Are you in this meme?

ADHD and Autism require diagnosis.
So......not me.
- It’s not hard to get a test you just need to grow yourself a money tree.
  
  It’s not hard to get a test
  Even if money isn't an issue, it's actually really hard (particularly for someone with ADHD symptoms) to take the official test. It's very Catch-22.
  
  I have money but its a 3 year wait if you can convince a GP to refer you.... so that's still fun.
  
  Nah, I'll just take a tiny hit of meth. It will either work or I'll have the whole place clean. Win win.
- Apparently, wolf wizardry.
- Exactly! I mean, my son has an autism diagnosis, and my wife has ADS, and my best friend has both, and I work in a field where almost everyone is diagnosed with something, but surely I am normal, because no one diagnosed me. Yet.

What is extroverted introverted?
- An extrovert with social anxiety.
  
  This is my best friend to a T. Recently diagnosed with ADHD as well.
  
  There are dozens of us
- It's a way of describing that a person is willing to join social interaction, but also enjoys alone time
  
  Isn't that everyone, more or less? We all need a balance between spending time with others, and time by ourselves.
  If I don't get an appropriate amount of both on a regular basis I go crazy.
  
  That's an ambivert
- Ive always referred to myself as a social introvert. Ill go to social events, have fun, but boy is it exhausting and id rather spend time home alone doing nothing
- I think it's someone who is actually extroverted, but do to being cast out as "weird", is now reluctant to talk to people despite their extraversion, and therefore thinks they're introverted.
  This describes my case perfectly. I am extroverted, but due to people finding me weird, I was scared of talking to people, and mistook it for introversion. I am now way more outgoing than before once I figured it out, and people care a bit less about you being weird if you're likeable once you're older.
  
  It might also be the other way around. There are plenty of people who are really introverted, so social engagement still drains their energy, but while it's happening, they can be/appear extroverted, charming, outgoing, sometimes at exponential extra cost.
  The difference between intro- and extraversion is not simply the ability of a person to talk to others, their (perceived) "shyness" etc., but also encompasses how they regenerate, what and how much stimulation they prefer and what kind of company they need and enjoy.
- There are a bunch of different definitions people use for introversion/extroversion. "Extroverted introvert" means you're extroverted by one definition and introverted by a different one.
- Someone who is too introspective for their own good
  
  So... a Lemming then? 😳😛
- I'm a huge introvert, but if I can get past the initial hurdle of getting my ass motivated to actually meet with people, I have a good time. I've also been in sales/public facing jobs for most of my working life, which blows people away when they realize how antisocial I can be. I mask very well.
  Most of the time, it's how much juice is left in my social battery that dictates what I end up doing. I will avoid my best friends of 20+ years if I'm not in the mood.

Me: "That's not ADHD, that's just being human!"
Her: "No, no, really, not."
Me: "What are you saying? I don't have ADHD."
Her: "You sure?"
Me: "Of course I'm sure."
Me: Joins lemmy.
Lemmy: Lots of ADHD memes.
Me: "Huh."
And yes, I thought I was the only really outgoing shy person I knew of, and I couldn't ever make sense of it.
- Huh, funnily enough I thought this was about the opposite. I barely have a social battery, so I don't meet up with people much, and only for a limited time. But when I do, I'm the life of the party.
  
  It probably is. Don't let my experience invalidate yours even a tiny little bit.

This is probably because introvert and extrovert are just made up and there's no evidence anyone falls neatly into either.
- It's also a spectrum. You can also be in the middle and be an omnivert.

🙈
I avoid people at all cost, and for the special few that make it into my life, I just won't shut the fuck up 😭
It's a problem, every night my partner has to manage my chattiness, if allowed I will just pillow-talk until 2am.
but yeah, I'm not autistic.
- That's not autism. That's social anxiety.
  
  Why not both!

