I've heard some stories about schools with zero tolerance. Bullying victims soon found out that you get equal punishment for defending themselves or for some serious violence. The logical response is to go full berserker mode.
"So, Kid A jumped Kid B in the hallway, called them a bigoted slur, then beat Kid B so badly he had to go to the hospital. Kid B tried to fight back, but was overwhelmed. Our solution is that kids are going to be suspended for an equal amount of time and suffer equal repercussions, because zero tolerance."
Zero tolerance is the absence of humanity as a policy. It's abhorrent.
"Zero tolerance" is just a code word for "zero brain cells."
And it's not just stupid on the part of school administrators, it's actively cowardly. Just insist that right and wrong don't matter and no one can hold you accountable for anything.
Got really harshly dogged in sophomore year by an asshole, one day in gym class he threw a basketball (iirc?)directly at my head. That day I gave him a death stare and we squared up, gym teacher came over and threw US both on the ground yelling like you do when dogs start fighting. A year later I was questioned by the school councilor whether I was safe enough to go to my honors classes at a neighboring high school (zero tolerance for bad behavior in this program). I nearly got denied my favorite class (equine science+veterinary science) over that shit. Don’t even remember the guy’s name, but he was a total loser. I’m still salty that I didn’t beat the shit out of him that day lol.
Zero tolerance needs to be applied to administration too, so that they can see how absolutely unjust the policy is against victims of abuse. Spray brake fluid on the superintendent's car and then accuse them of vandalism. Same thing. Set fire to their lawn, blame them for arson. Same thing. Maybe being part of the injustice will highlight their idiotic reasoning.
Such a dumb fucking policy made by lawyers who don't react like normal people.
The Ender Wiggin solution. Take that as you will.
That was my experience in school. I frequently got worse punishment than my bullies. Then the one day I actually fought back I got worse punishment again. But the next day I was ignored by the bullies.
I can just hear someone out there saying that's what the school wanted to teach me but dude, it was not some reasoned, cool headed, defense of myself. It was a dirty emotional scrap where I used anything I had to hand. If I had possessed a weapon it would have been used. That's not resilience training, that's trauma and teaching kids they cannot trust authority. Because if you think the lesson was lost on anyone around me then you are a fool.
teaching kids they cannot trust authority
Which is still a valuable lesson
It teaches the younger and weaker kids that they cannot expect administrators to act in their interests.
It teaches the older and meaner kids that they can act with impunity, safe in the assumption that administrators will look the other way.
The lesson is two-fold, and the end result is a cycle of bullying as the younger kids grow up knowing they can punch down without consequences.
Anti-bullying policies at schools aren't meant to protect victims. But they aren't meant to protect perpetrators either.
They are instead meant to protect the school administration, notably from having to actually assign fault in bullying situations. They can simply say "zero tolerance," punish all parties equally, and wash their hands of it.
This should be pinned at the top.
It’s lawsuits, not reputation, the administration is worried about.
Teachers, however, actually care about human development, and attempt the impossible job of steering students in the right direction.
The teachers at my school sometimes bullied the students. I wasn't one of them, but I can't imagine how horrible it must have been for those kids. They were targeted for their appearance and poor grades by kids and adults alike. Yeah, they were cringe kids whose moms dressed them and did their homework for them, but come on.
Anyway, bad (and abusive) teachers exist and it's not just an apathetic admin team that causes this issue. It's not always about liability or reputation, some adults are just awful to kids because their own lives suck and/or they get off on the power.
Like that kid who got kicked off the swim team because another student engraved the n word on him
Back when I was in school, I was bullied so bad it resulted in multiple head injuries and even a broken arm.
My parents tried to complain to the school but got nowhere, so they went to the local newspaper. I was interviewed, so were other kids at my school. The story was pulled from the paper at the request of the school superintendent.
Years later after I graduated, I saw a documentary on Amazon about school bullying, and it featured the very same school!
As shit as social media is, I do think the aspects of it that allow stories like yours to go viral nowadays and bring eyes to a situation beyond the local community can be helpful.
