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gingerbrat [she/her] @ gingerbrat @hexbear.net

...also, I like bad puns

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  • how much it pains me to see the growing amount of people hurting on here, and how i can't help everyone

    Thanks for putting into words what I'm feeling too. It's debilitating to watch so many of us suffer needlessly, may it be from lack of medical care, flat out benefits or wars. You're not alone with this feeling of helplessness. But remember, Honkey, this system is designed to make us feel this way. Don't let it break your spirit, and keep doing what you can. And if all that you can do is listening to to your comrades, as it is in my case, then that's enough for now. We'll help everyone eventually, including @DisabledAceSocialist@hexbear.net and ourselves.

  • I'm glad there are some souls around the globe that have gotten you this far, and I can relate a lot to that sentiment. While you may be alone in person, there's almost always someone who's just a typed message away, and is actually willing to listen (and that includes me, if you want to).

    However, I will never understand people abandoning their friends over becoming sick. If anything, this only proves the lack of depth to their side of the friendship, and that's simply disgusting. Friends don't leave you hanging just because "you're no fun to hang around anymore". Bullshit, when a friend gets sick, you don't abandon them??? I could scream about this for hours, but I'll shorten it to: You deserve better friends that respect you and treat you right.

  • You replied to my "existential crisis" comment with so much compassion although you're in a much tougher situation, and I wanted to start by saying thank you for caring so much about others even when you're in dire needs yourself. You are a true comrade, and I am feeling better just knowing you are out there.

    I think you're doing anything you possibly can, you're asking for help, and you know the UKs systems better than I do, so I don't have any advice. I wish I had money to spare to help you truly, and not just for another meal or just so making rent (I barely have enough to get by). I wish there was more an individual person could do to help you, but as you well know, collective action gets the goods. I'm praying for a revolution for all of us, to finally get rid off this dehumanized exploitation you (and everyone else) are being exposed to. I'm angry for all of us, and I don't want you to die bc of money. Neither now, nor in the future.

    I'm sending you unconditional love and camaraderie, and I wish I had more to give. Please, stay with us for as long as you can, comrade.

  • No, it does not sound like you're making it about yourself. Thank you for telling me how you relate to what I wrote, and I'm glad that at least the discovery of your application history made your parents stop. I only doubt that my family will see it this way, since there's no "papertrail" for online applications. I hope they'll at least stop asking about it once I get any job.

    I will try to do that, as best as I can. Thank you again for your kind words, and might I add, the pillow is a good alternative if no friends are at hand.

  • Anytime, friend, and thank you for understanding as well. I can't properly reply bc otherwise I'll probably start crying

    And I know you can work through your brain worms just as much as I can, and have to. We're on a good track, knowing what we have to change about ourselves, and I do feel encouraged, knowing I'm not the only one trying to be kinder to myself, others, and still learning so much about everything.

  • I can only try to imagine how furious you must have been. At the same time, it's so easy to laugh about parents/people of that age group, because of what you said, that a lot of self-control goes into not ridiculing them for their archaic beliefs.

    Judging by your phrasing I'm gonna assume you managed to get a job eventually, and I am happy you got out of that seemingly inescapable pit. Let's just say, should we ever get in a position similar to that of your parent, I know both of us will be wise enough not to talk down to the next generation.

  • chat @hexbear.net

    I've had enough unsolicited advice and judgement for the next 500 years

    [I'm new to c/chat so please remove the post if it isn't fitting for the community. I didn't know where else to post and will gladly move this one if necessary.]

    I don't want this to be a long-ass rant, but I gotta air my frustration as I'm (as of now) spending new year's eve alone.

    2024 was a shit year, both personally - for a ton of reasons - as well as gestures around you know exactly what I mean. I've been looking for work ever since last year, and that is an absolutely shitty position to be in atm. You know the drill, nobody will hire anyone without work experience but nobody will let you get any experience with pay or at all if you're no longer enrolled in college. So I've been applying to whatever I could get, roughly in the direction of what I've been studying, but there's just no positive feedback. Either it's formulaic "sorry to inform you but..." or "found someone better suited to the position" etc etc.

    If you do this long enough, it just becomes a hopelessly worthless