I was like this. I was diagnosed at 28 years old, and now I'm 39. The last remnants of my extroverted tendencies are dying, though. I recently had two friends ghost me because of trauma influenced behavior that I was experiencing. People pretend they're tolerant of autism riiiiiiiight up until something genuinely difficult happens. Then you get to see how your "friendship" was based on a masked version of you and therefore completely fake.
Someone I thought I had a 20 year "friendship" with ghosted me with zero explanation after I moved 1600 miles across the country to live closer to. My extraverted tendencies cause more harm than the loneliness that comes with introversion. It's just not worth it.

Are those separate things or is there a connection?
Like:
I'm curious, how many "Hawaiian pizza eaters" found out they had adhd or autism later in life?
- Yes, how you socialize and how much it drains you are affected by whether or not you’re autistic and/or ADHD.
  People who are naturally outgoing but also autistic/ADHD have the same drive to go out and interact with people, but due to differences in how they act/perceive the world wind up much more drained from the experience (either from sensory overstimulation or anxiety from people being unpredictable). This often leads to seeking out socialization less, even though they are just as desperate for it as anyone else who is naturally more extroverted.
  And instead of typing up a paragraph every time they want to talk about it, they say introverted extrovert.

I learned that being chatty and introverted are not mutually exclusive long before I got my diagnoses. Just because I can, and will, tell my server they got my order wrong when it's wrong doesn't mean I am an extrovert. It means I am high and not feeling socially anxious and I really want my burger the way I asked.

i am not but i very well might be if i ever let a pro check me out

I was diagnosed at 56 with ADHD and Autism. So many fuck ups of mine make sense now.

These days I think of myself as extrovert but most people think the opposite. Sometimes I wonder if anybody even is absolutely one or the other at all times and circumstances.
- My cousin is certified extrovert. She basically always „needs“ someone to talk to on family gatherings. I think she’s fine being alone, but if there’s a person she will talk to them.
  If there’s someone telling a story and she’s not too invested she will open a parallel conversation.
- Sometimes I wonder if anybody even is absolutely one or the other at all times and circumstances.
  Well, absolutely not. I thought it's pretty obvious that this is more like a scale were you fall somewhere between one and the other. Also, those words don't really have any rigorous definitions.

big yes from me

...shut up. -.-

What a weird way to say ambivert.

Kind of, I was always just introverted and finding out I had autism and unlearning the coping mechanisms I made from not knowing wtf was going on made me able to be more extraverted then before, at least briefly.

Yes.

ADHD for me but yeh

I am in this, but I got tested and I'm "normal" even though in my 20s I'm pretty sure I would have been in the very high ranges.
I'd still say I have an ADHD brain with OCD tendencies, but I've managed to moderate both through a decade of exercise, caffeine, and sugar.
(Anecdotal, N=1) I think once your brain realizes in some sense that it can be productive despite its neuroses, the extremes peter out once the stress of your failures no longer hang over you.

I used to call myself an introvert with extrovert tendacies and so ya, I'm in this meme lol.

What is an extroverted introvert? As a youth I was introverted and its still my nature but I found I liked drama and being in a chorus and debate type things as I got older but Im still more likely and more than happy to quietly sit and read or mess with a device or be with my thoughts in a group setting and ill at ease meeting people.
- What is an extroverted introvert?
  It is a made up meme to explain the fact that almost no one is really extroverted or introverted. meyers-briggs, which is unscientific and was just made up by some dumbass who said "I think humans be like this", says all people are either extroverts or introverts. But in reality, one's level of extroversion or introversion depends heavily on environmental factors such as overall energy level or level of comfort with a particular person/group. To the extent that extroversion is a measurable, stable personality trait at all, when it is measured it fits a bell curve across the population - ie, the vast majority of people land smack dab in the middle of extroverted/introverted.
  So if you say you are an extroverted introvert, you're just saying you're a normal fucking person. It comes from people accepting Meyers-Briggs as hard fact (it isn't), and then trying to fit this square peg into the round hole of their actual lived experience.