I've ran into cis women on Grindr. My mom called them the super non-PC term "fag hags." That's the bad F word for those on Lemmy World cuz I'm pretty sure that word is censored on that instance.
Lemmy.world censors only “faggot” and the N word. Lemmy.ml censors “bitch” and various slurs. I believe their users can still see comments with these words in (?), though the censored words are removed if they post them themselves
Lemmy instances are able to censor words; it can’t be set per community. When viewing a comment from an instance that censors some word, that word will be replaced with “removed”. This applies to both comments sent by users of that instance, and comments sent by external users.
Bizarrely, the reason I’d asked the question at all is because your comment that I’d replied to was rendered as a top-level comment rather than a reply to another comment.
So I was wondering if, rather than individual words being censored, entire posts/comments were being hidden, but not replies to them.
I guess that’s actually just a bug or something, because I can see what you were replying to now.
I’ve had this experience of feeling like I’m not seeing the full thread / that someone is replying to something I can’t see a handful of times. It’s a weird one.
Well the first one has basically one meaning that's derogatory (including the definition of a bundle of sticks used for kindling; that's literally why it became a slur as it implies you want to burn them) while the three letter word is also slang for a cigarette in much of the world.
The 6-letter version means a bundle of sticks, or a stick, which is how it came to mean cigarette. The 3-letter version is an abbreviation of the 6-letter version. Both of them mean cigarette, and both of them are an anti-gay slur.
I’m no historian or etymologist but I saw one on YouTube once who said a very similar term was used for poor older women who supposedly went around hunched over all the time picking up sticks for firewood, and then was later transferred to homosexual men to imply they were weak, effeminate, outcast, etc
The non-offensive word I have seen used for a person who seeks out relationships with homosexual people despite being the opposite gender is “beard”. This is derived from the fact that it helps the male in the relationship present outwardly as a “real man” with a “normal relationship” in settings/societies where homosexuality is not considered acceptable to one degree or another. Also, sometimes homosexual couples of opposite genders will “beard” for each other in a mutually-beneficial dynamic.
edit: it seems spoiler text doesn’t work right on a lot of mobile apps, including voyager. Anyways: watch For All Mankind. It’s great.
I'm not sure they're actually the same thing tho. Beards are used by gay men to seem straight. The term my mom used was against the women who just had a fetish for gay men.
Yeah, a beard is a mutually beneficial arrangement. You won't see straight women trying to pick up gay men on Grindr because they want to be a beard. They'll be doing it because they fetishize turning them straight or whatever.
Also, sometimes homosexual couples of opposite genders will “beard” for each other in a mutually-beneficial dynamic.
My parents had some friends who did exactly this for Prom since every attendee was required to have an opposite-sex date. They met the requirement to go through the front door then promptly split and found their actual date for the night (or their friend group if they were single)