>This article explores the gender complexities of men caught between social power and powerlessness. Specifically, I consider the cases of Jewish men and gay men in the late modern West, two demographics with deep historic ties to both abjection and privilege. Such "in-between-ness” steers many, especially those who are white, cisgender, and/or otherwise privileged, toward what I term liminal complicity, a normative adaptation whereby men embrace manly ideals while disavowing femininity in themselves and others.

>> “The logic of homosexual desire,” Bersani suggests, “includes the potential for a loving identification with the gay man’s enemies.” Indeed, Perez argues that modern gay subjectivity has, since the late-nineteenth century, been intertwined with sailors, cowboys, soldiers, and other hetero-masculine frontier icons, figures whose continued cultural salience is evident in their portrayal by the Village People

gays love settler colonialism and fascism? Gorky was right!

>>Gay men have worked to distance themselves from the stigma of gender deviance by various means, including physical fitness training, masculine self presentation lessons, male bonding, and militarization.

psychotic steroid using Instagram neoliberal gays

>To this day, liminal gays assert normalcy by disregarding fems as friends and partners. Liminal gays use similar contempt and condescension to distinguish themselves from women

are fems friends? !thinky-felix

>If liminal gays are so often denied, on account of their sexuality, the manly dominance promised to them in youth, wielding what limited power they have against others helps compensate for feelings of impotence. In the sexual marketplace, this involves sexually assaulting, coercing, and/or manipulating those marked as attractive while inferiorizing those marked as unattractive. Exemplifying the latter, Ayres’ (1999, 89) recounts the “overt belligerence [of] drunk queens who shout in my face, ‘Go back to your own country.’” Such verbal aggression, together with an “almost imperceptible feeling of exclusion” (ibid.), ensures that BIPOCs feel unwelcome in implicitly white settings, thus enabling white gays to maintain their implicit control over those spaces. >details how homonationalist discourses have increasingly brought white gay subjects and their Western nation-states together in opposition to “backward Islamic extremists.” Displacing anti-queer stereotypes of deviance and perversion onto Arab Muslims thereby facilitates imperial aggression in the Middle East with the implicit support of patriotic gay citizens.

"patriotic gay citizens" !racist-lorry-driver

>Where assimilationist Jews challenged Aryan hegemony by pursuing equal citizenship, colonial Zionists would embody Western values from afar, embracing a tough, masculine, but ultimately unthreatening posture for Western elites. U.S. Zionists likewise elevated themselves by supporting both Israeli and U.S. projects of masculine dominance. In a similar vein, affluent white Western gays attained relative acceptance in the LGBTQ rights era in part by limiting their demands and making themselves useful to commercial markets and nation-states

"making themselves useful" listen, twink, !amber

Bi ace !solidarity

when yall bringing this cake i keep hearing about? i got the lemonbars.

> But even some progressive gay white men say they feel alienated from a movement they see becoming more radical, particularly online, where the tenor of conversation is often uncivil.

Hot take: I'm honestly, vocally sick of settler-gay men who demand that you handle them with kid gloves when their entire existence within the community is an existence blanketed in microaggression at best, when they're not being outright full-on macroaggressive about someone that 'doesn't fit their "preference"'; and I'm genuinely glad people are starting to talk about it.

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!agony-turbo they ripped it off the hinges and everything. this is his second flag to get stolen. hes such a sweet guy. im gonna fucking buy another flag. im gonna buy a camera or something too.

For context, I'm gender fluid, and idk if anything I'm mentioning has do with that. Sometimes I'm desperate to express more masculinity, but it isn't an emergency level of wanting to experience a different body.

I think it's mostly a power fantasy to do with physical autonomy. With strength, men are generally bigger and stronger. There's also some sex fantasies of having a dick along with my vagina, one that can appear exclusively for sex and disappear when I stop.

Sometimes I fume over how I'll never be strong enough to throw a car. I love the idea of looking like Arnold Schwarzenegger when he was on steroids and having fun doing things only incredibly buff people can do. I personally am not turned on by the body type he had, but I'd love to have and use it. It seems like a wonderful level of autonomy.

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alright this is getting spicy, i was of little faith apparently

My textbook got really woke on me all of a sudden.

we were already doing shit like that !knifecat

!Care-Comrade !cat-trans

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After some recent shit with my family I've finally made the difficult decision that I need to cut them off one day and that I'm not going to have a relationship with them going forwards. When I get the chance to change my legal name I'm also going to change my last name too as a way of separation from them all. I've already picked a new first and middle name but I really have no idea what to do for the last one. Like last names have histories behind them and a lot of time it has to do with what country or culture you've come from so it would be weird of me to pick a last name based in a culture that I'm not from.

