It's kind of funny in a way but in my life I've had at least 5 men confused by how I'm "not gay."
I don't fit any stereotype so I haven't the slightest idea what makes people think that. I even had one creep that would come into the store I worked at years ago and ask "have they converted you yet?" (Both the managers were gay.)
I've quite literally never received any attention like that from women in my life.... I wish I was gay! I'd apparently have a much easier time instead of being single for the last almost decade now lol
I understand the whole "I can't simply change who I am" but from the opposite end. I'm cis and straight, there's nothing I can "change" to no be grossed out by the idea of sleeping with another man lol I even tried watching gay porn when I was 19-20ish just to see and yeah... Nope. Not my jam, which is kinda funny since I love asses, just not man ass lol
This is gonna sound like a #humblebrag but same. I've had drunken gay dudes thank me for existing because they found me that attractive. I know a decent amount of women find me attractive but it's nowhere near the same degree.
My wife is highly amused by it, but it's like damn, I'd be absolutely killing it if I was at all into dudes.
I don't even know what it is with me though. I look like Peewee Herman fell out of the ugly tree, hit every branch on the way down removing the hair from my head, got coverd in sap, then fell into a pile of hair that got stuck to my body and then the impact compressed me to 5'6 lmao
Although at that time I did have a full head of hair that was shoulder length lol
I'm bi or pan or something along those lines and I don't fit stereotypes either. When I came out to people at 17, the usual reaction was disbelief then followed up by questioning (being asked how did I know?) basically people were asking how sexually active I was. So now I wear pride bracelets or necklaces to show people I am out and proud.