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askchapo @hexbear.net Magician [he/him, they/them] @hexbear.net 5 mo. ago

I don't think the place is here, but is there a safe space for leftists to talk about sex and dating?

I understand that Hexbear has young and vulnerable people, making it potentially unsafe for something as personal and private as sexuality, but I was wondering if there are many online spaces that are friendly and nonjudgmental for that.

There are topics I'd like to discuss like classism in hookup culture/kink communities, but I don't want to make people uncomfortable. I also can't account for wreckers and just general topic derailment.

Also in general, are there considerations I should take when broaching these topics in online spaces?

I feel like we're doing a good job of protecting people from sex pests and I don't want to make a safe place unsafe.

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stop fucking
Sometimes I'm like "maybe it would be cool if the ~~fedposting honeypot~~ bear website had a horny discussion board" and other times I'm like OH HELL FUCKING NO
- Yeah that's terrifying.
there is no place online without young and vulnerable people that is also anonymous. only solution is irl communities sadly.
- I hoped I didn't have to go outside. I don't want to touch grass!!
  
  They have a legal history because of a lawn related fetish.
start fucking
- Fuck starting
BDSM/kink communities tend to be willing to talk about this kind of thing.
I feel like there is an unwritten rule every discord has to have a porn zone. I that'd probably be the place to start. Failing that I think you woudl have to got to sex positive spaces and work backwards. Most quink spaces are probably half way there. True most lifestyle spaces are full of liberals. I would just expect you to have better luck finding a fetlife group than a lemme instance.
- porn zone
  
  I think OP is looking for a place to have honest discussions about sex, not an explicitly horny space where people post porn. those are two entirely different things
  
  Yeah. Like I think it's weird to consider the power dynamic at play when only wealthy people can safely host, especially if you're queer.
  
  Or the way racist sexual stereotypes dehumanizes people of color.
- We enter the Porn Zone when a RedTube Premium subscription becomes greater than 60% of a gooner's budget
- What kind of discord are you in?
  
  I feel like lots of discords I have been in just have that mullet experience where there is just a party going on in the back someplace. Is it just me?
I don't think the place is here

YOUR DAMN RIGHT

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