.
Fragile af
You are very bad at estimating other people's emotions. Or you're projecting..
Go back to enjoying phone calls, there's no shame!
How so?
You don't have to answer it or have your ringer on. Trying to communicate in real time is not somehow rude.
So I have to make adjustments to how I use my device because you want to try to interrupt me and that's somehow not rude?
It's rude to think your time is so valuable that no matter how it affects anyone else, you should never have to respond in real time ever.
Also no of course it's not rude for you to need to adjust to other people. That's just called society and it's kind of weird you could be old enough to write these comments but not get that
Then you can adapt to my preferences and not call.
Well my opinion is that there is no reason for a company to call me unless it's actually urgent and in my own best interest, at that point it is perfectly fine to call.
Some companies call regardless of the reasons with no care at all about the customer/client/potential customer, all just to make sure to force a response. Just send the damn message instead of disturbing me at work, and If I have any sort interest, opinion, or care what so ever, then I'll get in touch at my own discretion.
Having customers isn't a "right" for companies, but they do seem to believe so.
Yeah I get not wanting companies to call. I just don't really find it a huge deal. Unfortunately we get asked for our number all the time and it's usually not needed. But in my experience they rarely ever use it at least. there are definitely times I wish they would. For example, FedEx thinks I'm not home two days in a row with a huge box of wine. If they just called I'd come out and get it and save everyone trouble. They have my number, but instead they choose to lug around a very heavy package a second day then I end up having to drive somewhere and get it later.