I think there is a constructive discussion to be had about the practical implications of changing (and unchanged) gender roles in dating for men. Unfortunately any attempt to have those discussions is being drowned out by dude-bro misogynists grifting for followers.
I wouldn't necessarily count you out. If you're not pulling out so-called evolutionary psychology to explain women to women, that's already a solid asset you have going for you. Add a compatible personality to that and you've got potential to build with
They Alpha males say they are the king of beasts but how do beasts lure a mate? They spend a year learning to dance, or sing, or building a home for their mate. I guarantee you that if you spend a year learning to do a dance it will get you a date. Singing? Easy. Large scale heavy labor project? Golden. It isn't hard, they are half way there.