a thousand percent how it is. I was in the military for all of my 20's.. I got out at 32. It's been years and I still don't know who I am. TIme to go listen to Linkin Park while I play Skyrim đ€Ą
I got sober at 33 and thought too much of my life had passed by but after a couple weeks and meeting others aged 50-70 getting sober I quickly realized how lucky I was to get sober at my age and how much potential life I still might have...made it 5 years this July and looking forward to 10+
Iâm the same age, with more relapses and detoxes than I can count on my hands. I had never thought about it that way, but itâs a great perspective. Iâm at day 93 today, feeling sturdy as fuck.
Congrats on your sobriety! 5 years is a huge feat and Iâm sure it feels amazing! âșïžâđŒ
The last time i was drinking was like 10 years ago. I was sitting in a bar with a friend and we were both almost 30. I started to realise that most people in there were younger than us. Sometimes by quite a bit. The exceptions were a bunch of guys who were 40 to 60 years old, hanging at the bar by themselves, talking to "young" people and they cringed out of their minds. I told my friend that i'd rather die than end up like that. I didn't even realise back then that was the last time i'll ever drink.
I didnât need to get completely sober (I smoke pot still and have the occasional drink; I had issues with much harder drugs and as they say, ârecovery looks different for everyone!â
Anyway, this is so true. Itâs like⊠what did I used to like doing before I started getting fucked up all the time?
Well, I got back in to an online game I hadnât played in 24 years (and didn't know was still going!), Iâm big in to riding my bicycle, reading comics, almost like being a kid again.
The grownup hobby Iâm still doing is maintaining and riding my motorcycle around. However, I do it by myself now because all my old riding buddies were definitely not clean. Also, riding motorcycles is an excellent exercise in mindfulness.
I had to cut a lot of people out of my life. Iâm still very lonely sometimes, but keeping busy with these things is so helpful. Iâm also trying my hand at DMing a D&D campaign with a bunch of sober people, so that will help. Weâre due to start next week. :)
I went back to school and am 5 years since I last did my problem-drug and 3 years in to a new career that isâŠ. going. đ
I'm 6 years clean from the hard stuff and have had a similar experience. Like who am I? What do I like? I basically got to reinvent myself.
I learned many hard lessons during my dark years, and I decided to use that to my advantage now. I've been through hell, so I don't get fazed by anything at this point!
I'm a 36 year old guitar-playing video-gaming family man! Live life and just enjoy being you whoever you are!
While genetics certainly plays a role, never, ever, let age be an excuse. Plenty of people either start, or continue to be active, well into their later years. Heck there's a pro mountain biker who consistently places top 5 nearing 40.
And if you can't be active, there a tons of sedentary hobbies, too. Life is a series of experiences, enjoy them while, and whenever, you can.
I started downhill and enduro mountain biking when I was 40. 2 years later I'm pretty decent at it. I take some pretty large jumps and drops and go down crazy steep technical shit. You're never to old to learn. Just make sure you wear the protective gear for the sport and you'll do fine. Also you'll feel amazing when you conquer an obstacle that used to give you trouble.
While genetics certainly plays a role, never, ever, let age be an excuse. Plenty of people either start, or continue to be active, well into their later years.
Hubert Schwarz famously cycled around the world... twice. IIRC, the first time at 40 and then again at 46. Previously, at age 35, he completed all of the - then five - world's Ironman competitions in a single year.
You need a hobby when getting sober more than anything. When you get sober you are bored shitless. Seriously I didn't know what bored meant until getting clean
A lot actually. Boxing, motorcycling (riding and fixing) , mycology, oil painting, and lots and lots of books. But turns out that was more symptomatic of bipolar 2 lol
I never had a drinking problem to get over, but last weekend at 34 I did just play Ultimate Frisbee for the first time since high school. On that day I learned stretching is much more important for us 30-somethings than it was back when I was a teenager. It's been 6 days and I'm still limping a little bit.
I figured I'd be fine, I work out regularly and am more fit in pretty much every way compared to how I was in high school. But, all that darting around, jumping, and occasional sprinting is a whole different beast than jogging, hiking or lifting.