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For me Its quite simple. My brain decided it. Literally. The days I found out I'm trans, my brain would do this weird thing, where I could think about completely different stuff and suddenly my now chosen name would "fly" into my mental Field of View, like an asteroid in star wars or so. I told that name a close friend and 4 weeks later when we went to the club together I told him, that I will stick with it, because I didnt had a better idea (and it was the only name I really felt comfortable with).

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  • Video game player, thru many (mmo)rpg genre, had to make many fantasy names. Went known thru most common one, then picked some irl name that was similar. (not related to my lemmy username).

  • I just took my birth name, shortened it and that happens to be gender neutral. Then I expanded it but the female version of the name.

  • I had priorities and did research. I had rules I decided from the beginning. It took months to decide I even changed my mind a on somethings at the last minute

    1. Initials I needed something to match my initials. That only changed slightly when I decided to make sure I didn't have my sperm donors last name.
    2. I needed my name to come from a similar part of the globe historically. I think nowadays I'd have done the same thing for different reasons. When I first made this rule I'd done it to respect my sperm donor despite everything. Then later on I kept it because I had already decided on this and it filtered out thousands of names. If I had to name myself today, this rule would mean that my name comes from the same area as my siblings, which honestly means it doesn't stand out.
    3. I needed the meaning of my name to matter. And I wanted something I'd always agree with. Personally I feel like I fucked up here. At the time I was extremely angry at my father and part of my name reflects that. Nowadays I wish I had picked something that embodied myself and wasn't just an insult towards someone else. I don't hate it but I feel like if I had gotten a second opinion I'd have gone with my other choice for a middle name.
    4. It needed you sound a certain way, I needed saying first into middle to sound good. Not hard when they're from the same region but that's not always the case.

    I think with this I only struggled to choose between 4-5 names and was going to put the number 2 or 3 pick as a middle name it worked out well for me. I think if I hadn't gotten pissed off during the time before I legally changed my name I'd definitely have a different middle name though.

  • My "furname" was because I wanted something soft and creature-ish. My IRL chosen name (Petrichor/Petroglyph/Petra) was because again, I wanted something kinda creature-ish but could be shortened to something feminine.

    I'm kinda jealous of a friend of mine tho. Her chosen name (Coral) is literally 10/10 and kinda fits her perfectly >.>

  • It’s sort of the femme version of my given name. There’s a lot of history in my family with that name that I do appreciate and value and want to feel connected to. I did a bunch of research into the names and language of where my family originated and found my new name and instantly fell in love with it. I remember sobbing after writing it down for the first time.

  • My partners have been calling me "Cat" for years 'cuz my fursona is feline. If I wanted to go through the hassle of changing my government name that's the one I'd pick, but I'd spell it with a 'k'.

  • Still very much pre-transition so idk if i will change my name in the future. Already go by the shortened version of my name, and its pretty neutral/unisex in the shortened form, so... shrug

  • It’s a female version of my birth name, it can be shortened to Tam which is fun, plus I think it sounds cute.

    Now if only I were able to actually use it, sigh…

  • I started making a big list with checkboxes on it. I added things like nicknames and "boymode" nicknames where they applied. Then I went down the list and checked off the ones I didn't really like that much. Then I started saying them out loud one night, and my spouse would just say "no" to them and those were checked off the list. I have two left, now. I'm still open to suggestions from others, and I am asking people when I come out if they have suggestions. The hard part is that both of the names I like are either my spouse's initials or my mother's, and I can't stand my mother. One day I'll make the choice final, but I'm trying one of them out now. The clinic and hospital network I use has a field in my profile for "preferred name" and they actually use it, so it's in there for now.

  • It came to me in English class when I was 17. At the time I was unsure of why I became attached to the name. A few years later I realised why (and that it was a cliche, but I was attached at that point). I let my parents pick my middle name so they could have some say in naming me.

  • I was thinking about Satan on my walk and figured that "Lucy" is short for "Lucifer", and then was like "Lucy actually sounds pretty nice..."

    I returned home and told about it with my friend (also trans) and she was like "wow so cool!!!!!" so I went with it. That's it :3

    • And I just thought of random names until I found one I liked. lol

  • For a while when I was a kid I wondered what my name would be if I chose it myself and that was the only one that felt like it fit. Totally forgot about it until after my egg shattered and realized that it's gender-neutral and I really like the cutesy nickname/diminutive forms

  • I wish I could come up with another name. For some reason, it just feels weird and almost wrong to name myself. That isn't judgement against people who have chosen their own names, it's my own awful hangups and I wish I had the confidence to pick something for myself and own it. So I guess I need a group of friends that know me and can help me pick one.

    My real name is gendered af. And even before this awakening, I disliked it because everywhere I go, there'll always be other people with the same name as me. It's like my parents' generation just had no fucking imagination or originality. And it's people being named basic shit that leads to all of the Tragedeighs in the next generation as over compensation.

  • i didn pick my name......,,,,.,,,,..,.,.,. nt yet.., ;(

    • That doesn't have to be something you need to be sad about Smorty! Look at it this way, you've got a world of opportunity ahead of you for what you can pick! It's such an exciting and fun time figuring out what name suits you best, what feels most comfy! That's !!!! super exciting !!!!!

      • yisyis, i didn say iss a bad thg, im jus - rlli thinkin bout it n - eh - i guess i will be maria. cuz yea - eh, feels gud... but is sadly christian name so thad makes me sad.... bt alsuu conveys a sense of.... purity which i like.,,.,

  • It’s a name that I saw online a handful of times and always thought was incredibly cool. Then came across it again recently trying to pick a name, while I was looking through related names, and it immediately became a top candidate. And it also works well in both German and English which is also something I wanted.

  • I new my name 7 years before I new I was trans, I already ordered stuff on that name and my whole online persona was built around it. I even named my cat that. Even before I was out to myself I listened to that name way better than my dead name.

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