if it was about wage gaps and the joke was about women people would call it mysogyny not "dark humor" so it's not unreasonable to take his comment as misandrist.
You're not helping to eliminate bigotry by enabling their hypocrisy, you're only helping them.
What you're not getting, and what you don't understand, is that they're not actually accusing the post of bigotry in good faith. They're doing it only to further the interests of misogynists, and their hypocrisy is the proof. Unless you want us to believe they actually care about what happens to women.
The motivation of a speaker dictates the context of their statements and therefore the truth value of it.
This is why we respond by dismissing their accusations -- and yours. If you cared about bigotry, it'd be you calling them out. It'd be you telling them what you just told me.
So for those of you playing at home, what do we do with blatantly hypocritical bigots and abusers, and their enablers? That's right, we dismiss and ignore them.
Enabling their hypocracy? It isn't exactly unfair to call out this kind of joking when a cornerstone of men's issues is that they often aren't taken seriously when things like mental health issues arise. They're often dismissed with jokes or belittled.
In other words, the person who came in joking failed to read the room and got called out for it. Would you defend someone saying, even facetiously 'bet she's just saying that for attention ' in a rape support thread?
Cry harder, you whiny, enabling, sexist piece of shit. You're exactly the person defending the monsters who demand to know what women were wearing when they were raped. That's exactly what you're defending, because you're sad other dick wielders are on the receiving end of the kind of treatment they've been giving women for thousands of years.
Cry harder, you whiny, enabling, sexist piece of shit.
you’re sad other dick wielders
You really expect people to take your opinions to heart and maybe change their minds and agree with you, while speaking to them like this?
If you're here to just make yourself feel better, especially if you've been hurt, then by all means, continue. We don't mind the verbage pollution. /s
However, if you're here to express ideas and have conversation that may lead to understanding, you'll need to work on your temper/tone.
And if you just want to flame me for pointing this out, then continue on, Internet Warrior. Or don't, you're not making things any better here if you do.
Do you think I do or do you think I just enjoy watching sexists clutch their pearls and squeal like piggies when they're told the truth?
Maybe you should go outside if you are so angry at me that you're going to waste your time arguing with someone here laughing at you to make yourself feel better.
Oh horseshit, you said you're cool with making bigoted jokes now that the shoe is on the other foot. Get fucked with the whole righteous indignation spiel.
Lol die mad misogynist, you want to subjugate women and completely crush them under your heel, then you're going to get a taste of your own medicine. And you deserve to have the whole bottle shoved down your throat, no sugar, no honey.
Take your butthurt and multiply it 10,000 times and you will understand a fifth of a third of a quarter of the hell you put women through, even today now, on the regular.
I called you on bullshit, and you're fantasising about my imagined political ideology, my opinions concerning women, where I live (protip: EU citizens can't vote in US elections) and my marital status.
My guy, they're going to do it regardless and they're concern trolling to get suckers like you to side with them so they can continue treating women like shit. And they did it. They found their sucker.
Sexism is. He only cares about men's interests, not any other gender. It's why he clutches pearls at discrimination against men but tells women to just deal with it.
I just saw someone being unfair towards a group of people and no one calling them out. If someone were to also make a joke at any minority group/protected class without anyone calling them out I'd do the same thing.
It's just kinda hard to find people being misogynistic, racist, homophobic or whatever and no one calling them out at least here on lemmy. Which is good.
Sounds like you were just looking for an opportunity to spew your own misogyny. It came rather easily if not even a bit eagerly to you for an argument against it.
and despite how youre trying to sell it, it’s not ‘calling out’ someone when you precisely example it like you’re talking to a child.
And it is derailing, which is hypocritical.
And it’s aggressive.
So It misses the point your tying to argue it makes on so many levels.
It came rather easily if not even a bit eagerly to you for an argument against it.
I don't even know what that means.
I was being aggressive by illustrating different situations to show that it's unacceptable to anyone to make sexist jokes. But when it's a sexist joke against men you don't seem to care.
But what the hell am I derailing? The article said that suicides and overdoses are on the rise which cause early deaths disproportionately for men. Then the commenter said some dumb shit about health choices from Joe Rogan. There is no conversation here, OP just saw a chance to shit on meatheads but chose the wrong time and place.
And most importantly:
and despite how youre trying to sell it
*You're
So It misses the point your tying to argue it makes on so many levels.
Makes sense I guess but it still feels unfair. Like people can make jokes about men who are suicidal and overdosing but you can't make jokes about women's stereotypes?
To me it should be one or the other
1- You can make whatever jokes about any protected class or minority
2- You can't ever make jokes at the expense of a protected class regardless of how privileged they are
I mean I would definitely consider it in poor taste if a woman started making tone deaf jokes about male suicide rates. You get a lot more leeway when making fun of a group you are a part of. You combine that with the general assumption that everyone on the internet is male until proven otherwise, and yeah in this kind of forum it’s much more acceptable to make jokes at the expense of men than women.
There’s also a bit of a disparity in the examples you gave. The idea that men die earlier because they take medical advice from Joe Rogan is obviously not made in sincerity. The overwhelming majority of men have never listened to Joe Rogan and besides a few high profile examples I don’t think he actually gives that much medical advice. Though it would be harmful if people genuinely believed this was true, it doesn’t seem likely that anyone would.
On the other hand, Women being worse workers due to emotions or their periods or whatever is something a lot of people genuinely believe. In some circles those statements wouldn’t be considered jokes but rather serious opinions. Repeating those things, even if you don’t personally believe then, reinforces the ideas and is clearly harmful to women.
A similarly offensive “joke” at men’s expense would be something like “men die earlier because they’re too stupid to see a doctor”. This would be a bad joke, because it’s taking something which is basically true, men don’t see doctors as frequently, and tying it to a real and harmful stereotype, men are dumber than women.
You're right, the OP wasn't serious. But same as with misogynistic jokes, a lot of people could believe the Joe Rogan thing. I mean he does like carnivore diets, he puts vaccine skeptic people on his show, he took Ivermectin, and there is likely some other dumb shit he spews that would be harmful. I could easily see someone believing that he was a part of if not a big cause of male deaths in during the pandemic if you've not read the article.
The examples I gave were intentionally bad to show the difference in reaction in this community. But TBH, I see now that the reaction is not as one sided as I saw in the first place. Still fucked up though.