I was once yelled at by a friend of a girl for "ignoring her advances." I kid you not, the "advances" consisted of her walking up to me at a party, saying "hey, aren't you in my math class?" (To which I answered in the affirmative) and "well, um, I guess I'll see you there Monday!"
How the fuck was I supposed to know that was an attempt at flirting?
The older gay guy at work? "You're gorgeous. Ever consider dating a man?"
Society has reinforced that women should be passive, and even after much progress on that front in general, somehow this still applies in some people's minds.
I would guess.
No biggie though, depends what you personality traits you yourself are looking for, if being proactive is one of them, then I guess you haven't missed out 😅
And if you weren't interested and the friend is yelling at you angrily, that's mega questionable. Last I checked, no one is obligated to be interested romantically in anyone else...
As a mostly straight dude who does not score high on conventional physical attractiveness I encourage absolutely everyone independent of their gender to hit on me. Being told/signaled that I am attractive is always welcome.
Just don't blatantly ignore boundaries like physical touch without explicit consent. That too applies completely independent of gender.
I'm sure you're aware but I think it needs to be said more; but I think that most women would love to pay men compliments on their appearance, but unfortunately, it sometimes leads to weird, obsessive, totally inappropriate behaviour from said men and so that scares a lot of women off.
We, as a society, should try to discourage men from reading too much into a purely platonic compliment so that women feel more free to give men compliments without fear of super awkward and/or scary situations.
When you say “hi” and the guy is like “I’m not into you”
Not into you either bro. Just acknowledging you’re there and I’m here so you don’t fall off a cliff in surprise just cuz I’m walking this trail behind you. Safety measures and all that.
I used to provide security for a club that held a lot of queer dance parties. It's pretty flattering to be hit on by gay guys. They'll give you honest compliments that most women won't.
I've only been hit on once by gay men and it was a case of mistaken identity. It was at a halloween party in 2004 and I was dressed as an Abu Ghraib detainee from Iraq, mostly naked wearing just a black hood, a dog collar and leash around my neck, and skin colored underwear with a stuffed dog attached as if it was biting my crotch. Nobody really got the costume - they just assumed it was some sort of fetish thing.
I was literally in a gay bar the only time I was hit on. My friend was the bartender and I'd hang out there with him sometimes. So for all I know, the guy hitting on me was just very desperate.
I sure wasn't hit on any of the other times I was in there.
I remember really enjoying it when it was first airing, but I fell off cuz my living situation got all messed up and I think it’s one of those where I’d have to start over from S1E1.
I think it's Legion; a series based on an X-Men character named Legion, who is Charles Xavier's neglected schizophrenic son, but because of licensing issues they couldn't include most X-Men characters and as a result they created a story that doesn't really feel like any other superhero thing and is instead very weird and very trippy.
I haven't watched it since it's original run and don't remember much more than that, but I remember liking it quite a bit. I might rewatch it soon.
There's a bit where some time travel shit starts happening and these really freaky time demons show up and they will sit in your nightmares for a while.