👀 Attractive woman: what goes through your mind?

I usually go into hard ignore mode. Actively go out of my way to avoid them.

If you show any friendliness then you can end up dealing with being told they have a boyfriend, being called a creep or other names, making them uncomfortable because they're obviously on the receiving end of unwanted attention regularly etc.

Just way easier and less stress to give a wide berth.

Depends greatly on whether it's someone I expect to meet again.

Don't expect to meet again: Treat them like any other person. Either (a) not interact with them, maybe glance and smile, wonder what goes on in their life for a moment, (b) do whatever non-personal interaction I'm having with them, be polite, smile or (c) very rarely strike up a casual conversation until we part ways.

Expect to meet again: Again, treat them like any other person, but I also usually look for any reason to not be romantically attracted to them anymore. The overwhelming majority of women aren't interested in me, and being able to move them over to the Big Box of Potential Friends (where all men live) significantly lowers the stakes of interactions and makes life simpler in general.

Trouble only really starts if I've been unable to find a good reason to not be attracted to you after meeting a few times (these people are few and far between, less than a handful per year). At this point I'll usually ask them out, which thus far has filtered out the rest.

I keep doing whatever I was doing.

I don't assume someone has a compatible relationship style just because I find them attractive.

1: "oh, pretty"

2: carry on with my day

3: Casual eye contact, casual smile of acknowledgement.

I usually point her out to my girlfriend and then move on. Same for attractive guys, dogs, houses, trees, etc. Ooh look, something pretty, essentially.

I take a very quick moment to mentally appreciate whatever it is about that woman that I feel makes her attractive. Then I go back about my business.

If you want me to keep thinking about you, feel free to make a move. Otherwise, honestly, I will just keep doing me.

Most times I just admire their physical beauty and then carry on with my day. What keeps me thinking about them is a seemingly mutual interest on their part. If they make eye contact and smile or shyly gaze away after a smile and eye contact, or if we happen to both look over our shoulders at each other as we pass by….you could be in my thoughts for a few days, even.

I usually think "Daymn! Good for her." Then go about my day. She's just living her life I ain't gonna bother her. Tho she'd probably stick around in my head more if she gave me a some kinda coy look as we passed. Might say something then.

Hummina hummina hummina bazooooooooing! eyes pop out AROOOOOOOOGA! jaw drops tongue rolls out WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF WOOF tongue bursts out of the outh uncontrollably leaking face and everything in reach WURBLWUBRLBWURblrwurblwurlbrwubrlwburlwbruwrlblwublr tiny cupid shoots an arrow through heart Ahhhhhhhhhhh me lady... heart in the shape of a heart starts beating so hard you can see it through shirt ba-bum ba-bum ba-bum ba-bum ba-bum milk truck crashes into a bakery store in the background spiling white liquid and dough on the streets BABY WANTS TO F--K inhales from the gas tank honka honka honka honka masturabtes furiously ohhhh my gooooodd~

Funnily enough, there’s someone like that for me who my mind keeps wandering back to … even though I’m married.

So for an attractive woman I bump into or see on the street, I am With the rest of these guys - I will take a moment to appreciate the goods without being a creepy perv.

But, this is someone I would bump into at school pickup and there was definitely some chemistry, though we didn’t act on it. What makes her stick is really not anything special that she did or wore specifically. It was more about her going out of her way to engage with me after I broke the ice (5-10) minute conversations waiting for our kids. I can’t speak for all men, but I enjoy attention from the opposite sex - probably a whole lot to unpack there - and having someone that was pretty, knew how to dress well in ways to subtly show off what she was working with certainly helped, though I assume pheromones played the biggest role.

What I would say is that, if you have someone specific whose attention you’d like to catch, engage with them in a genuine manner and lightly flirt. If you’re looking to stir more … primal thoughts there are some more obvious steps you can take.

Anyway, my two cents at least. Would be interested to hear the co text of this!