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Or realizing it too late like I did.
Hug yer mom.
I was strern the last time she saw me. I was concerned. I knew alcohol had gotten her there. I didn't know how everything would go, but I tried to display confidence. I'm sure she understood.
But still. I wish I'd been able to make her last moments happier. It wasn't my responsibility, and I don't fault myself for it. But I know how scared she must have been, inside, and I wish I could've helped.
- I’m inferring/projecting a lot, but, my mom was an alcoholic that committed suicide, I don’t know many people that relate to that, but it sounds like you might. Your comment really hits home. Just wanted to say, I relate. You’re not alone.

Mom's a MAGA, fuck that dumb bitch.
- Your family should mean more to you than politics.
  
  There's general politics like "where should we spend this money and what should be laws", and then there's the radical politics of treason and loss of humanity. If she is a republican, you can work around that. If she's MAGA, you have to draw the line at violating human rights.
  
  Politics is all about life and how people are allowed to live it though...
  
  I can't even tell my mom what's going on in my life because every time a conversation gets "too political," she shuts it down, or if she can't do that, she leaves.
  I would love to keep her in the loop, but when almost every aspect of my life exists as it does because of political forces, that doesn't leave much I can say to her. If she loves me enough to want me in her life, she can suck up her political apathy and listen. But she won't, and you know what they say - you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.
  
  No. "Blood is thicker than water" is utter BS.
  
  I agree, you know where is the only place I see political shit all over again? Lemmy and Reddit lol. (In non political communities ofc).
  Oh, and US politics ofc.

I've done something absurdly mean to my mom as a joke when I was a teenager and she probably cried about it afterwards (I basically mocked her for not having finished school). Took me years to realize how mean it was. But it's probably for the best that I didn't realize it, as my childhood trauma was about making her cry by mentioning my dead sister.
- Friggen oof

Not when your mom deserves it.
And don't tell me that just by the virtues of being a mom she's somehow infallible.
She literally didn't even give birth to me, technically.
- I'm with you on not excusing a person just because they're your family.
  I just want to know, "technically?"
  
  Well I never travel through her birthing canal.
  Caesarean, like with all my (3) siblings.
  So she bore me, but didn't technically birth me. But thats semantics and I don't want to offend women who've had a caesarean as if there was somehow a meaningful difference.
  I'm saying there's a symbolic one, in this context.
- When I still worked in the corrections system there was an incident where several of the female inmates jumped another woman because, during a conversation, she called her mother an evil cunt, and said death was to good for her. Turns out, her mom sold her for sex since she was a toddler, and these other women badly beat her, without ever even wondering why someone would say that about their mother.
  
  Okay yeah, wow, that's shocking.
  Just to be clear, my mom's not on that level and doesn't deserve to die, nor is she an evil cunt (I'd say closer to an uncaring [insert-unflattering-comparison-of-your-choice-that-isn't-toooffensive]), but I won't be praising her for much either.
- Same. Sometimes mothers have issues that make them unworthy of the title and all you can do is distance yourself from them when you get the chance.
- I learned the hard way, like you, that blood relatives do not automatically get a free pass. In fact, I’d say that blood relatives need to be held to higher standards.
  My mom was complicit; she witnessed some of the physical abuses my brother put me through, and she and my dad chalked it up to “boys will be boys”.
  I will breathe a little easier the day she moves on from this world.
- We might be the same person. If I had met my mom under any other circumstance, we would but be friends. Now that she's gone full MAGA, defending Nazis, we are no longer friends.

I did this about 5 years ago. It was like all of my stupid childhood frustrations came out. But it was too much. I made my mam cry. But in the end I think this was for the best. Neither of us have clashed since that day. It's like we both found an understanding from each other and know that in those heated moments we never meant what we said. We're the closest we've ever been nowadays. But thinking about the moments afterwards, consoling my mam to ensure her that she wasn't in fact an awful mother, still makes me feel really bad inside. Even though it made way to a better relationship after it was all done.

I got my lazy ass out of the house on a Sunday to see my mom, I feel good 👍

When I was like 15 I sent my mom a text message complaining about her that was meant to go to my best friend. She never said anything and I think about it and feel sad every so often. I've never brought it up either though...
We have a good relationship, I was just being a little snotty teenager but I'm sure it hurt her feelings :(
- As someone who lost their mom unexpectedly last year, don't put this off. Even if it was long ago, casually bring it up and clear the air. After she's gone you'll never have a chance to get that resolved again.
- Pro tip: talk to her about it. Tell her these feelings you're feeling

I got a story published in Reader's Digest when I was in high school and when I showed my mom the letter I got from them, she said "who the fuck would ever publish anything by you?" And then I never wrote again.
- This is so sad, I'm sorry. Sending you virtual hugs.

Its true, but it also didn't come out of nothing

Ivan Cankar trenutek.

My mom hit me in the face last time I was mean to her.