And nicotine. If you didn't smoke yourself, you still got it secondhand. Most of the post-WWII era in America had everyone at least mildly on a psychoactive substance 24/7.
Its because the techniques to make people autistic are advancing. It used to be only a type of vaccine. Now its all vaccines, masks, phones, books and bread
Bonus points if your boomer parent got a ND diagnosis in their 50s, yet still refuses to believe that neurodiversity was just as much a thing when they were young as when you were, it was just ignored harder, as they actively ignore your ND diagnosis that you finally got independent of them in your 20s or 30s.
I don't want the bonus points, I just want my mom to get the help she needs. But no... she's stubborn, prideful, etc. And even though she's a huge bigot and I want to punch her in the face, she's still my mom.
Personally I realised that if being related meant so little to them to treat me the way they did, there's no reason it should mean much to me, so I did what was healthiest for me for a change and cut contact. I wish you the best of luck getting her help (seriously), but you shouldn't be suffering just because someone is related to you.
My boomer mother has never been diagnosed as far as I know. . She is obviously on the autism spectrum towards what used to be called aspergers. Add in a violent streak, some narcissistic tendencies, religious extremism, and deeply ingrained racism to the mix to make it extra spicy.
I haven't seen or spoken to her in more than a decade but I doubt anything has changed.
I'm in a similar boat (E: things were always worse with the parent who would never seek diagnosis), cutting contact was the best decision I've ever made for myself.
I’m not suggesting that we’ve made it to full acceptance, but that Millennials really began normalizing acceptance of disorders as well as mental health treatment.
It's true. It irks me to see older people claim that autism/ADHD/anxiety etc. didn't exist in the past. Not only is it an attempt to invalidate people's experiences, but it's pure bullshit.
For example, what we today know as PTSD was characterised as "cowardice" during WW1. Do they really want us to go back to that?
I am sure this still goes on today in some cases.
Also, PTSD was called shell shocked during WWI and was recognized as a medical condition, it was just that there was no idea what was causing it so a lot of people did not think it really existed.
Wasn't the spectrum expanded in the last 20 years? That in itself would raise the numbers.
If I may play Devil's advocate, a level 1 or even a level 2 autistic person back in the day may have been seen as a bit eccentric or weird, but would overall pass for a neurotypical person and manage to hold a job, have a normal life if with some difficulty. So boomers probably knew quite a few people on the spectrum but just thought of them as just odd but good people.
I grew up in a place where the word autism isn't even in the vocabulary and thinking back, there's at least a few people I can now look back on and say they were autistic, even if we didn't know the term then.
Yeah, back then "autism" was a full-on disorder. It had to be so strong that it impacted your ability to participate in society. Now we realize that it's more a character quirk with individual strengths and weaknesses, that it's worthwhile to be aware of, even when you manage to navigate society.
Edit: Ouch, I'm apparently bad at being autistic, had no idea there were actual levels, thought it was a poor approximation of the spectrum by applying levels to something I thought of as more complex than that. My bad.
Ah, the shitty narcissistic boomer assumption that anything "new" must be a lie. Yeah, people all over the fucking world are making up neurodivergence, queerness, and food allergies just to be difficult, right?
What's with the boomer stuff? Does the internet really need any bogeymen to blame for everything bad? Seems to be the case. So it's hardly surprising that people like Trump are so successful. It's the same thing, just packaged differently