I do find it hard to work out what constitutes 'too toxic' to keep in my life sometimes
If you're next in line to the throne but your brother currently occupies it, then it's probably going to be a toxic relationship. You're best to cut him out of the picture.
I think there has to be a balance.
Most people that are "toxic" exhibits habits ingrained from childhood or trauma, they are some time aware of those habits, and the scope of the habits can be relatively limited in some cases or more generalized in others.
I would say that if that person has a "toxic" reaction, they have to be aware that they had a bad reaction, own to it and apologize later WHEN things have calmed down in their heads.
The toxic occurences in the relationship with the person should also be at a ratio where the good feelings/moments with that person are at a bare mininum of 75% vs 25% toxic. You need time to "recharge" to be able to be patient and understanding with that person when the toxic reaction is aimed at you.
So yeah balance, and if the balance doesn't overall feel good for you, then it's not good for you, cut it.
Does it bring you joy without harming others or yourself? No? Too toxic.
I have to be more strict with myself cause I'm prone to extremely unhealthy coping mechanisms for dealing with people. I can deal with most bs nowadays and find it amusing at least, but once you get into "I genuinely enjoy drama" territory then you gotta go from my life. So that's kind of a bunch of people off the bat lol.
showing my age I don't get it. What does "You are so valid!" mean in this context?
"Your feelings are valid!"
I was watching The Lion King (original 1994 version) again the other day. Between the violence, death, and Nala's bedroom eyes, I'm not sure how it only got a G rating lol
There's a middle way there, because fuck me I've cut off so many man children the last month's. I'm now virtually completely alone, though that maybe just a feeling, but I'm so glad to not have to deal with pissing contests and massaging people's ego's all the time.
So yeah, sometimes it do be like that. If you are in toxic, abusive environments, GTFO.
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