Is there anywhere I can look for information that isn't either medical as fuck, or fetish shit. I just want to know stuff like how does sex work? Both pre and post op
Basically, it depends a lot and varies from people to people.
I heard several stories which I can tldr here, all for pre-op on hrt:
libido might go up or down
who you are attracted to might change or not
it might become harder to maintain erections and have orgasm
some types of stimulations might become more effective (vibrator, rapid small strokes) while others might become less (slow long strokes)
you might or might not need to rely more on feelings to reach orgasm rather than physical feelings
for me, pre op: 1. no change. 2. more open minded but still mostly into woman. lost some kinks I had before. 3. yes 4. yes. 5. always has been, even before hrt.