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It’s crazy how everyone blames all their failures in life on adhd.
It's crazy that the system allows so many people to fail for the exact same reasons that don't impair the rich in any way shape or form, and those people blame their own debuffs rather than the system that failed them from birth.
It's a mix of both. I suffer from ADHD and have been clinically diagnosed. If I were an upper class citizen, many of my problems would cease to impact me. I wouldn't need to be attentive for 8 hours a day, wouldn't have to worry about money and due dates. I was labelled a "gifted child" when I was young, but all that meant was that I never learned to study and organize, and growing up the school system failed me so hard (+ the corona pandemic).
I'm pretty good at logic and inventing, as well as in the arts. Why, oh why can this world not appreciate and support people like me? Prolly smth about greed and sociopathy I guess. Anyway I'll continue fighting and hope my GME stonks will someday heave my family out of this mud.
In case you aren't aware and interested in hearing an opinion on that statement, here it goes.
A lot of people might find it offensive and dismissive. The obvious issue with it is that it is extreme by including "everyone" and "all their failures in life" and saying that one issue is blamed for it entirely. That is just not true. I understand that it could be taken as a figure of speech and that the reader is to understand that not literally everyone and all of their failures, but I disagree with even a figurative interpretation. In my experience, few people attribute most of their lifelong issues to ADHD. Out of that small set of individuals that do attribute issues to ADHD, many of them are valid, while some are likely removing any accountability from their own choices. Yes, it is likely that some people avoid taking responsibility and therefore seek unnecessary accommodations from others for their lack of effort by placing blame on a mental health diagnosis that they might not even have. However, it is my belief that the majority of people don't do that. ADHD is a mental health condition/neurotype that affects every single aspect of a person's life. A person isn't ADHD in only school or work. They are ADHD when they complete daily tasks, socialize, read a book, follow instructions, visit the doctor, place their keys down, etc. ADHD truly does affect every area of their in a world that is designed for people that are not ADHD, so they end up violating cultural norms and performing subobtimally in comparison to their peers. When someone with ADHD states that their entire lives are affected by it, they are not exaggerating. Stating that everyone blames all of their failures in life on ADHD is dismissive of their difficulties and can appear aloof, insensitive, privileged, or malicious. Statements like that can drive away understanding, compassionate, and caring people, limiting your interaction with individuals that have those traits, leaving you more exposed to the kinds of individuals that would use mental health diagnoses to avoid responsibility for their failures.
That's only my opinion, so do what you like with that.
What do you blame your failures in life on? Because I guarantee you've got something you complain about.
It's an easy scapegoat in a world that wants more from them than they can provide. It makes you compare yourself constantly to the best performers and tells you that you are not enough and then offers a thought that drugging yourself just right would make you as happy and successful as you believe you deserve to be for trying so hard.
It's a shame life doesn't care and it's not what life is about.
Not that people shouldn't be able to get help when they have legitimate issues but we could be a lot more welcoming on those differences between each other with a different culture but that requires changing yourself and others in a way that is likely not possible and the drugs are easier.