Always being told you are wrong growing up puts pressure on masking to always try to be right and gives an all-or-nothing thinking.
It is OK to not be perfect. It is something I have recently accepted about myself, and hope others can as well. 🩷
This is something I've discovered about myself lately and I'm now trying to tackle, and hopefully start to dismantle.
I did a fuck up the other day and may have unintentionally offended someone (a combination of mental and sensory overload led to a louder than expected verbal outburst of frustration)
I've put out an apology and have asked for an accommodation to help with the sensory aspect, but I'm still churning inside and over thinking because of my shitty social and communication 'skills'
Thanks for your comment, it sums things up 'perfectly' 🤣
My mum said I am
Being bad at something and half assing can be step towards getting better at something.
I would argue that being bad at something is always a step towards getting better at it! Where else would you start?
Mom says I’m very smart and naturally gifted at many things.
that’s all the hype i needed to start my bootleg heart surgery!
Conversely, don't chastise or put down anyone that does take shortcuts for fun things where it just doesn't matter.
Being bad at something or not knowing something that you like is actually pretty nice because there is so much stuff you can still learn about it.
Except when you want to learn it but there isn't enough time to. Then it is nice and frustrating at the same time.
Funny. I've always been proud of understanding things deeper than people around me (or trying).
But at the same time those people around would treat as something miserable the fact that I don't even try to remember dates, numbers, names, other specific facts not necessary for understanding the whole architecture. I'm fine with that context, but it's obvious.
I resonate with this. I love astrophysics and space, but never bothered to learn the names and order of the planets of the solar system. Likewise, only recently I've put the effort to learn the order of the months, since not knowing it makes it very hard for me to remember birthdays of people. And I believe I've been hinted from people once close to me, that those type of things mean I only care about myself.
I’ve grown up with people around me constantly telling and shaming me for doing things wrong or only wanting to half-ass it, even if I just wanted to try something new.
It’s hard getting out of that mindset, especially since its now just me psyching myself out mentally, but it helped seeing this post
I prefer doing it right on the first try before I forget how to fix my projects when they are falling apart.
Lol don't ever say that car one out loud on Instagram.
(Don’t think I’m autistic): I didn’t know I half ass so much stuff in my life
I'm going to have to say it: why would you super glue parts of a model? It's a lot harder to use than poly cement?