My niece's school also had an intense bullying situation, and several students posted on Tiktok about it. The videos went semi-viral, and the school got bombarded with phone calls and negative Google reviews (I didn't even know schools HAD Google reviews until then lol). The regional news station got wind of it this way, and came sniffing around. Suddenly administrators were VERY concerned and attentive to the situation, when they couldn't even be bothered half of the school year.
I actually think the victim's family were able to settle something legally because a lawyer offered their services reduced cost or pro-bono, again by learnings about the situation from social media.
Dox the superintendent.
Same as it ever was
Back in the 90s, my middle school had a policy of punishing any students involved in a fight. If you threw a punch, you were in trouble. If you got hit, you were in trouble. The official line being that it would be unfair to punish two students brawling simply because the teacher didn't arrive until the last punch was thrown. But in practical terms, it meant you had a huge disincentive to report being attacked because it would amount to a confession of guilt.
Found this out very personally when a kid in a foul mood decided to start marching through the hallway and swinging at anyone standing in his way. He struck three kids on his way out of the building (including myself). When this got up to the principal's office, the principal was forced to explain to three different sets of parents why their children were in trouble because one (older, btw) child went on a rampage.
In that particular incident, the offending kid was suspended and ultimately moved to a disciplinary school. But the policy wasn't changed, just exempted in this particular instance.
In my town, a kid and his sister were bullied to the point of the kid shooting up the school. The principal that ignored it all is being hailed as a hero for being shot along with the bully of the sister.
Allegedly, the kid was also a piece of shit beforehand, so being bullied isn't really a defense of him.
The conversation about doing something about the rampant bullying at the school lasted a week, maybe, before turning back to meaningless platitudes. More memorials, more fundraising, more blue shit to show support, but nothing about stopping the root cause.
And then a school shooting happens and the reputation is more than tarnished
We don't discovered tarnish so bully
The teachers are requesting that, if someone harrasses you, you go WAY TOO FAR in defending yourself, and will dole out and withhold punishments to encourage it.
Anyone who wasn't basically ordering you to do that would behave differently.
gotta skin it to win it
It's about school reputation? I thought it was about dominance hierarchy, the same reason boys' sports is a higher priority than any other education program world-wide.
We just like our beefy kids and wish we could toss the defects down a pit like the Spartans.
And it keeps on going and then we elect them.
I don't believe that's true.
Maybe it's true in American private schools where you need to chose which school to give money to, but where I live schools don't have reputation to care about. You just go to the one closest.
I was expelled for being bullied for being queer
Clearly it's your fault for being bullied.
Did you read my comment? I am not claming that bullying does not exist.
Happens in public schools where funds get cut for poor performance of students.
In my central European country, performance tracking is centralised and operated by the State, and does not affect funding.
kids need to learn how to fight back. the bullies will still be there when you grow up.
Then to make the comparison work, the police (real ones) should be called every time a student reports being assaulted, and it shouldn't be treated as school disciplinary matter any more than it would be an HR issue if I were punched by a coworker.
I'm a former middle school principal and I hate and avoided the word "Bully" and "Bullying". It is one of those words that is insanely overused and thrown around. In most cases, kids engage in relational aggression and then one kid takes it too far (intentionally or not) or can "dish it out" but can't take it. There are some cases where kids will single out the "weird kid" but that is far more rare than relational aggression and much easier to identify and punish. The parents of the those aggressors usually are mortified by their own kid's behavior unless that kid is being raised by sociopaths.
There are some cases where kids will single out the "weird kid" but that is far more rare
If you happen to be the weird kid, it's not rare at all.
I have a former school principal in my family and he is very similar in attitude to you. Interesting that it might not just be cops who are all bastards.
Congrats on dropping the ball and never improving, I'm sure the "weird kid" students appreciated the lack of support.
Glad to know my middle school principal dropped the ball even harder than I previously thought.
-A Weird Kid
Well I can definitely say the word "former" is the only worthwhile word in this entire post.
"I hate and avoided the word 'constipation.' We have occasional irregularity." No, you're just full of shit.
You were part of the problem. I'm glad that's past tense.
You are the thing this post is making fun of.
