As a developer, I am absolutely amazed that any of this (all the software you are using, all of it) even works a little. So: no.
I independently came up with "federation" (as in thought of it but not exactly this, and was building on others work) as the basis for a masters thesis in the early 2000s but left the program to get a job so never saw it through.
So, no, I am not annoyed. I am amazed, grateful, impressed, and humbled but I am not annoyed.
Great take. Everything in the software world is held together with twine. It's a miracle that anything works. That's the only kind of miracle or magic that I believe in. As someone on a mailing list once said about networking, "it's two cans and some string."