Anon’s father is a bigot

I'm gay.

My dad is not pleased with this fact. Completely homophobic.

Half the time his homophobia doesn't even make sense.

Fishing show on TV in the living room
Watching it with mom and dad
Mom: "I don't have the patience for that kind of stuff
Me: "It doesn't feel like too long when you're out there"
Dad: "Time flies when you're a removed."
Go to my room

It's getting ridiculous. He goes out of his way to respond to everything I do by calling me a removed.

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Exactly why I never came out to my parents. I think they knew, since my stepfather would semi regularly tell me that if I came out as gay he would kick me out of the house.
Jokes on him, he's dead now and I'm still bisexual.
- He didn’t say he’d kick you out for coming out as Bi though. Legal loophole.
  
  I was given a very specific (but non-inclusive) list of people I was not allowed to bring home. That included any and all women, naturally, but also included any and all men of any colour darker than germanic-european-white, and indeed any men of a religion other than young-earth-creationists.
  Breaking any of these rules while still living in the house would have meant my expulsion from the house. I'd like to say my mom wouldn't have allowed him to kick me out but I really don't know.
  
  Always found it offputting how often I hear about people's step parents being somehow worse than their biological parent, and their biological parent being totally cool with it.
  Not saying that's your situation. Just something I thought about. Like my friend growing up had a cool mom and dad, but his step dad was the biggest asshole ever. And his mom was totally cool with it. Guy tried to break my ps3 cause we were playing COD and he had an unspoken rule of no M rated games in the house. And all the times he called me homophobic slurs, even though I'm not gay. His mom was great though, so it made no sense.
  
  Kinda surprised by my stepmom being more trans-friendly than my mom. Like my stepmom is more overtly racist. Both of them are lesbians so no issues with homophobia at least.
  
  Well the man is the head of the house, you see. So what he says goes. Even if what he says involves lifetime psychological damage!
  To be somewhat fair to my mother, most of the worst stuff he ever said to me was when she wasn't around. To this day I don't know if she knew a lot of it. At the time he assured me that was he said came from both of them, and since I'd never seen her stand up to him for us, I had no reason to doubt it.
- I'm straight, but I'm pretty sure my uncle and sister think I'm gay since I argue against their homophobia, got close to my openly gay cousin, and value "feminine" traits. I never try to insist I'm straight to them either. They can think what they want, regardless of the consequences. I'm not going to be a prisoner of their self-righteous, narcissistic stupidity.
  
  My parents thought/think I’m gay because I’ve never had a girlfriend.
- Such a weird thing to say. You can be the gayest gaylorld, but don't let me find out.
  
  Conservative rural Christianity. It's fine to be gay as long as no one ever knows about it.
  
  Once saw something saying that all of the Christian "it's fine if you want to choose to be gay, just don't do it in my face" rhetoric is code for:
  "you should be ashamed of being gay, because bring gay is a sin. You should commit sin hidden behind closed doors just like we do, when our priests grope children and husbands cheat on their wives."
  
  Turn it off, like a light switch
  There, it's gone
  My hetero side just won
  I'm all better now
  Boys should be with girls, that's Heavenly Father's plan
  So if you ever feel you'd rather be with a man,
  Turn it off!
  "Well, I think it's okay that you're having gay thoughts, just so long as you never act on them"
  No, 'cause then you're just keeping it down
  Like a dimmer switch on low, thinking nobody needs to know
  But that's not true!
  Being gay is bad but lying is worse
  So just realize you have a curable curse,
  And turn it off!
  
  Absolutely chilling. The best kind of comedy.

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