Anon’s father is a bigot

I'm gay.

My dad is not pleased with this fact. Completely homophobic.

Half the time his homophobia doesn't even make sense.

Fishing show on TV in the living room
Watching it with mom and dad
Mom: "I don't have the patience for that kind of stuff
Me: "It doesn't feel like too long when you're out there"
Dad: "Time flies when you're a removed."
Go to my room

It's getting ridiculous. He goes out of his way to respond to everything I do by calling me a removed.

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Exactly why I never came out to my parents. I think they knew, since my stepfather would semi regularly tell me that if I came out as gay he would kick me out of the house.
Jokes on him, he's dead now and I'm still bisexual.
- He didn’t say he’d kick you out for coming out as Bi though. Legal loophole.
  
  I was given a very specific (but non-inclusive) list of people I was not allowed to bring home. That included any and all women, naturally, but also included any and all men of any colour darker than germanic-european-white, and indeed any men of a religion other than young-earth-creationists.
  Breaking any of these rules while still living in the house would have meant my expulsion from the house. I'd like to say my mom wouldn't have allowed him to kick me out but I really don't know.
- I'm straight, but I'm pretty sure my uncle and sister think I'm gay since I argue against their homophobia, got close to my openly gay cousin, and value "feminine" traits. I never try to insist I'm straight to them either. They can think what they want, regardless of the consequences. I'm not going to be a prisoner of their self-righteous, narcissistic stupidity.
  
  My parents thought/think I’m gay because I’ve never had a girlfriend.
- Such a weird thing to say. You can be the gayest gaylorld, but don't let me find out.
  
  Conservative rural Christianity. It's fine to be gay as long as no one ever knows about it.
  
  Once saw something saying that all of the Christian "it's fine if you want to choose to be gay, just don't do it in my face" rhetoric is code for:
  "you should be ashamed of being gay, because bring gay is a sin. You should commit sin hidden behind closed doors just like we do, when our priests grope children and husbands cheat on their wives."
  
  Turn it off, like a light switch
  There, it's gone
  My hetero side just won
  I'm all better now
  Boys should be with girls, that's Heavenly Father's plan
  So if you ever feel you'd rather be with a man,
  Turn it off!
  "Well, I think it's okay that you're having gay thoughts, just so long as you never act on them"
  No, 'cause then you're just keeping it down
  Like a dimmer switch on low, thinking nobody needs to know
  But that's not true!
  Being gay is bad but lying is worse
  So just realize you have a curable curse,
  And turn it off!

Story about my southern grandparents, but grandad in particular.
So my grandparents born in the 19 teens in rural Alabama. They said the n-word with a hard r until the day they died. But grandma had a friend named Loraine. Loraine’s husband worked at the same steel mill as grandpa. They also had a kid same age and school as my uncle named Wayne.
Wayne always came to holidays at our house. He was flamboyant to say the least, but a super nice guy. When Wayne wasn’t around I’d hear grandma talk about him occasionally. She’d say things like “being gay isn’t a choice, because you could tell Wayne was different when he was too little to know what gay was”.
Fast forward and grandpa dies. After the service the family is standing around with grandma. Wayne walks up and tells grandma. “I wish grandpa had been my dad. My dad hated me for being gay, but grandpa always treated me like all the other kids”.
Wayne sent my grandma flowers every excuse he got till the day she died.
I’ve always felt like if those 2 old school bigots could figure out that gay isn’t a choice. Why can’t the rest of the world?
- Well fortunately for your grandparents it wasn't yet time for ones bigotry and ignorance to be worn like a badge of honor as is tradition today so they weren't vilified for trying to think of Wayne as a human.

I dunno about anyone else, but this greentext has always been one of my favorites. It perfectly describes my family’s childish, belligerent dialogue on homosexuality, so I feel for anon. Hopefully he managed to get out.

Anon's father is gay.
- Not every homophobe is closeted/repressed and gay.
  Many are just bigoted shitheads.
  
  It's much funnier to accuse them of being closeted as it drives them nuts.
  
  The most vocal homophobes probably aren't mostly a 0 on the Kinsey scale even if they're heterosexual given 0s probably are not the majority. Especially the kind who act like it's something that's okay if you hide it or think you can just turn it off, as described in OP's case.
  Calling a 1 "gay" is obviously misleading, but from the perspective of many homophobes those occasional thoughts are problematic.
- Habeeb it
- secret gay fishing trips = what fish? Oh yeah, we caught a bunch and they were huge

I wish I were gayer so I could use the "time flies" line.
- Just drop that line as your catchphrase before tapdancing out of the room. It'd be incredible. :)

Had me rolling though. That's so fucking out of pocket.
- I know, this is a horrible thing to go through but at the same time my eyes are watering from laughing so hard.

Fake and gay.
Fake, Anon is Homo
Gay, Anon is Gay.
am i do this rite guys?
- If anyone brings tendiesbot to lemmy I will commit acts.

Posts like this make me glad I'm already at the stage in my life where I can afford living separately from my family so I just don't give a shit about what they think

See, this is actually one of the rare times when violence is the answer.
One good kick to the nuts, and a "you ever fuck with me again, you'll sing soprano", and it's going to back the guy down. It doesn't have to even be super aggro, just casually roll up and do it, then say it calmly, and walk away.
- Yeah, then you're homeless.
  
  And you've also given your homophobic dad more reason to be homophobic
- Yes, assaulting people always works wonders.
  
  No, but in very narrow circumstances, controlled violence to back down continued abuse does work wonders.
  People will only bully and abuse people they think they can get away with it towards. I'm those cases, controlled violence is an effective tool because it draws a firm boundary and expresses the consequences for crossing it.
  Someone behaving like the "dad" in the story posted is only doing it because they think they can get away with it. That kind of person is very likely to back the fuck off when the son backs them the fuck off. Remember, they're already using the threat of violence in the posted scenario. The only realistic response to a threat of violence, when outside assistance via legal recourse isn't available, is shutting them the fuck down hard and fast.

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