I work with a lot of badly injured people and my two pieces of advice based on my experience is to be committed to your pt and to practice mindfulness as a way to reduce the effects of pain. Pain disrupts sleep and concentration, and is really fucking exhausting.
It'll be fine. Surgery is neat. If they put you under, one second you are awake and counting backwards... and then you are suddenly waking up.
The most important thing is do exactly what they tell you... especially any and all rehab afterward. Take the rehab seriously, because if you shirk it, you are very likely pay for that for the rest of your life.
I've had lots of surgery, but this one is the second most intense. I'm terrified of how I'm going to feel afterwards. They will be putting some hardware in and I'm afraid it'll hurt more than it does now. My pain is so bad right now that I've been crying for hours. Morphine isn't even taking the edge off.
Yep, same here. I tore the muscles and ligaments in my shoulder 25 years ago, and didn't keep up with the exercises. At the time it didn't feel too bad. Now, it hurts regularly, and I don't have the full range of motion.
On the bright side, every time I rotate my shoulder, it clicks and grinds, and scares the shit out of my squeamish friends...
Only real thing I regret when I broke my leg was not using a cane after crutches. Didn't realize using the crutches too long led to my fibula reattaching incorrectly and breaking again a year later randomly as I was walking.
Oh wow. That's terrible. I'm sorry you went through that. I actually bought a neat cane last month at a Ren faire that I could probably put to use of my doctors and physical therapist(s) want me to. I bought the cane as a prop for costumes, but also as a stick to beat raccoons with. I got jumped by a gang of raccoons a few months ago, and the fuckers keep breaking into my ducks' outside enclosure. I take the cane out with me whenever it's dark.
I'm pretty sure that I healed with my foot in an unnatural position (outside tiles up slightly) causing the bone to heal in a shortened position. They don't do anything to your fibula in most cases as it bears very little weight, it's just allowed to heal on its own.
You are going to be on some heavy painkillers for a little while. Really not a big deal, just remember no matter how you feel good/bad, ect. You thinking will be a little off. Don't make any real decisions and don't worry if your mood is weird. Just ride it out for a little bit and the cone back to your self.
You are going to be on some heavy painkillers for a little while. Really not a big deal,
For most people...
A small but significant amount of people metabolize opioids faster than they should.
So if they're supposed to take a pill every 8 hours, they might get 2x as fucked up the first 4 and no pain relief for 4 hours till their next.
Which is like a recipe for prescription misuse and eventually opiod addiction. Especially when doctors up the dosage instead of spreading more pills throughout the day.
And if you are one of these people whose pain isn't controlled, or you're feeling overly fucked up - CALL YOUR DOCTOR RIGHT AWAY. Better to be an annoying patient once, who's just trying to get their pain under control, than to risk addiction. Shit's no joke.
As givesomefucks said, Docs have other options besides just uping the dose, but you may have to advocate for it. Different timing, different meds and combinations, and even RICE can do some magic.
Don't skip your post surgery PT. Your PT sessions have a huge impact on the outcome and can mean the difference between full recovery or being a gimp for life.
Eat lots of protein while you're healing. Your body needs protein to repair the damage caused by the accident and the surgery, without it you will be so devoid of energy, you'll wonder if you're dying after simple tasks like tying your shoes.
Don't lose heart, recovery can be long, but it does get better.
I have pets that depend on me, so I gotta take care of myself so I can care for them. PT is essential. I'm actually having a physical therapy consult today or tomorrow to figure out what mobility devices will work best for me when I go home. I can't have surgery until the severe swelling goes down in my leg. I'm looking at getting the operation early next week.
I've been given protein-rich hospital food and it has been so refreshing.
The knee scooters worked the best for me until I was strong enough and the pain had subsided enough for crutches. They're not great in small rooms though.
Good luck to you!
Edit: you can often find those scooters at the thrift store or on Craigslist. Of course that won't work if it's your femur that is broken.
Do what they tell you, to recover. The surgeon looks bad if you get a bad outcome, so they've truly got your best interest at heart. Don't cut corners!
Yeah, you might need to set up some ongoing help with your pets until you are firmly back on your feet. You will start to be able to do stuff but still need someone to "spot" you in case a pet bowls you over or gets underfoot and you lose balance.
