I understand how from a certain perspective that sort of joke may seem harmless but it's extremely poor timing at the very least. Just extremely insensitive and represents a complete lack of understanding of the situation.
Yup. My coworker's wife lost a baby after announcing it to me and other management (he was excited), and it was well within the first trimester. I felt really bad for him, and the best I could do is not bring it up and just focus on work.
It's hard to place yourself into someone else's position, so if in doubt, it's usually best to stay quiet.
I cooked at a restaurant with a guy who had something similar happen a couple years before I started there. His nickname was angry johny because he was so irritable. Whenever tears in heaven by Clapton came on he would would yell at the manager to skip the song and dissappear into the walk in. He ended up quitting for other reasons but a year or two later I ran into him at a bar and he and the same lady had a healthy birth and all his anger melted away and he turned into a really rad dood. He even apologized to me about his behavior in said kitchen.
Poor anon. Should've said that research found miscarriages to be more common than previously believed and that this specific one likely wasn't the first and definitely not the last.
It's these little details that make all the difference...
Look on the bright side, now you and hubby can have your DNA tested and find out how incompatible you are and that you have about a 25% chance of producing a healthy offspring. Yay, knowledge!
Depending on the woman, this will either help, or shatter them.
The actual odds are around 50% self abort. Mostly within the first month. 10-20% happen between 1 and 3 months. Critically, almost none of the risk is down to the mother. It just happens.
I couldn't get the fear out of my wife's mind on this. All I could do was quantify it, and lay the groundwork that it wasn't her fault if the pregnancy failed.
When I had a colleague who had 3 heartbreaks, and she was expecting her 4th we treated her with proper kid gloves, no carrying, no stress. It felt like a team effort.
Lol anon's a dumbass. I work in healthcare and miscarriages are pretty common and for most people it's pretty easy to get pregnant again, by the story she wasn't admitted to the hospital so the pregnancy couldn't be very far. So it's not that big of a deal. That said, even if it isn't a big deal if you see someone crying you don't crack jokes lol. Have some tact and empathy.
All that if the story was real, which it isn't.
I'm glad I live in a country where family value is strong and still living parents is less taboo, because the rent is too damn high. Although people who came from individualistic countries are judging. I remember ten years ago I have a friend from France who is weirded out we don't move out even at twenty. But even if we want to, we have a housing crisis that persists to this day?
People are different, happy to hear that you have good relationship with your parents - that's not the case for everyone. Also there people who value their privacy and personal freedom more than the convenience of living in a big family.