do you think freewill truly exists?
do you think freewill truly exists?
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Like yeah, exactly. With the right person, you can talk for hours and hours about all kinds of stuff that interests you.
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with the right person you can also be quiet with for hours
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One of the best relationships I ever had.
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We still don't talk sometimes
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This! Silence is so much better than unnecessary and forced talking
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Absolutely, but a lot of people don't understand that you can't arrive to that point by not ever "small talking" along the way. Small-talk is how we express to each other how we feel, how we want to be talked to, what we notice around us and so on. It's a critical component to socializing. Conversations between human beings doesn't play out narratively like in media and movies, there's no "point" to conversing with someone you're close to, you're just sharing shit.
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But also meaningless bullshit. That does not denote a bad relationship.
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Exactly. I can't remember where I heard this - it might have been a podcast like RadioLab or something else - but it was talking about how happily married, intelligent couples talk to each other .
It turns out, it's not usually super deep, intelligent conversations. The vast majority of conversations are just meaningless bullshit. Most of the time, couples aren't even really talking to each other, but they're just kind of thinking aloud. Stupid stuff like, "I swear I saw a dozen blue Volkswagens today."
It turns out that people who are comfortable with each other don't need to have deep conversations all the time. They can just relax, unwind, and be themselves.
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My partner will talk to herself, loud enough to be audible, but not (to deaf me.) loud enough to be coherent. Drives me fucking insane. I have my ways of driving her insane.
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That may be a blessing for the both of you, friend.
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Sorry mate, that’s gone right over my head. She’s said to me that “love is putting up with your partners downsides”. I’m a massive pain in the arse, so …
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She's not wrong. I just meant her muttering may be about the downsides. Not always, ofc, because I'm single and still mutter.
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Nah, it’s about what she’s doing or whatever’s going on.
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The way I understand "Smalltalk" is not whether the subject matter is "serious enough" but rather whether either party actually has any interest in it, or if it is a polite nicety to avoid awkward silence.
Discussing the weather in a car ride with a coworker is smalltalk, contemplating with a friend how one might conquer the world using ant-controlling super powers is not.
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This exactly. "Do you think free will exists" could, in fact, be small talk, if neither of you is particularly interested in the topic.
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Indeed I can confirm.
Just a few days ago I pondered the life of plants and asked my wife how she thinks the death of a plant is defined if for animals (including humans of course) it's mostly the heartbeat.
So when is a plant dead?
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When you see its little planty soul waft up to heaven.
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Talk about the stuff that interests you, you know, the small stuff
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Small stuff doesn't really interest me, or my partner.
Doesn't mean we're incapable of discussing dinner plans or cleaning schedules.
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Was meant as a joke :)
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For hours, every day, for years or decades? That has never happened.
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