Has anyone else gone through this? Do you all have any advice for how to start choosing one?

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https://www.pixiv.net/en/artworks/84699365

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Youtube seems ro keep trying to funnel views into shorts.

Ok here's a cute dog. Here's a moose returning to the home of someone who saved them from drowning. Here's some neat science thing. !sicko-wholesome

!twisted Now here's a bunch of Turning !frothingfash exploiting ignorance getting SICK OWNS on school kids about the TRANSGENDERS

Now here's some religous zealot reading teen queer books with a GOD IS GREATER shirt on during a school board meeting. THAT'S INAPPROPRIATE - OWNED BITCHES! (Let's ignore the Bible though.....I know I know God shirt, but !frothingfash DON'T DISCRIMINATE MUH RELIGION WHEN MY RELIGION IS HYPOCRITICAL AND TELLS ME TO DISCRIMINATE YOU REEEEEEEE

Ever hear of how Lot's daughters got their father drunk and raped him? !angel-biblical-shh

Just always anti LGBTQ . Never pro LGBTQ. And who the fuck asked to put !shapiro-poplar !charlie-kirk !peterson-pill-dinner in the middle of my cute animal scrolls? I mean Youtube has a non discrimination policy how the hell do they keep allowing it?

Every fucking week even outside of shorts I report anither attempt at that Fulan Gong cult anti queer ads shoved in my pro LGBTQ media.

Then the damned comment section.

We need a :reddit-logo: equivalent Youtube. It's gotten worse than them.

Thank you for listening to my HexRant

The twins must fall

No link got the screenshot off discord

!lets-fucking-go

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It just makes more sense this way and if you're going "noooooooo words mean something you can't just grab all the gay" i'm like lol gayroller goes vrooooom !wojak-nooo !gayroller-2000

btw here's how gay i am now that i have ascended to my new and vastly more powerful form:

!hexbear-gay-pride !hexbear-lesbian !hexbear-bi-2 !hexbear-pan !hexbear-polyam !hexbear-demisexual !hexbear-trans !meow-hug !hexbear-trans

and yes the two trans bears with the hugging cats inbetween are now the official logo for t4t

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https://www.tumblr.com/vgadvisor/726301347943743488?source=share

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Please !flattened-bernie tell us how !vote !DaBiden is harm reduction again?

[Edit: I made one now :)]

Cursory search shows some really old threads where it is mentioned often with 0 or maybe a couple replies. One of the resource threads mentions an old DIY listing website that was seized by the FBI I think.

I wanna talk with my favourite commie trans people about criminal activities. (!fedposting)

If there is interest I can maybe type something up for HRT sources.

I'm not sure if this is the best place but I don't know where else I could talk about something like this. I know that my style of masculinity is toxic but I've never gotten good advice on how to overcome it as a trans man.

The assumption that trans men don't have toxic masculinity because "they got socialized as women" is a common one in trans spaces and not only does it not apply to me, the implication that trans men are softer men pisses me off and digs me deeper.

Lore time: I internalized masculine norms throughout my isolated childhood. I knew and insisted I was a boy from an early age and my behaviour got me isolated and bullied by my female peers. I was also mistreated a lot for being queer.

My main problem is being insecure because of dysphoria combined with the transphobia I've received, pushing me to toxic competitive behaviour that runs the risk of alienating my friends. However, compared to the attitudes I've faced and still face in real life, affirmation from queer spaces about how men don't need to be one way feel detached from reality. How can I not be insecure when I've been bullied for my whole life and none of that would've happened if my body wasn't female? If I said that doesn't matter wouldn't it be cope?

Tl;dr what do when toxically masculine as a trans man in very transphobic irl corcumstances? I would especially appreciate examples of masculine-presenting men who didn't engage in masculinity as a competition. If post is too big wall of text or just too many personal details tell me and I'll trim.

I decided to have a new and not boring hat. And do to it my way - 5 strands to match the colours and ratio of bi-flag colours, with the 6 rainbow pride colours as beads. I applied some clear heat shrink tubing that I normally use for wire management in electronics projects, rather than end up with giant knots.

The next version with have a tighter braid, and colours to match the progress pride flag. My apologies for the oversight on this first version, trans and enby and ace friends! I love you all!

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