Edit to add: Purring helps heal bones, so be sure to cuddle up and scritch those little chins and ears!
Ask for the heated blanket. Tell them if you're nervous (they have drugs for that!) and try to relax. The worst part is over (breaking the damn things) and soon you'll have a cool scar.
I'm waiting for more pain drugs that should make me hella high, so I won't be anxious then. I didn't think of the scar lol. I've just been telling people I'm gonna be cyborg
They can help you with pain, nausea, and anxiety through meds. Scar: your surgeon will tell you what scar cream to use when the scar is ready for it. Having to ask for help post-op gets old quickly. But it's a great way to see who your good friends and family are, and the kindness of strangers! Also, you can pay it forward in the future by giving this information to someone else and helping when someone is struggling! You're gonna do great! 
Surgery as others have said is a quick in and out and it's fixed. Be sure you have your therapy afterwards planned and ready to go. Not every physical therapist has appointments ready the moment you leave the hospital. Also make sure your employer, health insurance or whatever applies keeps you financially afloat while you aren't able to work. Have a plan for reentering the workforce.
I already know what physical therapist I want to see. I had my mom call my work to update them on my condition because I was crying with pain. They're offering me accident insurance payout once I gety surgery, even though I was hurtnwhen working at home on the clock. My parents are letting me stay with them and they are going to make sure my ducks and cats are careful for. My dogs are going to be with me at my parents' place
But there will be a point in a year or two, where you actually make it a day or two without even remembering your injury. That's how you know you made it through to the other side.
You'll get there friend! I broke a small bone in my wrist a few years back - required many surgeries and i went a long time without being able to do the things i loved. My wrist isn't perfect, but I have my life and activities back. You'll get there, be patient and kind to yourself through the process. I definitely had moments where I wanted to define myself as "broken" - but your body is just a vessel. You're gonna be OK.
I triple broke my ankle last year, so let me tell you it sucks tremendously.
Depending on the severity of your fracture you will be spending a couple months on crutches, and then up to a year doing physical therapy to restore mobility and the lost muscle and circulatory function in your leg(s).
As for the surgery itself, my ankle was broken in three places and basically turned around 180 degrees, so in a first surgery my foot and leg were fixated using metal rods that were pierced through my ankle and screwed into my shin bone, to allow the swelling to reduce.
Then some days later, the external fixture got removed again and the foot was placed and fixated in an orthopedic boot, a modern version of plaster casts that can be removed intermittently.
Now, almost 18 months later I am still not completely done, because the third surgery to remove leftover metal elements in my leg has caused the massively scarred area to heal very poorly, causing a fucking antibiotics resistant infection in the wound as well.
In short, you have my sympathies, it fucking sucks so much.
Oh jeez. I really hope I don't have a recovery like that. I expect it to be so rough though. Idek what is going to be done. I haven't met my surgeon yet. It's late here, so everything is being done in the morning. They put me in a special splint and have me on pain meds.
When you do meet your surgeon, don't worry if they aren't a people person. The skill you need is in their hands, not their personality. When you meet the anesthesiologist, (and general advice with all medical personnel) be honest about anything they ask you, like about previous drug experiences. They don't ask to judge you, it's to judge what and how much to give you, and how to expect you might react.
Yeah it probably won’t be as bad, but still. Not a fun experience.
On the plus side, the pain meds are pretty fun. Through that whole ordeal I sampled a wide range of them, ketamine (ketanest) was probably the most intense. Felt like someone rolling a huge, soft but very loud boulder over me.
You have more power than you think – you can ask people to pause during the lead up and post-op times, ask questions that you want, tell them your concerns.
Find lots of good media and other entertainment that makes you laugh!
I triple broke my ankle in my youth. It was clean so doctor only had to pull and reposition the parts, didn’t have to operate.
Crutches for 8 weeks, you’ll never have so strong lower arms again. In winter so got ice spikes that you flipped down on the crutches when you go outside. Felt like a cool weapon. I could outrun a lot of people down the stairs and on ice.
Got all the cute girls to sign their name on the platter cast.
Wasn’t too bad! Itching under the cast was really annoying. At one place the cast had been too tight on the skin so skin was rotting. Leg was a thin slivered pathetic version of its former self. It’s insane how much you lose from such a short time. It’s fine now though.