Preach

My boyfriend does when my adhd is going to loud for him. I have become more quiet for him <3

Ever been to a library? They tell extroverts to be quiet
- This is why libraries are one of my most favorite places. The truly shared space.

I really felt this almost sense of justice when extroverts were forced to quarantine and were getting cabin fever after like 3 days.
Explaining to them that the discomfort they felt is what I felt every single day I had to go out into their world with all their eyes always looking at my face and making noises at me.
- See this is why I miss COVID. It was the perfect excuse to stay at home and do nothing, and when I did have to go out, the roads were clear and hardly anyone was around.
  Pisses me off so much that the extroverts had to ruin everything by bitching and moaning until government officials around the world caved and ended lockdown early.
  Bunch of selfish cunts. Literally got people killed over their strange desire to socialize. It's beyond infuriating.
  
  My partner and I went to a resort town while things were in the weird not-entirely-closed-but-weird post-lockdown phase. We figured it would be absolutely dead and we were right.
  It was mid spring or so, and we walked from our hotel to a nearby private pier (owned by a condo or high-end hotel or something), with a growler of beer and some glasses, hopped the gate and sat there on their deck furniture, naked, drinking in the dark on this lake for several hours. Not a soul in sight. Just the night sky, us, and a good time.
  Then a cold breeze rolled in and we hurriedly got dressed and walked back to the hotel down the center of the street.
  It was super surreal, very enjoyable, and had that liminal space feeling to it.
  
  We should make taking an "introday" a thing. Wanna hang? Nah, I'm taking an introday. Cool, sometimes that's needed.
  
  Covid was a mixed blessing in that sense. Moving around and generally having much more privacy and space in public was great, but then the part of you that really dislikes change is faced with the glaringly obvious “this is not normal” public and facing the uncertainty of at least the immediate future.
  
  It is. And also how nature was really rapidly healing just because we reduced the number of people commuting by combustion engine... and then we just went back to how things were?? Like we didn't even want to try and learn from it.
  COVID was a historic inflection point in so many many ways, and I fear that we've completely wasted it.

Because when someone is alone, they might start thinking for themselves. Dangerous shit right there for those lacking the honesty to make actually win-win kind of deals

This is why I hate self described extroverts so much. They are often explaining all their bullying behaviour as ‘being extrovert’
Or worse: the diagnosed ADHD mixed with type A personality and excuse every hostile thing they do is because of the ADHD.
Essentially it always boils down to the poorly managed type A wearing different disguises.

I was looking for fun activities that I might enjoy alone. So I Google “activities an introvert can enjoy alone” and all the results were things like “how to not be an introvert, how to come out of your shell, how to enjoy extrovert activities as an introvert”
Like wtf? Stop trying to change and “fix“ me. I don’t want to be an extrovert, im sick of people treating introverts as broken
- House plants were a big introvert hobby of mine for years. I kinda lost the special interest love lately though and keep forgetting to take care of them. Oops
- Totally agree! You do you, you shouldn't have to change that. Username is great btw

Or when they demand the introvert start talking but they complain that s/he won't shut up and talks too much.
- "Hey, aren't you into (special interest)? Tell us about that"
  ...
  "No, not like that"

end extrovert supremacy now!

- one of my favorite things is the meta text that calvin is imaginative and quick witted like his dad and empathetic and creative like his mother. he's ultimately allowed the amount of leeway he's given because at his core he's a good kid and they're proud of him, so they let him express himself
  
  something tells me that calvin was insufferable in his twenties. i grew up with the same kind of "support", and i learned that you only get told the truth when you aren't cute any more.

I have even been threatened with termination at work for that. I simply cannot make small talk at work and more than half of the department are tongue wagging gossips that I cannot interact with at all beyond the barebones job requirements. My supervisor sees this as anti teamwork
- Yeah, work makes us cone in twice a week to “interact with our peers”, but I work with people on different continents let’s do I’m not interacting with them either way. Anyhow, I got yelled at for not eating lunch with “the group” when I just needed some downtime
  Even using zoom isn’t any less hectic when you’re juggling multiple tasks with multiple people on multiple time zones

As a introvert, I do.
I call their loudness out. Tell them to fucking chill.
You can be introverted AND direct.
- Yeah, often people confuse "introvert" with "shy" and learn about "sarcasm".
- Being introvert is all the more incentive to be direct cause it allows you to talk less

It’s for the same bullshit reason that any difference in preferred communication style is always won by the person who responds to an email or text with a phone call. Buddy, if I actually wanted to talk, I would’ve called. It’s not my fault you have the reading ability of a drunk 5 year old.
- A life hack is that you don't have to answer what I would perseive as an aggressive phone call. Stand you ground and keep the communication in you preferred way.
  
  You’re not wrong at all, but when it happens at work telling them to stop is tricky depending on where they are in the hierarchy.

Personally, I love chatty extroverts. They just talk at me and I get to sit there in silence and daydream. They don't care if you're listening.

Feeling like people who are very talkative and/or loud do often get in trouble for that as well. People with a lack of self-awareness of one's own volume and monologuing about things of interest can mean the same people who typically are on the receiving end of trying to be "pulled out of their shell" are also sometimes the people who get told to be quiet.

Amen to that

I’ve definitely been told to stop talking my entire life so idk about this
- Ugh I've heard both. I talk too much and I don't talk enough, which do you freaking want?! Cause I can't win either way and I can't win by being myself. Lately I just decided fuck it, I do what I want.

Leaving this comment feels extroverted, I hate it.

Gift them books, a microscope, minerals, a vintage computer... Maybe something will stick and make them more introverted. Or maybe they'll see the gifts as an abstract validation of their ways and store them in the basement or the trash can.

Hell yeah. It's always the extroverts that act like they're the default and introverts just need to be coaxed out of their shells. I think that it comes from the common misunderstanding that being introverted is the same thing as being socially anxious. I think they probably go hand in hand, in that a socially anxious person is possibly introverted as a defense mechanism but it's not the same. Being introverted just means that you have a limited social battery that takes longer to change.

Because of the recent trend of omitting "does" from "why does everyone," I am constantly trying to figure out what the photo hopes to explain, but then I realize it's because someone is abusing English again.
- Oh no, the immutable English language.
  
  fr ong bro u got ohio rizz but im sigma no cap

!autismmemes@lemmy.zip

My wife is an introvert, I am an extrovert. When we are at home she will not shut up, she is constantly talking. I however do all of my talking away from home and want quiet.

Many cultures do. Maybe yours not enough to your needs or taste.