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I know this is likely fake, but I have gotten that reaction from people. Folks really find it strange when you don't have social media. The times it really sucks is when they think you're lying and just don't want to add them.
But you are lying. You are on lemmy.
Imagine if the norm was to ask for your Lemmy/Reddit account.
Then I’d hope America and China would launch the nukes.
Honestly, this is my only "social media" (well, and LinkedIn, but i only use it when I'm looking for work), and I'm not sure it really counts since it's in no way tied to my Identity.
That's not what people are asking about when they ask for your socials. They are referring to the meta family if sites, snapchat, and maybe Twitter at some point.
Yep and somehow, they want you to "prove" you don't have one.
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Eh, I'm married and I legitimately don't have social media (only Lemmy, and I guess Linked In, which I never look at). I only add legitimate work contacts to LinkedIn, and I don't have my lemmy account connected in any way to my identity.
I think pulling out a flip phone counts as proof
It's about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, that's outside of what's normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I don't want to be alone with someone I don't really know who is unpredictable. I'm just trying not to get murdered.
As someone whose only "social media" is Lemmy, I'd be 100% fine meeting in public places or with people you trust. But I'm not going to sell my personal information for a date.
Yeah I guess well socially adjusted people never turn out to be murderers, rapists or abusers of any kind /s
I actually don't mind being a weirdo who doesn't get dates, but I don't understand why people keep falling for this hyper specific personality archetype that's got making girls swoon over them down to a science.
100% I have interests that probably don't align with yours, but at least I'm not lying to you until you're on the hook then calling you a bitch about it 🤷
No one has ever lied to me to get me on the hook and then called me anything about it. I don't know who the people are who fall for this, but it's not an issue in my circles.
Most of my exes have been weirdos, and I am a bit of a weirdo. It's still a red flag to have absolutely no social media presence, and it means I can't send links to your pages with screen shots of you to my sister before our date in case I get murdered.
I suppose. Handing over your entire life and information to a corporation and making most of it available to the world should be the larger red flag.