I've found my finishing problem: I'm building things out of pine.
Traditional stain, gel stain, urethane, tung oil, danish oil...on oak, cherry or maple many of these look fine. No matter what I put on pine, it comes out looking like a septic prolapse.
Pine can be stained and finished. Oak, cherry, and maple can sometimes look like crap. It's a matter of preparing the wood properly. Try making sample boards. Sand consistently, don't skip grits, don't apply much pressure to the sander (let it do the work,) experiment with a pre-stain conditioner. It can help minimize splotching and some tooling marks.
Traditional (penetrating) stain needs to be applied evenly and benefits greatly from pre-stain conditioner.
Gel stains (sometimes called wiping stains, but that term gets misused) are wipe on, wipe off excess about five minutes later if you weren't already doing that. They are made to sink in a certain amount and stop.
Urethanes don't typically do well with back brushing, especially fast dry varieties. Spread urethanes thick and consistently and try not to go back over it. Lightly sand at 220 or 320 between coats and remove swarf with tack cloth or lint free cloth lightly dampened with alcohol.
Tung oils are rubbed in. Danish oils are applied thinly. These are relatively similar. Lightly sand between coats like above.
The book "Understanding Wood Finishing" by Bob Flexner is an astoundingly comprehensive book on the subject.
Don't give up on pine just yet. Hemlock, heart pine, many others can all be quite beautiful in the right setting and application. For rough stuff, try the pre-stain conditioner
I have used pre-stain conditioner as recommended by the manufacturer. The issue I've had with traditional stain is applying the topcoat lifted the stain back off.
The gel stain functioned reasonably well, but I didn't really get a depth of color I like. It came away looking kinda rustic. So I have my process if I ever get a contract with Cracker Barrel.
I've had such good results out of the few wiping oils/drying varnishes over hardwoods that I just can't bring myself to face the fuss and muss that comes in every can of urethane. I might experiment with wipe-on poly at some point. And that Minwax Polyshades product is just straight-up liquid project ruiner.
To be clear, I haven't worked with actual tung oil to date. I've used Minwax Tung Oil Finish on several products, which is a Danish oil-like product. As far as I can tell it's a blend of drying oil and urethane that may or may not have some tung oil in it IDK. I like this product for projects I don't intend to stain.
I think I have a process for surviving my current project with the Watco danish oil I've used on the tops: Where the manufacturer says to lightly wipe the surface with a rag dampened in natural (no added stain/dye) Danish oil, then immediately wipe dry on more porous woods, I'm going to go a full coat of natural before the dyed coat.
Coating chemistry aside, the faster I can get pitch pockets out of my life the better off the world will be.
I’ve built lots of stuff from pine and stained it, but I was never super happy with the result.
Some stains have a dual sample card where it shows how it will look on oak, and another on pine. I never got close to what their pine reference example looked like. It was like you need to have a few drinks first and then it looks sort of accurate.
That’s not to say that stained pine looks BAD in and of itself, but it feels dirty to even call it “staining” when it’s such a far cry from how hardwoods look when they’re finished.
Something something it’s called stain when it’s from the hardwood part of France, but here in Pine Country, we call it sparkling dye. 🤷
I think I've figured up a way to make the pine project I've been working on all November tolerable. Then I think I'm swearing it off as a material for furniture.
For pine especially, it is typically recommended before applying any stains. Prevents the blotches you will tend to get otherwise.
Also, there's a big difference between construction lumber and something like prime SYP/doug fir. One piece of advice I have seen is, if you want to build from construction pieces, avoid 2x4s. Buy 2x10s or 2x12s and rip the boards you need of out of them. Poor man's quarter sawn.
I really only used a 2x4 because I was trying out my new milling tools and just wanted something cheap to play with, and I figured I could get some use out of what I made, so I replaced my keyboard tray. I now buy rough sawn lumber from a local sawyer.
I'm just a passer-by here, but, I have a house with pine siding. It stains fine? Maybe we're not thinking of the same thing.
I've used Benjamin Moore's "ARBORCOAT Translucent Classic Oil Finish" tinted "Natural," as well as on my deck tinted "Cedar." For the sides facing South and West I would ideally re-stain every 3 years it looks like, and it does seem to be getting darker every time I do that.
I had always used this foaming wood cleaner, but one time in a pinch I bought the "normal" ... not-foaming cleaner, and that turned out to be a big mistake. This cleaner didn't clean so much as bleach, then when I put on the transparent stain it just looked like bleached wood. Luckily that was just a shed.
I’ve gotten a nice finish using a boatload of sanding and then either Briwax or stain, but it only really works if you want a pretty light finish at the end. I’m talking up to like 600-1k grit, too. But it does look damn shiny & good when you do it.
Rob Cosman has videos about this subject on YouTube, you should check it out. It is possible to finish pine. For me, most of the time it's just not worth it though.