lemmy stop silencing SA survivors rule

I haven’t once seen that on this platform, you and I must travel very different communities.

I found the recent incel-ish responses on various Lemmy communities to the bear meme to be off-putting. Granted, it's much worse on Reddit but I would have expected better on this platform.

as others have said the whole bear thing has really brought the losers out of the woods.

I’m really glad I haven’t seen any posts like that here on Lemmy but that sounds really awful. :/

And I completely agree with your thought and intention but I still have to nitpick about:

There is a time and place for tone policing and it’s _never_ the very minute a woman speaks up.

Of course it’s not never. Just like with men, women are not infallible and can do shit.
I know you’re (hopefully) not literally meaning it like that, but I thought it’s still noteworthy.

After seeing what you're talking about, I'm glad I mostly stick to Blahaj Zone.

People "don't want to listen" because the moment anyone speaks out against the generalizations, it becomes personal attacks against them. "you are part of the problem if you don't immediately agree with everything I say." That's not to say that someone is not valid for the way they feel after experiencing something traumatic like SA and having hesitation associating with or being around men, but the accusations of being the problem towards people who are innocent make people not want to support you. It's also very "only my feelings matter" when it starts sounding like I shouldn't be anywhere in the remote vicinity of or exist because I might be making a woman uncomfortable.

Once when I was in high school I was in the classroom alone waiting for class to start, minding my own business and not paying any attention to anyone else. A girl walked in and told me that I looked like I wanted to kill her. I didn't even look in her direction. How dare I be quiet and mind my own business, I made her feel uncomfortable.

It's also funny that people are saying "y'all always have to make it about you, it's not about you so what you think doesn't matter." Yeah how dare I have feelings and be offended that other people make generalizations about me and start saying I'm part of the problem.

The number of comments here that seek to immediately discount what you are saying is deeply troubling.

Can you maybe provide some links to examples? I haven't seen any of this.

I haven't seen a post silencing sa on lemmy and I m pretty glad that I haven't.

Ah yes, this IS about the bear meme. Maybe this is a lesson that doubling down on an inflammatory meme is the worst way to attempt to get a point across, claiming that people annoyed with the meme are attempting to silence you is just trippling down.

https://xkcd.com/2071/

Of course it happened in a blahaj-less meme page 😞

Bro I'm losing my mind. Everyone is talking about "picking the bear" and I can't figure out what the hell any of it means 😭

Not disputing what you've seen, but I've been looking at all and have not seen anything like that. Where are you seeing it?

I haven’t been on here in a few days, what’s going on?

Do I you have post or comment examples?

I just did some searches that were filtered to the past 24 hours, and I’m only really seeing positively upvoted stuff about priests who were arrested.

The simple answer is to just listen to women, and not just wait to get in a "not all men" and act smug. Easy as that.

Thank... Someone that i only stay in local Blåhaj zone

The Sam Altman jock riders on this platform are insufferable...

I wanna know why nobody is standing up for the bears. Just because some bears attack people in the woods doesn't mean they all will.

Most bears aren't aggressive and wouldn't actually attack anybody unless provoked. I mean, I get it. Maybe only 10% of bears would get agro for no reason. But how am I supposed to know if this one is one of those 10%?

We need to have a discussion about how the good bears are becoming disenfranchised by being lumped in with a very small minority of bears that would go out of their way to harm you for no reason. #NotAllBears

edit: a typo

I haven't seen anything like that, but the more people join this place the more trash will enter along with them.

Can I ask if there were specific communities?

You're referring to the conversation under this comment?

Everyone's safety is more important than anyone's feelings.

Doubt

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