I want to enjoy those games so bad, but I always get so bogged down by the constant new equipment. I find myself spending 50% of the time comparing new equipment to what I already have.
What I do is dismantle everything that's not the highest gear quality. You can do that in the menu without looking at any individual items. Then disassemble weapons that aren't the type I'm using. Also doable without looking at any specific items.
Then I do a quick scan of new armor and throw out anything that's the wrong weight class. You can't do that automatically but it's pretty quick.
That makes the equipment game much faster. You'll be left with a handful of things to compare. And frankly I sometimes just skim through what's left for any unusual mods and then move on.
I also was overwhelmed at first but I realized a lot of it isn't important.